Overcoming Fear, Processing Failure, and Why Having a Plan B Holds You Back with Matt Higgins
Hello and welcome to another episode of All the Hacks, a show about upgrading your life,
money, and travel.
I'm Chris Hutchins and I started this show almost two years ago because I love doing
all the research to optimize every aspect of my life, and I wanted a way to share that
journey with you.
After the first dozen or so episodes, I knew this would be my full-time thing, but somehow
it took me another year and a half until I was ready to go all in.
Now, I am so glad that finally happened, but why did it take me so long to commit to something
I knew deep down inside I was ready for?
Well, that is exactly what we're going to talk about today, and I'm joined by the perfect
person for the conversation, Matt Higgins.
Matt grew up in poverty and dropped out of high school at the age of 16 before going
on to graduate from law school and then become the youngest press secretary in New York City
history during 9-11, where he led the effort to rebuild the World Trade Center site before
becoming the executive vice president of the New York Jets and then the vice chairman
of the Miami Dolphins.
Matt was also a guest shark on Shark Tank, he teaches at Harvard Business School, and
through the investment firm he co-founded, RSE Ventures, he's invested in some of America's
most beloved brands.
So what does all this have to do with me taking too long to go all in on this podcast?
Well, Matt just published an incredible book that I wish I had been able to read a year
ago where he shares his framework to stop hedging and unlock your full potential.
It's called Burn the Boats.
So today we're going to talk about why too many of us are driven by fear, why we wait
for the perfect moment to act, and why so often we subconsciously construct a safety net
or plan B that actually holds us back.
But we're not just going to talk about it.
We're going to lay out an actionable playbook to overcome all these hesitations and burn
your boats, as Matt says.
We'll also cover understanding your own motivations, overcoming fear, processing failure, managing
crises, asking the right questions, and a lot more.
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Matt, thanks for being here.
Thanks for having me.
I'm excited, Chris.
It's funny.
I read the front top cover of the book before I opened it, before I dug into it.
It's like, you can unleash your full potential.
There's a lot of books that cover topics like that, Awaken the Giant Within, Tony Robbins,
all this stuff.
What made you feel like we needed another book in here and what's going to set this story
apart?
That's a great question.
Well, big picture.
I don't think there are new ideas in the universe.
Mostly they've all been discovered, but there's new packaging.
And when I read a lot of business books on the subject, not disparaging anyone in particular,
I do feel like they're written like reference manuals, number one.
And by the third chapter, you basically got the crux of it.
They're very repetitive.
And that's not how people learn information.
I'm a storyteller by heart.
I was a journalist when I was a kid.
I know how to explain, articulate package stories.
And so I wanted to create a book that was very readable.
That was a business book, but masked as a memoir, masked as a riveting historical fiction journey
and sort of break the genre to some extent with the goal being you could read it from
beginning to end in one setting and be left with a feeling of infinite possibility.
So packaging to me, I think is actually very important.
Storytelling is very important.
And I've accumulated a lot of wisdom through a lot of heartbreak and a lot of incredible
opportunities and thought that I had something special to share.
I think you're selling two parts of this short.
I think the idea of there being this plan B that there are benefits from not having and
getting rid of, I think is a unique perspective I hadn't read before.
And so we're going to get into that.
And then I think the second, as you said, it's a business book.
I'm curious if this really is just for people running businesses wanting to start a business
because my perspective reading it was that it has a lot more broad applicability than
just being for business people.
Yeah, that's a good point.
Like it doesn't quite know what it wants to be, but I would argue that business is just
the tapestry or the canvas rather.
And that at the end of the day, it's really just about anybody, which is everybody looking
to unleash their potential.
I heard you say, this is for people who want to break out.
They feel like the universe has a lot more in store for them, but they keep finding obstacles.
So let's just jump in.
What do you think some of those common obstacles are that kind of hold people back from pushing
forward?
What I try to do with this book and how to my head the entire time is show, don't tell.
Like when I use that third person voice, Matthew, like you're at the center of the journey
too much here, you want to show and illustrate rather than tell on a lot of books, I think
just tend to lecture you.
And then therefore it doesn't quite stick.
So that's a way of saying the boat in my book historically is meant to be literally the
escape route.
That's how military strategists use it.
Burn the boats is literally burning your escape route.
In my case, the boat is meant to be a metaphor for all the things in our lives that hold us
back when we're at the threshold of doing something great, something uncomfortable.
And a lot of that has to do first with internal issues that aren't really discussed.
Certainly I feel like they're not discussed at my level enough.
And that's imposter syndrome.
In my case, it was shame.
The metaphorical boat that I needed to burn first was the shame I carried around from
the stigma of growing up in abject poverty and taking care of my mother who died when
I was 26, being a high school dropout, getting a GED.
There was all this shame that I carried that I didn't realize until life brought me to
my knees that even though I had achieved a pretty significant level of success at an
early age objectively.
I hadn't really scratched the surface of my potential until a bunch of things happened
in my life that brought me to my knees.
I was stripped away and we can get into this.
And then I realized, oh, you haven't really done anything yet, right?
Like any kind of self-work.
And so a lot of the issues that we need to do, the metaphorical boats for all of us,
are internal.
How does someone who maybe hasn't even thought about what those things that are holding them
back are, even begin to identify them?
Is there a process or questions you ask yourself to even start to understand that?
Yeah, I think self-awareness is the greatest arbitrage in the universe.
We're sort of taught that we should go to Barnes & Noble and buy my book or go on YouTube,
watch TED Talk.
And no one ever emphasizes like actually the greatest upside in ROI you can have is self-awareness
and reflecting what's going on inside you.
So the first question, even when I'm doing a deal and I find that a founder, CEO, entrepreneur
is help resistant, I try to identify what are you afraid of?
Like anyone out there listening, if you find it hard to assess your flaws or your failures
and reflect, the question I always say is like, what are you afraid of?
And the answer is usually fall into these different buckets and I'll just throw out
a few.
Usually it's stigma, it's some kind of judgment from a super authority, a parental figure
or a spouse or a friend group that if I acknowledge some type of shortcoming or even an aspiration,
I want to be a musician.
