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Hi, Catherine.
Oh, hi, Chelsea.
Hi, everybody.
Welcome to a new episode of Dear Chelsea.
I have been getting a lot of sister advice.
I got a lot of sister action in my life.
A lot of sisters in my life, a lot of sisters asking for advice,
and a lot of sisters come to see me perform.
So I thought it would be kind of fun
to have my sisters on to dull out advice,
because my older sister Simone is who I go to for all my advice.
Shoshana, I also, Shana's more of like a love seat.
Like you go to her for a love and warm struggles.
Paying a ship.
Yeah, she's a lot like my mom.
And then my sister Simone is less emotional and more
practical.
And so I have both sides of the coin and my sisters.
That's the best way to be.
Yes, I feel very, very lucky.
Notice that I'm not mentioning how lucky I feel about my brothers.
But I do have a really sweet brother named Roy.
He is so sweet.
He's just a little, he's like a just a love muffin also.
But I'm not asking him for advice either.
I'm so excited that they're joining us.
I know it's very exciting.
So I want to give a warm welcome to both of my sisters, Simone and Shoshana.
Look, they're both here at the same time.
So serendipitous or an appointment.
Hello.
Hello, hello.
Simone, you look so professional.
I am a professional.
So I know, I know, I know.
All of fucking about it.
Hi, Catherine.
Nice to meet you.
Hi, likewise.
I'm so excited for today.
Shana.
We're getting to you, but not hear you yet.
This is what it's like to get a phone call from her.
Hi, girls.
Do we not get to meet Brad?
Brad, come say hi.
Brad, bring the dogs.
They got a brother and sister combo platter, just like Burton Bernice.
You did.
Pug puppies.
Two pugs?
Oh my God.
Yes.
The smush face.
And we have an older pug who's seven.
Nice.
Oh, they're the two dogs.
I say hi.
Hi.
Oh, look at them.
They are all.
They are making out with each other.
That's sweet when they kiss each other like that.
Those guys are cute.
OK, so to continue our family story, so Simone had her surgery, then I went.
So Shana got the rough of it because Simone was in bad shape for the first week.
Bad shape.
And then when I came on the scene, we turned a corner and I forced her into a physical
therapy regimen, a walking exercise regimen.
Post-spinal bootcamp is what I like to call it.
And then Shana was like, Chelsea, don't give her alcohol.
You know, you can't give her alcohol.
She's recovering.
And I was like, first of all, Oxycontin was made to be paired with alcohol.
So like, obviously, if you know anything about a medical procedure or recovery, you
want to make it as painless as possible.
That first margarito is delicious.
Yes, exactly.
And then she's like, and definitely don't give her edibles.
And of course, you know, three days in, I'm like, this is going to make you relax and
feel better.
So we had two different experiences.
But on the last day of our trip, Simone had a goal to walk across the Golden Gate Bridge.
Right?
And then we walked across the bridge we walked across, Moni?
Yeah.
Which was a lot less pleasant than we thought it was going to be.
Yeah.
Because you're basically on a bridge that feels like it's swaying back and forth.
While hundreds of cars are zooming past you.
I was like this.
And you can't talk because you can't hear anything.
So it's basically, it was like a march.
And we got to one side.
I was like, let's call an Uber.
She's like, let's just walk back.
I'm like, but why?
It's so unpleasant.
All I saw was a week that you were there was posts of margaritas and luncheons.
And I was like, what happened?
I mean, what did I miss?
You did get the raw end of the deal.
Shana thought they were going to bore a bore together.
She's like, when are we going to go paddle boarding?
Yeah.
Anyway, I left Simone in great stead.
So Shana is technically a registered nurse, but I'm a medical practitioner.
And I would like to say that even though everyone advises me against advising others of medicine,
I'm going to continue to do it because I feel like I know what I'm doing.
And I can tell by Simone's progress while I was there that I do know what I'm doing.
You were on CNN yesterday for that.
Did you see that?
No, for what?
I don't watch CNN anymore.
For my ozemic.
Oh, for my ozemic.
People are like, Chelsea Handler didn't know she was on ozemic.
I was like, first of all, do you think I would admit that I don't know the difference between
the sun and the moon, but then lie about ozemic?
I mean, obviously I fucking tell the truth about everything.
And it was called semagluetide.
So I did not know I was on ozemic until I was on ozemic.
Perfect.
Anyway, okay, so girls, let's talk about both of you.
Oh, no, Catherine, you had something, right?
I do.
I actually have an email from one of our listeners and I wanted to get your perspective on it,
ladies.