My dad's going to judge me.
There is something that's getting in the way of somebody being reflective of their dreams,
of their flaws.
And it's usually something that was prosthetically installed externally, long sentence.
But in other words, it's not that nature put it in there.
I think nature wires us to be reflective actually because it's a way to protect ourselves.
But nurture your friend group, those parental figures, those people in your lives, over
time they accumulate and they prevent you from wanting to look in.
So the number one exercise I go through with anyone when I'm establishing that rapport and
we're trying to establish a relationship or do a deal.
And I find that they under index for self awareness, I try to identify like, what are they afraid
to find out?
So let's say someone goes to this process, like, okay, one of the things for me I'll
share is the first two jobs I had out of college, I didn't like.
So I was convinced for probably a decade that I couldn't be happy and make money.
And so I was so afraid that I would either work a job I didn't like or have no money that
this entire optimization and savings journey really began from I need to find every way
I can to save as much money as possible.
So I don't have to rely on a job to be unhappy.
And over a decade as I managed to do that saving, I also managed to realize, oh, there
are other jobs, there are other things you can do with your life that will make you happy.
But it took me a lot of work trying to figure out why do I think that I couldn't make money
and be happy?
What is it?
So it actually came to me, but it's not sure I knew what to do with it for years.
So what does someone do if they identify the thing that is holding them back or the thing
they're afraid of and then what?
I don't know.
That's for them to figure out, Chris, I want to get a tattoo eventually.
Now I'm putting this out there in the world, but I can't find the words that are lasting
enough to want to imprint on my body.
If I had to settle right now, it would be to face everything.
If you just simply acknowledge the fact that if you face everything, including the thing
you identified as the thing holding you back, that is where.
So let me use myself as a case study.
When I say that life brought me to my knees, I had had cancer when I was 32 years old.
I had testicular cancer.
And when I was diagnosed, I talk about this in the book, my first reaction was concealment
that once people find out that I have cancer and I was worried about losing my right testical.
That's like a tremendous trauma to go through in 24 hours, right?
And I was actually more concerned about everybody around me was going to think I was weak.
And now is the time they're finally going to take Matt out.
I met my HR director on the corner of 57th Street because I didn't want anybody to see
me in the office so I could change my paperwork, my beneficiary, should I die.
And then two days later, I was like, how am I going to prove to everybody that I'm undefeated?
And I was running the New York Jets business at the time and there was a dinner with the
coaches.
And I decided to show up to that dinner.
You know, and sit down.
Everyone's looking at me.
It's cringy.
I saw my crotch, but I thought I was all tough and I raised a glass and did a toast.
I said, Hey, I want to tell everyone what my new motto is.
And I said, it's half the balls twice the man.
And I said, I just ordered dog tags, which I still have to this day.
I tell this story because in my twenties, that was like early thirties.
Wow, that's so tough.
Look what you're telegraphing, right?
It wasn't until later on when I got divorced and my whole identity kind of crumbled, right?
As this young kid who was able to do everything earlier, succeed earlier, you know, press,
press, press.
This was one thing I couldn't press through.
And it was a public shame that I needed to own.
That's how I saw it at the time.
But then I started re-apprasing everything saying, why did I go back to work two days
later after I had cancer and like was going to die?
And why have I been behaving like the houses on fire?
And I realized it's like I never warned the death of my mother.
And I never left that tiny apartment in Queens, you know, living in that roach motel with
no food with eviction notices on the door and con Edison about to turn off the power that
I had never stopped living in that state of hyper vigilance despite the fact that I ran
the New York Jets.
So what was I afraid to look at?
I was afraid to look at the pain and suffering of that effort to try to save my mother.
Once I had nothing left because my identity had been stripped and I had sort of gone into
a depression, right, to an extent that was I able to realize my behavior, right?
To look at it for what it was and that changed the entire course of my career.
So it's hard to say what you're specifically supposed to do, but I know what you're supposed
to do is look within.
And once you identify it is to face it and hug it and like embrace it like almost with
excitement when I realized your behavior makes no sense because you think you're being chased
when you're no longer being chased.
Once I realized the boogeyman wasn't behind me, then everything started changing about
my behavior.
And are there things in your routine or your daily life that you now do differently because
you're in this new state?
I mean, so many things.
Like let's just start as a leader back to that story I just told you about have the
boss twice a man.
Imagine you worked for me at that time and you were dealing with something in your life
and you needed some space to heal, to mourn, to recover.
But you know, the boss literally just had a surgery to remove a testicle on his back
of the office.
But that would tell you, a telegraph to everyone around you that unless you're in a state
as extreme as that, you better suck it up.
So to answer your question, I have done a 180 and then I try to create an environment
where people can surface the D issues they're dealing with because one, you make better
decisions and two, if people have space to be human, you get more out of them in the
end.
So that's one example.
And in my relationships, I tend to very quickly create space to be vulnerable and share details
that maybe can be a little shocking, but it's to open up the permission to do that.
But in every area of my life, I am constantly trying to refine my ability to be self-aware
and be unafraid about what I'm going to find.
I'm constantly auditing my motives.
Like, why am I doing this?
Even my own book, frankly, sometimes I say I wrote my book, so I'd read my book because
I'm like, wait, now I'm not on brand.
If I wrote it in a book, I got to like actually live to it or else is kind of embarrassing.
So my book is now my accountability partner.
I read every day when I stray from it.
Okay.
So you kind of talked about a little bit of what you need to do to evaluate yourself,
understand what might be holding you back.
If we look forward now, I know a lot of people who maybe they're not caught up in what's
holding them back, but they don't know where to go.
They know they are destined for something, but it's not that they're being held back.
It's that they haven't figured out what's their motivation?
What are they good at?
What could they leverage in their life or their skills to start a company, do something at
their current job?
Anything.
I know you talk a lot about this in the book, but what do you think people should do to
try to figure out where their path should go?
I have this dialogue with students oftentimes at Harvard Business School.
You would think top of the world, right?
You've made it.
You're at Harvard Business School.
Your life has been de-risk.
You'll always have a six figure job.
And yet I find even at that level, people can sometimes be totally lost.