A very special flight attendant emailed us and she said, dear Chelsea, not sure if you'll
ever read this, but I watched your special last night with a fond memory of having you
on board my flight in first class when I was a person on a flight.
We were taxiing out when the in parentheses, white businessman, gentleman next to you,
rang his call button and decided to tell me you hadn't turned off your phone.
You looked at him and said, are you fucking kidding me?
Are we in high school?
You're telling on me?
I was laughing so hard.
I almost peed myself.
Your mention of respect for flight attendants was touching as was the mention of your fear
of pregnancy in the 40s.
I am one of those women who chose to never have children.
And yes, drunk, I thought you couldn't get pregnant in your 40s and did.
And yes, thank God, had access to abortion.
So thank you for mentioning it.
And thank you for one of my most memorable flight stories.
So what I would love perspective on is, has she always been this way?
Just able to say stuff like this to like strangers who were trying to read her on the plane?
Yes, that's a really quick, easy answer.
Yes.
That's the most common question we get about Chelsea is, was she always like this?
Yes, since she was probably three years old.
And are you both like that as well or less direct, we'll say?
No, no, we have different styles.
I'm kind of a pleaser.
I don't like to make waves and those confrontational type things.
I mean, I will get annoyed, but it takes a little bit more for me to get annoyed.
Like I had someone on the plane once who during a eight hour flight to France got up six times
to pee.
And the fifth time I just looked over and said, really?
Well, we both have the same language because really was the first thing I said to that
guy too.
I'm reasonable up to a point and then I lose it.
So, Shashana?
Yeah, I feel kind of the same way.
I mean, you know, it takes a lot to get me going, but it's something like that.
I would definitely have said something.
Yeah.
I love the idea of an adult person telling on another adult person to a flight attendant.
Like you can't settle this little kerfuffle between two people.
She's not turning off her phone.
That's like her saying her seat tray is an up, which I still don't understand why those
have to be up when we take off.
Like they're going to fly off into our eyes.
I don't understand why we can't be reclined.
And actually with all of my newer relationships with flight attendants and the goodwill that
I've instilled with them for me, I feel like I should be able to ask one of them.
I don't understand why we can't be reclining when we take off.
When I take a sleeping pill and then get on a plane, I want to go straight to sleep.
I don't want to take off and go to sleep.
There must be a reason.
I don't know what it is.
I'll just be a and get those answers for you, Chelsea.
Yeah.
Well, there's yeah.
And also the like turned your phone on airplane mode.
I don't believe that's true either that you have to do that.
I do it.
Do you do it when you guys go on planes?
Put your phones on airplane mode.
What do you do it?
But the last couple of years I hit or miss.
I just forget.
And they don't want to say.
It's a matter you do it.
It's hit or miss of whether I do it.
That's above our pay grade.
Sorry.
Okay.
Well, thanks for all your help, you guys.
That's the end of the episode.
Thank you for coming on.
Perfect.
Okay.
So let's talk about Catherine.
I want to talk about sisters and the dynamic between sisters.
So Simone's oldest is Shawna's the middle and I'm the youngest, even though on the loudest
and the most obnoxious and the most opinionated.
I'm the baby, but I also act like I run the family, right guys?
That's very true.
She does act like the boss of the family.
Yeah.
But I will defer to other people's opinions if I find them a value.
Kind of you.
I'll defer to Simone on a lot of things because I know Simone smarter than I am.
So when I ask her a question about how to frame something in a more reasonable way or
how to tell somebody that they're fucking annoying without hurting their feelings, Simone
is the person to go to.
And she has recently blossomed and burst into her own stage of womanhood, right?
With her personal business, which she's at Earpiercer, a remote Earpiercer, and she's
a registered nurse.
So you're getting a safe Earpiercing when you, you could follow her on Instagram at
piercings by Shoshana.
Shana started her own business how long ago, Shana, two years, one year?
About a year ago.
Okay.
And it's thriving.
It's not four years.
So yeah, it's a mobile concierge piercing service.
We come right to your home and make it a safe, fun experience.
Everyone gets a certificate of bravery for pictures.
And it's just a really happy, fun way to do it.
That's comfortable and relaxed in your own home.
And there's a huge market of little babies and little girls that are getting their ears
pierced.
I had no idea that so many people do this.
Oh my gosh.
Yes.
Every little girl in Jersey.
Yeah.
And everybody I tell, they tell five or six friends.
Do you do like birthday parties and stuff?
I do.
Sometimes I'm the actual present and the kid doesn't even know I'm coming, but she's been
begging to get her ears pierced for months.
And I walk in the door and they say, do you know who this is?
She's going to pierce your ears.