And it's because they're asking themselves the wrong question.
They're asking the question of what do I want to do as opposed to who I want to be.
So I go through this discovery exercise with everybody I meet and I say, when you imagine
yourself the happiest, are you a creator or are you an executor?
You know what I mean?
When you imagine the environment that you thrive in, are you alone at a desk or are you
in an office?
Who do I want to be and how do I want to spend my time questions?
Are way more important than what do I want to be?
I want to be a lawyer.
I want to be a pro.
I actually think we should be spending way more time meditating about context, environment,
the cues that tell you a little bit more about yourself, right?
For example, in this exercise, it's in the book, I was talking to a student trying to
figure out what they want to be.
And then in the series of questions, she had said, actually, I want to be the one who
enables a brilliant visionary, but I don't think I have it in me.
So I want to be the one who uses my hard skills to make somebody's dream come true.
And I said, okay, we can work with that.
Well, what kind of context do you enjoy being in?
And she said, my name is Rachel.
Well, I love the beauty industry.
And I'd love to end up there.
I said, oh, well, as luck would have it, I'm good friends with Bobby Brown.
Bobby Brown admittedly hates math.
And she's about to launch this new company called Jones Road and finally go out on her
own.
And she needs somebody, a quant and to help her with that.
And I picked up the phone, put it on the table and I said, if Bobby Brown answers right
now, this is what's meant to be.
She did.
And fast forward, Rachel ended up working for Bobby Brown and launching her new brand.
So I just say that as an illustration about what happens when you shift the questions to
where do you want to work?
What company to who do you want to be?
And I go through that in the book too, these kinds of questions that help you identify
who you are as a person.
I mentioned that some people might not know where they want to go.
And you mentioned a couple of things I could talk about.
You have an exercise in the book that I think people should buy and take no matter where
you are in your career.
What about when someone has an idea of what they should do?
And this is kind of going to bring it back to the title of the book.
Yep.
You know, they're kind of wavering.
For me, I started this podcast and when I did, I kind of put one toe in the water and
said, let's see if there's eight episodes.
Let's run it for a year before I kind of really jump into it.
I think this is one of the biggest themes titled the book.
So obviously it's one of the biggest things.
But how do people really get the buy in and commitment in themselves?
And what's kind of the research say about the way you plan and the impact it can have
on the outcome?
Yeah.
When I meet someone or a business owner, a founder who the business is either failing
or in some respects, it's failing them emotionally because it no longer satisfies their soul few
years in.
And I do the postmortem about like, how did we get here?
What I often find it's because they refuse to ask the right questions at the beginning
of the journey.
And there's a few reasons why when we have a great idea at three o'clock in the morning,
most people are so excited that they've had something that's stirred them, especially
if they're in a bad situation, that they are then afraid to subject that idea to scrutiny
because we also aren't taught to focus on opportunity costs, especially if we don't value
ourselves enough.
We don't want to talk about opportunity costs, we instead focus on how do I implement this
idea?
And I think that's how most people find themselves in a bad position.
So I do the opposite, right?
I totally focus when I have a big idea on opportunity cost.
I try to project Matt Higgins three years from now and ask whether this idea is big enough,
interesting enough, valuable enough to sustain me three years from now.
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It's a little bit like real estate brokers will always tell you there's always a better
house coming on the market next week.
The same is true with somebody who is an idea factory.
So don't be afraid to rule out your own idea.
And two, I go through the exercise of opportunity cost.
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I'm out of this situation.
And the reason why that's so important is most people make relative decisions to the
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And same thing with a job.
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And you mentioned the idea of just leaving a job for another job.
So to go back to the, this isn't just about running a business, this isn't just about
being a founder, ideas that came to my mind were deciding to quit your job to do something
totally different.
It isn't starting a company.
Are there ways that you think people can process those big decisions and think about
the things holding them back?
So let's say we've identified, okay, I'm not just trying to escape this job I don't
like.
I've really found a thing I think I'm passionate about.
I went through this myself over the course of 18 months with this podcast, but I think
there are a lot of people out there who they have the idea.
They're not being pushed away as much as they are being pulled, but they're just scared
or there's fear about going all in.
Let's talk about going all in.
Let's talk about burning the boat.
Let's talk about why maybe going slow or having a plan B isn't actually helping you.
Yeah, so we have our idea.
We've done our exercise.
We've pressure tested, opportunity costs.
It's an idea worth pursuing.
We're ready to go.
And then we get stuck.
So what are the reasons people often get stuck?
Obviously one is fear.
When people sometimes hear about the title, my book, Burn the Boats, they presume I mean
reckless abandon, but the book would be called Burn the Boats with you in it and it's not.
So I am one of the most paranoid risk takers you're ever going to meet, but how you synthesize
risk and fear is everything when it comes to planning.
So what do I mean by that?
That those who are able to fully commit to their own dreams and ambition have done the
work to process the worst case scenario at the outset.
So I am always going through the following exercise when I have a big idea that I want
to go all in on.
And that is one, what's the worst possible thing that could happen if this does not work
out?
First question I ask, what would I do if the worst thing that could possibly happen
happened?
How would I mitigate it?
I have never asked myself that question and never had an answer to mitigate that is entirely
within my control.
So what I find is mostly the reasons are not practical, they have to do with judgment and
fear of being judged or fear of being embarrassed, but to the extent to which it's I started
a new job and it ended up being out of my depth.
That was my plan A.
You know, you could always book, I'll just go back and get that other job because we're
primal creatures.
We are already equipped with the ability to defend ourselves when our planet don't work
out, but unless we pressure test that at the beginning, then the third question I ask,
what's the probability that the worst case scenario will materialize?
Probably the probability is actually very low because we catastrophize, you pressure test
it.
And then the fourth question I ask is, what would I be willing to do to have that plan
A?
What would I be willing to endure to end up having that work out?
So in the case of Harvard, when I taught at Harvard Business School, which was very uncomfortable
to me, I'd never been in a classroom before, but I wanted this so desperately.
The idea that I had performed well at Harvard and had left these kids with something that
was five times more valuable than their tuition, which was the objective I set.