And then I pop out of the cake.
Topless.
All the all everyone in our family goes topless.
It's not just me.
It's hereditary.
My point of that story, Shana, was that you were working in the medical industry, not
medical industry, which is your proper health care.
You were a nurse.
The pastor was a nurse.
And then she kind of got tired of that.
And I guess the hours and the sense of responsibility.
So you started your own business.
And I think it's given you a really big boon, right?
Like a boost of self confidence, of self esteem.
Tell us about that.
Well, in a million years, I never thought I would own my own business.
So it's been so much fun.
I kind of fell into it because I started out with another company and then they ended
up stopping the home piercings and there was such a huge demand.
So Shana continued to moonlight.
But I thought, you know, how can I keep doing this, you know, legitimately?
And so I formed my own company and I love it.
It's so rewarding and fun.
Everybody I need is so nice and they're so happy.
It's such a happy occasion.
Everything's good about it and I love it.
It's so cute because you're so much more social now.
Like I never really thought of you as being super social, but you're out there like meeting
new people all the time and they adore you.
It's really cute.
Yeah, no.
I mean, I don't think I ever had a problem being social or anything.
I'm like more shy and quiet than you guys are, but I've always been good with patients
and patient care in the hospital and all that.
So it's just transferring it to the home.
So for me, it's been easy, but I love it.
Well, I think that pivot is really great for our listeners to hear because we have a ton
of people who call in or write in and they're like, well, this is what I learned to do.
This is what my career has been for the last 20 years.
I can't really get out of it.
Especially when it's something really like you had to study for a long time for like
healthcare, et cetera.
And you pivoted into something where your background is super relevant, but it's definitely
outside the box and you know, you got creative with it and look at you now.
And both of them have had big life moves.
Simone moved to San Francisco like how many years ago, Moni?
It's been like six and a half years, I guess.
Yeah, from New Jersey, her kids were getting older and but she still had one kid in high
school, my niece, Sonny.
So she was deliberating whether or not to move out west, which was a huge culture shift,
really.
I mean, as far as a culture shift as you can get in like America, I guess Mississippi
would be a bigger culture shift.
But you know, and you kind of did change, not careers, but in a way you did, you changed
what you were doing.
Yeah, I know.
I mean, I think in my career, I've done a lot.
I've had a lot of different jobs or different positions, but it's always been in healthcare
law.
And so I think as my kids were getting older and I was divorced and I was living in suburbia
and I was kind of just bored with living there and that whole routine of taking kids to soccer
and baseball.
And I didn't really find my people there where I was.
And then I thought, you know, I really do need to change.
So when I found this job in California, I was like, oh, I could totally live in San Francisco.
Why couldn't I?
The only big stumbling block was my daughter who was in high school and had to move her
whole life here.
But even for her, for her was probably a huge benefit as well.
So it worked out, I don't know, for both of us.
Because change of venue, I think, is always good.
I feel like those big changes are always beneficial to everybody because you were kind of like,
this isn't that a far move.
I remember you talking about it.
And it's like, no, you got to go for it.
Switch things up in a big way.
And you've never looked back and regretted that you ever moved across the country.
No, not for a second.
Exactly.
And Shoshana, even when you were starting your business, you were like, oh, I got to
go register as like an LLC or whatever it was or an S corp or whatever you were talking
about.
And you're like, it's just such a pain in the ass.
And then you did it and then you have never looked back, right?
Like all the little reasons that we always have for not doing something, we don't ever
even end up remembering those reasons.
So like when you're making a big decision or a life move and you're making, it's almost
like you're making excuses for why it can't be done.
And when you overcome hurdles, which you kind of need to do to take a risk in life, you
have to overcome these hurdles.
Otherwise, it's not a risk.
You really rarely ever look back and be like, oh God, I wish I hadn't done that.
You know, when you're taking leap of faith.
Well, I mean, honestly, I'm 53 years old and it's the best thing I've ever done and I'm
happier now than I've ever been doing anything professionally.
I couldn't be happier.
So I'm so glad that I did found out what I had to do and it was a pain in the ass and
it took a while.
But now it's done.
I also like the fact that when you do something like that, you know, you have two kids that
see that change in you.
And so you're modeling this behavior of doing something unique and different and risky.
So they see that and they benefit from that in their own lives and their own decision
making too.
Yeah, I totally agree with that.
They definitely do.
I know Burton Bernice have benefited from all of the challenges and risks I put myself
in front of.
The only thing is Russell, my 14 year old teenage son tells his friends when they ask
what his mother does, they say she stabs babies for a living.
So that's a little.