I was like, I would walk on glass to succeed.
I would subject myself to endless ridicule, public scorn.
I would come within an inch of my life to achieve.
That's how much it mattered to me.
And when I pressure test through those four questions through that synthesizing risk, I
was like, it's a no brainer to go all in.
So why does it matter?
Why does that decision matter?
Because when we are pursuing really hard things that take a long time, you're going
to take incoming external and internal, the voice in your head, people around you that
are going to make you want to turn back.
So if you haven't already processed risk, you don't remember.
And because you've done it at the beginning of the journey, like, wait a minute, I already
asked myself how I would handle if this didn't work out.
And I'm okay with it.
It's the memory that you went through that risk synthesis operation exercise rather that
sustains you.
Let's talk about a little bit what plan B means.
Sometimes people think plan B means risk mitigation.
But I already said plan A incorporates risk mitigation.
You've already gone through what plan B and what the science shows is plan B is not about
de-risking anything.
Plan B is a way for you to achieve your subordinate goal.
So let's use it anyone out there listening who wants to be a musician, but they have
a crappy job that they hate.
But you're like, you know what?
My dad always said I shouldn't be a musician, but I don't care.
I'm going to tell him to FM and I'm going to go ahead and I'm going to be a musician.
I'm going to work really hard until I get on that band.
However, if it doesn't work out, I do have a plan B. I'm going to go work a Bob's record
store because I'm always perusing the aisles and he thinks I'm really smart.
That's your subordinate goal, which is to get a job different than the one you have,
right?
In the music sector, but very different being a musician than working in Bob's record store.
And what the study and the science shows is that plan B is actually an alternative way
for you to relieve the pain and discomfort of pursuing your goals.
So there are two ways to get that done.
I can either win, succeed on plan A, or I can go for my lesser subordinate goal, which
is going to leave me unhappy.
And then the last piece of interesting research that came out of Wharton in 2014 was they
found that just the mere contemplation of having a plan B, Bob's record store, is enough
to ensure you will never be a musician.
Just thinking about it.
And what they also found in the research, just having that insidious thought of working
in that record store is going to dramatically reduce your desire to ever be a musician.
So it's two things.
You won't succeed and you won't care as much anymore.
That was a lot to unpack, Chris.
Yeah, I'm just thinking like it's hard for some people, especially maybe someone like
myself where I'm like always thinking about all the outcomes, all the options to not have
a plan B, but is having a plan B different than knowing that a plan B exists?
There is.
I love that you said that.
That's such a smart way to put it.
Having a plan B is very different than the piece of knowing a plan B is out there for
you.
And you don't need to return to it because you've already at the beginning of the journey
in pursuit of plan A identified what it is.
It does not need to be crystallized because you'll know you'll get a job somewhere, not
Bob's particularly.
But if I'm having dinner with a friend and I'm like, I'm going all in, I'm becoming
a musician.
And they're like, yeah, if it doesn't work out, you could just go work at Bob's records.
And it's like, oh, well, now that I know that's an option, I assume it wouldn't be fair to
say I can never become a musician again because I've now heard that there is a thing or is
it more when you start to say, okay, yeah, that guy, he's right.
I could just do this.
That's going to be fine.
I'm trying to think how do you as an optimizer thinking through all the options still make
sure you aren't putting your primary goal at risk by just thinking about them?
Well, it's a great question.
And so studies showed when you did introduce the idea of thinking about, I think the difference
is all about sequencing.
If you had that dinner with your buddy who was a little skeptical, like, Hey, Chris, you're
kind of delusional.
You sort of suck too.
Your guitar playing isn't any good, unlikely, right?
If you had yet to do what I said at the beginning of this conversation and have that risk synthesis
process, right, that would have been the first time that somebody was now intruding into your
thoughts and then you get defensive like, well, I could always go work at Bob's, right?
But if you had already done the beginning, like you're not even hearing it, like it does
not matter.
You're fearless and you're impervious because you already are self-contained.
I already know what I'm going to do.
And I don't care what you say.
You know what I mean?
It's not registering.
But if you hadn't already done that work on plan A, if it wasn't part of your plan A,
you would be susceptible to it.
So this can sound like semantics, but I'm 100% convinced it's not semantics because
the research shows it.
But you asked a great question is how to delineate between having already once thought
through it versus having it at the table while you're going after plan A.
I'll give it to you in a practical setting.
There's some stuff I put in this book that I can't read that I cringe at.
It's so deeply personal.
A couple of weeks before it got published, I was going for a walk and I was having a
low serotonin moment.
And I repeated on me like, why did I put that in the book?
Why did I put that in the book?
Should I go change it?
And then I was like, wait a second.
We already went through this mat at the beginning of the journey.
You put it in the book because you're pretty sure somebody out there who's reading it right
now is depressed and hopeless.
And they're going to read between the lines of what you wrote in that sentence.
And it may change the trajectory of their life.
You've already made the decision.
That's the difference.
And then I've already gone through all right.
So it gets published and amplified in ways that I didn't really intend.
Like I'll live with it.
But the benefit of helping somebody out there read that sentence is worth it.
So again, nuance, but not semantics.
And when I think about this idea of, okay, go all in on this thing.
You can be impervious to the feedback that maybe it won't work because you've committed.
You've metaphorically burnt your boat.
Does that necessarily mean you have to commit to the full goal all at once?
Or I'll give a concrete example that we talked about for two minutes before we got started
was I have this vision and this is the first time I think I'm sharing it on the podcast.
So it's kind of fun.
There's AARP.
This thing that everyone knows all my parents are retired.
They joined this organization and they have all these great things and they've created
a community of reasons that you would join a membership program for something.
I don't see something like that for the millennial who likes experiences.
They're not going to join AARP though I haven't in the past said you can for deals.
Even as a not old person retired, you could join.
But I thought, oh, what if I start something that could be a valuable membership that I
hope people get value out of related to all the hacks.
So it's an idea I have.
I haven't gone all in on it yet.
Right.
I haven't even said I'm going to do it until right now.
But do I need to commit to this is going to be a massive thing to effectively burn the
boat or could I say, hey, I'm thinking of starting this.
Now I've at least created some of public accountability or maybe I create it and I say, here's where
you can sign up.
I haven't built it all out to everything everyone might want.
Maybe only a handful of you listening want to join with a few aspects of it.
How much do you have to commit to your grand vision to have burnt your boat, so to speak?
Well, I would argue that everything you just said is not your plan a yet because you're
still in the formation phase.
So I think we get to define when it becomes a plan a it's about crossing the thresholds
of saying I am going to do everything I can to manifest this and you and the language
you've used are not there yet.
It's all about our personal comfort level with risk and commitment and where it ranks
with you are the priorities.
So we are allowed to play and toy and the book I talk about this I go pretty far down
the road before I decide whether this is the thing and I don't mind having goals that
are in parallel and sometimes in conflict, right?
I became a lawyer who goes to law school gets an offer from scattered arms, you know,
and and then I'm like, no, I don't want to be a lawyer and then I never even took the
bar exam plan a and burning the boats is not about like dogmatic rigid forcing yourself
to like fully commit to everything that comes into your head.
It's when you've decided, Chris, that you're doing this membership program, which by the
way is a great idea and I'll sign up right now without even knowing a single benefit
because the way you hack everything feels valuable to me.
This conversation is already fun.
So you know, I'm all in already.
Hopefully that escalates your commitment, but it is not your plan a yet.
So it doesn't matter.
I've already decided I've burnt the boat.
I'm all in on all the hacks, right?
Like it's my full time thing, I left my company job, everything.
This is it.
Do you actually need to burn the boats on all the small projects in your life and commit
to a plan A or is it really more a higher order thing for one or two projects in your
life, your professional career, your relationships?
How do I think about it on that spectrum?
I actually don't render an opinion on the number of plan A's we can have because I think
the joy of living, at least as I've identified it is in the perpetual pursuit of these growth
opportunities that stretch me, that make me uncomfortable and they tend to be operating
simultaneously.
What I do though is I try to consolidate my gains because if I'm jumping from thing to
thing and then I look behind me and I see a sea of unfinished projects and a lot of
hurt people who were like, Matt, where'd you go?
You were so into this a year ago, that begins to chip away at my self esteem, right?
I'm not proud of my behavior.
So I try to hold myself accountable to scaling and optimizing.
Things get easier the third, fourth time you do it, but I don't think it matters how many
plan A's you have.
It's really about once it becomes a plan A, how do you increase the likelihood you will
be successful?
That's all my book is about.
How do I put the odds in your favor?
Once you've identified this thing as a plan A, not your only plan A, but a plan A, you can
have 17 plan A's, just zero plan B's.
I'm having this conversation in my head of whether the mere existence of multiple plan
A's is plan B's.
I gave you the framework before.
This is a fun question.
A plan B is by definition a way to achieve the subordinate goal of plan A. So that's
how it becomes a plan B. That's why the musician and Bob's record store is a perfect way because
both give him a new job, but they're very different.
So as long as you're 17 or your membership club, your podcast, they're like very hard
things that require total utter commitment.
For me, I think I try to have a few number of things because I just personally can't manage
lots of projects at once, which goes back to something you said in the book you talk
about how to figure out what you're good at and accept that you're not good at everything.
It took me a lot of time to process this and I'll shout out my time at Wealthfront as a
product manager.
I realized there are parts of being a product manager that I'm just not good at.
And I realized that not as early, but early enough.
And I think it's hard for people.
So I'm curious if you have any tactics for people to realize it and accept it because
I think it's so easy to assume that if you're good at something, you can be good at everything.
And you know, it's very hard to be self critical, but I guess both.
How can you find it?
And maybe what are some things you could say to encourage people that learning the things
you're not good at is actually a valuable thing to learn.
There's a concept in land use and zoning that relates to property.
And it's to ensure that property is always put to its best use based on the current context.
So it's called highest and best use to make that less abstract.
A warehouse in Tribeca in 1920, the highest and best use of that warehouse was as a slaughterhouse.
And 2020 Taylor Swift is hanging out there with her private elevator, right?
Like the property changes.
I look at myself like a piece of property that is always changing due to its context,
the context is not external.
It's internal.
I am an amalgam of all the things I've accomplished prior to today.
Oh, well, now I'm a guy who was on Shark Tank.
I know how to do TV.
Now I'm a person who teaches at Harvard Business School.
I know how to teach.
Now I wrote a book.
Now I'm an author.
I have things to say.
I ask myself every single week, sometimes every day, what is the highest and best use
of Matt Higgins now that he has accomplished whatever it is he did yesterday, whatever it
is I've now achieved through my trauma.
Part of the highest and best use of me now is to share painful things that some people
don't talk about because that's very valuable by focusing on the affirmative and asking yourself,
anybody listening right now, what's the highest and best use of you?
Rather than be a negative of saying you begin to call the herd of opportunity and say like,
well, I mean, I could do Excel, but I'm not that good at it.
And by the way, why do I want to be and say, right?
I'm a good communicator and I can synthesize complicated information and I could operate
a company, but it's not the highest and best use of Matt Higgins is to operate a company
with 200 people even though I've done it before.
So I don't know why people are afraid of this.
Like, why do you want to be good at everything?
Don't you want to be great at a few things?
But besides, if you ask the question I just gave you, the answer will lead you to where
you should be spending your energy and you don't have to make a value judgment.
There's no value in the statement I just gave about the highest and best use.
It just is true.
That's my number one piece of advice.
Sounds like stop reframing.
What am I not good at and just focus on what you're great at?
Yeah.
And now as I say this and you bring up a great point, I find it's one of the hardest things
for founders to accept is those limitations because they don't know what it means to be
a CEO, right?
When you're a founder, you suddenly go from an idea creator to an implementer to a capital
convener and then all of a sudden you run an operating business.
So you believe that being a good CEO, good founder is having the capacity to run an operating
business and do everything.
And they don't realize that actually being a good founder, good CEO is the ability to
identify talent that's better than you at each position and to render yourself obsolete,
wherever you possibly can.
But I find a lot of people struggle with this from an identity standpoint.
They feel like they need to be good at it only because no one gave them an alternative
definition.
Or even in the non-founder CEO world, I find that people often think that there's a prescribed
path.
You do a job, you do it well, and then you manage people doing it.
And I have met countless people that have realized that the best use of their time is
not managing other people.
And other people similarly are phenomenal at it, even if they aren't a master of the
skill of their industry or whatever the people that they manage to.
So if you're a designer, you might not be the best designer in the world, but you could
actually be the best design manager.
I find a lot of people feel whatever reason they want to be branded like an operator.
They're insecure about not being an operator, which fundamentally being an operator or
managing people is being a very good therapist.
And a lot of people don't have the patience or the EQ to be a therapist.
And so therefore you're probably not going to be a very good operator because it requires
so much time and patience to get the most out of people.
But I find that scenario a lot, people just get insecure about not being like an operator,
an executor.
Interesting.
I find that so many people think that management is the next step.
I'm excited when I hear stories of people that realize that wasn't the case and what
they did.
And Google was one of the few companies that created alternative track for someone to just
be very senior, very highly compensated, but not be a manager.
And I see that trend picking up at least at a lot of companies in Silicon Valley.
And I hope that continues to permeate itself through all industries.
It's possible to separate influence and authority from like command control responsibility.
And it makes sense because most people are very bad managers.
So it makes sense that not everybody was born to be a manager.
So while we're on the topic of things that we might not be good at, let's put that aside.
But let's talk about when things don't go right.
When you do fail, are there things that people should be doing?
Because look, once you've committed to a planet, you've burned the boats, you're on the way.
It's inevitable that things will go wrong along the way.
Talk about the fear to get started, the fear to commit.
But what about the challenges that come along the way, processing those failures?
You want to be a musician, you decide to go all in, you do your first gig, no one shows
up.
It's a disaster.
You advise someone to process that failure and continue pushing forward or maybe understand
when they shouldn't.
Yeah.
It's been a reason why I wrote this book because I have seen throughout my life the same fact
pattern play over and over again, which I don't quite understand why the universe is
wired this way.
But the act of persistence is a tremendous predictor of future success.
The mere act of persisting and surviving another day will ultimately beget success, which doesn't
make any sense.
What do you mean I just stay around another day?
I just push through and then eventually I get what I want.
But the answer is it's true.
And so I talk in the book about the most successful people I've seen would break through success.
If I try to discern like, what's the common fact pattern here?
Come from all sorts of different fields, different walks of life.
The common fact pattern I see is when they face a setback, they simply expand the definition
of what success looks like to accommodate that particular setback.
It sounds almost delusional.
It's like, I'm so glad that didn't work out because I never would have hired Bill and now
that Bill's here, I'm going to make a billion dollars.
And yet when they have a win, it enhances their self-esteem.
So what's the point of saying that it's very important how we process failure?
One except the fact that the goal is to continue is to survive.
So how do I survive?
How do I keep going?
And the number one thing you need to do to survive is to preserve your sense of self-worth.
It's something we don't focus on, but your number one objective when you have a setback
is to ensure that particular failure does not become enmeshed with your permanent identity.
So number one, my process is I acknowledge that I failed.
So I remain intellectually honest.
Also by acknowledging it verbally and otherwise, it loses its power over you.
The fear of even acknowledging it is the thing that kind of has half the battle and being
able to be like, yeah, I failed, whatever.
But then number two, I am not a failure.
Like I just refuse to be identified.
And that's the point I made about these outrageously successful people.
It's like it just does not penetrate their reality distortion field.
So number two, I'm not a failure.
Three, but what is a failure trying to teach me?
How do I extract maximum value from this failure back to my point about survival and persistence?
In the failure is the answers to your future persistence, your survival.
And you have to mine it and sit with it for a bit.
And then the fourth piece is to never look at it again.
Once you've extracted value and I'm not great at that.
And again, I wrote my book, so I read my book.
So anybody here saying, wow, that's great.
But I can't do it.
Understand that I struggle with this too.
But I know it's true.
So while I struggle with it, I remind myself that is the way to do it.
But those four simple, easy steps and then go forward back to our point about the musician.
Like when should he give up?
The answer is like never.
It's just like find a different way.
Find a different way to be in the band.
Maybe you're not the lead guitarist, but you're in the damn band, you know what I mean?
And just like never stop.
It doesn't mean never iterate, never course correct.
That's like you have to do those things, but just never stop.
And that's why it's so important to have this plan A construct and to accept the idea of
the way you're going to get what you want is to not have the plan B and to have processed
the risk at the beginning of the journey because the way to be ultimately successful in life
is to never give up.
I know it sounds so corny and it's in all the books, but there's a reason there are cliches,
right?
Because they tend to be true.
You just don't stop.
I have a specific anecdote from researching podcasting, which is someone always asks like,
how do you be a top podcast?
And I was like, well, I have one piece of advice that's very easy.
There are 4 million podcasts.
And if you filter the 4 million down by podcasts that have done more than 10 episodes ever
and have published in the last 10 days, you delete 96% of podcasts.
So it's like, if you want to be in the top 5% of all podcasts that have been created,
not the top 5% that are active, but of all, you literally just have to produce 10 episodes
and keep going.
And that's it.
So you're not wrong.
We don't want to accept that for some reason.
I don't know why.
I mean, because it's really hard.
And there are moments like I'm going through something right now.
There's always moments when I think that can't possibly be true.
I can't be that if I just stay the course and continue to make course corrections and
refinements that ultimately I'm going to get what I want.
And no matter what, despite everything I'm saying right now, it gets bleak for me.
And I cannot believe that statement is true.
And yet I just force myself to believe it.
And in the end, it is always true.
It's just I don't know how it's going to play out.
In my book, when you open my book, anybody out there who reads it, that'll tell you just
a funny story, I did a $200 million spacer in a pandemic.
I knew that the industry would probably turn, but I thought I could do a great deal and I
could get it done.
And I would learn public markets and maybe I could outrun the timing and I could just
show how it could be done better.
Long story short.
So that was the opening of my book.
And in doing my spec, I had to will every part of this to existence, including the IPO,
I IPO'd at the height of COVID and it almost fell apart.
And I had to just stay up all night and to get it done.
I didn't feel good, but I just kept working through it.
I rang the bell the next day.
Within two days, I had double pneumonia and my assimeter, the oxygen was dropping.
I'm like, wow, now I may die because I did this, but I got it done.
And then I got a deal done and on and on and on.
And then ultimately the market turned in the spec fell apart.
That was the beginning of my book.
Okay.
I'm going to have to acknowledge a little failure in the beginning.
But the good thing is I have my TV show.
I have a shark tank spin off.
I'm going to open the book about my shark tank spin off and tell everybody how I'm partnering
with Mark Burnett.
I'm leveling up.
It's the whole premise of my book.
I'm going to get that done.
So I write that and then the TV show gets canceled before it ever airs.
My editor is like, I think we got to rewrite the beginning of the book.
And I'm like, no, I think that's the point of the book.
They're like, this is how it goes.
And you know what?
When we look back, if I did a podcast with you three years from now, I guarantee you there's
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public.
And two, my TV experience is going to result in the next iteration of shark tank that I
created.
It's just the way the universe works.
But when you're in the middle of it and it's bleak, sometimes it doesn't all doesn't make
sense, which is why you need the faith.
But if you just burn the boats, it's going to play out in your favor.
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And how do you go up against this as what you said a paranoid risk taker?
You're seeing all these things fall apart.
Sorry about that.
Thanks.
I'm just trying to practice what I preach and model what it looks like.
But how does being a paranoid risk taker play into all of this?
I spent a lot of time agonizing of whether I should or should not do this back.
All the things to play out.
Exactly what played out was on the list.
So I was able to go all in on Plan A. Plan A is not a delusional belief that you're going
to get what you're entitled to.
It's the utter commitment to the goal.
The only way that spec had any shot of becoming an IPO or getting a deal done is if I had
fully committed to it.
If I had an ounce of plan B as I was going it, I wouldn't have gotten as far as I would
have gotten.
And the same thing with the TV show, it wouldn't even gotten remotely close.
So as a paranoid risk taker, it's especially important for me to have processed all the
risk at the beginning of the journey because then I would have these intrusive thoughts
that never would have enabled me to get it done.
They're not at all mutually exclusive.
It's actually more important for a risk adverse person to do what I'm saying and to go through
that exercise and process everything.
Because when I was taking on water through both of those experiences, I kept remembering
like, you've gone through this, you knew this could happen.
Attack, like keep going forward.
And don't be afraid.
You already know you have the tools necessary to handle whatever happens.
Earlier in the conversation, you talked about goal setting.
You've just walked through some big projects you worked on.
Is there a framework you use to set goals in your personal or professional life?
Yes.
I think if you're going to commit to a life of perpetual pursuit of bigger and bigger
opportunities and you're going to put yourself in uncomfortable positions, you could find
yourself drowning or overwhelmed or have taken on way too much.
So I always say, this also helps me with processing risk and going on all in on plan A.
I believe it's important to identify what can I not live without, right?
If I lost everything, what do I absolutely need to maintain in order to have a degree
of peace and happiness?
And as you become more successful, your relationship with risk actually increases because you have
more to lose.
You get more afraid to take bigger swings.
I find this with colleagues all the time like, well, now I have the big job and the big salary.
Now I'm even more afraid to take on risk.
And so I think it's actually very important to define your needs as narrowly as possible.
The more successful you become and then try to let that base case not change.
So I draw a hard line of boundaries around my kids, my spouse is my best friend, a few
basic things that I need.
We're always saying like, what's the smallest department we could live in?
So I'm not afraid of everything going to crap.
And so that's how I set objectives.
And when I feel like I've taken on a lot, that's something may fail.
Then I'm always like, well, it doesn't matter because I know what I need.
If everything were to go to hell.
And I think people don't do that.
People don't ask like, what's the minimum they focus more on what they want?
What could they live with if they don't get what they want or what they have is taken
away from them?
You talked about things going wrong.
You've had experiences in your life that have dealt with all kinds of crises from the
biggest stage to lots of business operational things.
Maybe talk a little bit about your experience dealing with big crises and how you manage
that both internally and externally.
Yeah.
For those who don't know, I was the press secretary to the mayor of New York on September 11th,
2001, and then I went and helped oversee the rebuilding of the World Trade Center as chief
operating officer.
So I spent two years at ground zero from the moment that first plane struck the tower.
And so the most extraordinary, complicated and gut-wrenching crisis, maybe an American
history.
And my first takeaway that I learned from that experience was how showing up is half
of everything and how people get that wrong.
They get the wrong in every context, right?
CEOs, leaders, you flail.
But most people are looking for just symbolically and actually for you to show up and identify
that you're here, that you're in charge.
So whatever situation I find myself in, even in a personal crisis, I say, am I showing
up and showing up personally means am I facing the thing that is the crisis, right?
Back to my earlier statement, if I had one tattoo, it would be face everything.
So showing up is number one.
Number two is back to what's the worst possible thing that could happen in this crisis and
how an idea, whether to if it played out and what's the likelihood of that playing out?
I asked myself those same questions when I'm in a crisis.
And then three, I look for the silver lining very early.
This law of physics that every action has an equal and opposite reaction is very much
on display in a crisis.
No matter what happens in this world, when there is a crisis and something bad happens,
a portal is going to open up to a parallel universe where something good is happening
as a result.
Sometimes when that involves pain and suffering, it's very hard to accept and you have to
just wait for that to materialize.
But when life or death is not on the line, you should give yourself permission to say,
okay, I just lost my job, which is a big crisis.
But what's the portal that just opened up to a parallel universe?
Oh, well, I have nothing to lose.
Now I'm willing to go all in on being that musician, my plan A, right?
Now I don't have to settle anymore for Bob's record store.
And so I do think, again, not in life or death situations, but every time I have a crisis,
I get excited by what's the portal, where am I going?
What's going to happen in my life as a result of what just happened?
And there's another way to say it.
Rahm Emanuel said it, Merriff, Chicago, never let a crisis go to waste, but it's another
way of saying what I'm saying.
But I do talk in a book too about one of the interesting things when you look about crisis
and sometimes you assess how you performed.
And if you admire how you performed, often the reason is because you had clarity of decision
making and you act decisively because you had few choices.
A lot of my book is about how do you migrate the benefits of crisis decision making in
times of peace so that no one wants to have cortisol flowing through their stomach in
order to behave effectively.
But there is something to be said for the clarity of crisis decision making and applying
it to everyday life.
It brings up a good question.
Let's take someone who's at a job.
They don't love it.
They're trying to figure out what to do next.
Do you think the average person is spending too much time trying to make that decision
or too little?
I think the average person is spending too much time looking to settle to escape the
pain of the current situation and none of time believing that the right situation is
out there and confidently pursuing it.
I think the same is true of relationships too.
We want to relieve the pain of the status quo and therefore we settle and not enough
time trying to identify what's the right situation.
So we tend to repeat the same bad patterns.
I believe most people fall into that trap and that's because you don't value yourself
enough.
You know, either believe the right situation isn't out there or you believe you don't
deserve it, especially true in personal relationships.
You just like don't know or you don't think you're worthy.
Well, on the professional side, I feel quite amped right now.
I already did the plan A went all in on the macro idea of what I'm building here, but
I'm ready to start.
You already got your first customer right here and it was effortless and your acquisition
cost was zero.
Just to be clear, I have had two listeners or readers use this feature on the newsletter.
I think both of them said, I'll pay $100 a year for a membership.
You just have to build it.
So technically, Matt, unfortunately you are customer three.
Huge shout out to customers one and two.
Chris, I have news for you.
I'm willing to pay 400 for the premium membership.
Okay.
So I am technically still the first premium member as I have told myself.
Here too.
See, this is what happens when we commit to plan A publicly on a podcast.
So I'm excited to do that.
I guess I should probably commit myself to this even further and say, if you go to all
the hacks.com slash join, I'm going to put up a page where anyone listening, I'm going
to can join a membership that I will create.
And the one thing that I will commit to having in it now, there's not a lot of features is
I'm going to do it once a month.
Call just for members, zoom call, you can join ask anything.
We can talk about anything.
I'm not going to record it.
I'm not going to put it out to everyone.
We'll at least do that.
The goal in the long run is to build a real membership to have perks and benefits.
I have some crazy ideas on travel.
I'll talk about them in that first zoom call.
But if you go to that page, I will set something up by the time this airs.
But can we use this as a case study though?
Because one thing we didn't get into something I talked into my book about the loneliness
of being on the bleeding edge and what happens when you have a revelation or an epiphany like
you've had with this membership idea, which I think is fantastic.
But let's say I was neutral.
What happens is the relationship between the magnitude of an opportunity and the amount
of data there is to support it is inverse, which makes sense, right?
If you have a really great idea and I only use C because you're so early, there's not
going to be any data out there to support it.
And two, if you rely on your friend group or family group or whatever to validate it,
they're not going to be able to see what you see because you're epiphany.
At the same time, those are actually confirmatory that it's a big opportunity unless you're
crazy or delusional because only you are putting the pieces together.
And I think what happens is oftentimes where people sit where you sit, wait a second, why
is there only a ARP?
There should be a membership group.
What is it about being 65 that makes you want to belong things?
That's not true.
I would love a group where I get benefits, right?
What happens a lot of times, Chris, is now a person will road test it with their peer
group or their friend group.
And if they've surrounded themselves with people who are risk adverse or maybe they
don't have their best interests at heart, the idea dies with those groups.
So I talk in my book a lot about make sure that when you have a nascent idea that you
want cradle it, but to consult agendalist supporters or what I call pragmatic optimists,
people who are wired to be optimistic, but pragmatic so they can give you real data.
But it's really important to sit with this idea that like when you have a big opportunity,
a big idea, there isn't going to be the data or the affirmation that's supported in the
early days.
And don't let it die at that point because the best innovations in life are gut sandwiches.
They began with intuition like you just had a little bit of data, ARP, the thing exists,
but you're going to launch this based on intuition and my early membership fee of $400.
Last point on this because Chris is about to start this journey.
My number one advice to you is opportunity arrives before the tipping point of evidence.
So don't be afraid.
If you trust your instincts and your intuition, if it's a great idea, you'll figure it out.
The same way Chris is going to figure out with his new membership group.
Do we have a name?
I mean, the whole thing's under all the hacks.
So it's going to be there.
We'll see where it evolves.
I have ideas of everyone joining can be a sub-agent of a travel agency.
People are going to be able to build this with me.
One other thing I'll add is a feature.
I'm going to float to all members, the upcoming guests.
You would have gotten a message that Matt's coming on.
We're going to talk about this.
I'm going to let you guys also be a part in what should we talk about with this person,
what topic should we discuss.
So I'm going to bring you in as members to part of what we're building.
So there's a feature ad right now for members of this already announced by the time you
hear it membership.
Exciting.
I can't wait.
All right.
Awesome.
We did some work today.
Love it.
So if anyone listening right now has a thing, whether it's a new career path, a new job,
a new thing, my strong recommendation is to check out the book and maybe you can burn
your own boat like I just did on this episode.
We're all in on a membership.
We'll see where it goes.
Where can people find anything about what you're working on?
I know you've got some cool bonuses on the book online.
Where should people go?
Yeah, I have a website, burntheboatsbook.com.
I didn't spend a lot of time on LinkedIn.
So find me there.
If you read the book, I'd love to hear from you.
Feedback is amazing.
So Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Goodreads, wherever it is, you spend your time.
That would be great.
Also tells me which themes I should be building upon and expanding upon.
So thank you.
So leave a review for the book.
Just like I always ask everyone to leave a review for the podcast.
I know it's really important.
I will go leave you a review after this.
Thanks for being here.
Thank you.
I really hope you enjoyed this episode.
Thank you so much for listening.
If you haven't already left a rating and a review for the show in Apple Podcasts or Spotify,
I would really appreciate it.
And if you have any feedback on the show, questions for me or just want to say hi, I'm
Chris at AllTheHacks.com or at Hutchins on Twitter.
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I'll see you next week.
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