Yeah, but those are babies whose parents are choosing for them to be stabbed.
Like that's an unfair assessment.
I always used to look at like babies getting their ear pierced as harsh.
And now I think it's adorable.
They look so cute.
I know.
And plus it's over in a second, right?
It's not like it goes on.
I said to Sean, I go, what happens when you do the one ear and then they know what's going
on?
How do you do the second ear?
She's like, they forget right away.
Quickly, quickly.
You're smiling and happy.
Two minutes.
Great.
And they never remember it.
So everybody's happy.
The parents are happy.
Do you only do ears?
I do only do ears, you know, a few months ago Chelsea posted on Instagram that I would
pierce pretty much anything on your body, you know, anything, anything.
And I got all these private messages.
If I could come pierce their private parts and they're this and that.
And I had to, you know, I had to let them down gently that right now it's just an ear business.
So it was an area for expansion down the road.
Don't roll it out.
Yeah, I'll think about that.
Just get some extra alcohol swabs and you'll be all set.
Maybe I'll practice nipple piercing on my husband, Mike.
I'm sure he would be thrilled.
Nipple piercing can't be that bad.
I just want to say it with his nipples.
Oh, oh, yeah.
Copy that.
Okay, caught it.
Got it.
Shoshana is more virginal than I am.
If you haven't picked up on that.
Also where's Roy Shoshana?
What's Roy status these days?
My brother Roy was living with Shoshana.
He came out to visit with Simone when we were we were tending to her back.
That's right.
There was a surprise visit.
He just showed up at my doorstep.
That was that was a really nice surprise.
Yeah.
And then he hung out with us all week.
And then what we would do is each of us had to take Simone for, well, we took her for
like her geriatric walk basically every day because she wasn't very mobile.
So we would take her out for like 30 minutes or as much as she could handle.
And then we'd get back and then Roy would go for a real walk.
And then he'd come back and I'd go for a real walk.
I was smoking a lot of pot during this time because I had nothing going on except the
care for Simone and that I could barely handle.
So one day and our only responsibility was not to leave Simone alone.
Like that was it.
Just don't leave her alone because in case she got herself into a jam, she wouldn't be
able to get out of it because she had stitches up and down her back.
So one day Simone was like, Oh, I have a Tesla appointment at two.
That's all we have today after we went for a walk.
I said, Sure.
Okay.
So boy went for a walk.
I spoke a joint.
I went for a longer walk than expected because I'm stoned and I get back and Simone's not
there.
And I was like, Roy, what the fuck?
Where's Simone?
And he's like, Oh, she went to a Tesla appointment.
I was like, you let her drive herself.
And he goes, Yeah, you weren't back.
And she didn't want to teach me how to use the Tesla.
Her Tesla's for some reason extra annoying.
And I was like, right, the whole reason we're here is to never leave her alone.
He's like, you're the one who missed the appointment.
And I was like, I know, boy, but I thought I could rely on you.
So then I was like, okay, well, I have to go to her, find, she's at the Tesla dealership.
And I was like, we have to call an Uber.
Roy call a new burn.
He's like, I don't know how to call an Uber.
I don't know how to call an Uber either.
And then these are the people that are in charge of me.
These are the people who need to protect me and I can't call an Uber.
I was like screaming at him in the kitchen.
I go, why don't you have Uber?
That doesn't even make any sense.
He's like, why would I need Uber?
And I'm like, well, I don't need Uber.
And so anyway, I had Uber eats on my phone.
And I was like, I wonder if they can pick me up in the middle of a food delivery and take
me to my sister.
And then finally I had Uber on my phone.
I just had to find it.
And I called an Uber.
It was a huge success.
I got there as Simone was just in the waiting room, just with a tiny bit of attitude, not
too much.
And she's like, I told you, I had an appointment at two.
I was like, this is fucking Roy's fault.
I should have stayed another week or two.
I know it would have been more fun if we were all together, Sean.
I'm sorry you got the brunt of it.
Yeah.
I mean, Roy came in hot.
He was cooking every day.
He had me in a chicken soup for 26 people, even though there's only three of us.
And then one night he made turkey meatballs for 26 people, even though there were three
of us.
I still have those meatballs in the freezer, by the way.
I was like, Roy, who are you serving here?
He has no sense.
He can only cook for like 50 people at a time.
He can't cook for two or three people.
Yeah, he can't cook individually.
Yeah.
It's individually or for 50 people.
It's nothing in between.
Exactly.
But anyway, they nursed me back to health.
How are you feeling, Moni?
I'm good.
I mean, this lovely deluxe chair that you kindly bought me.
And I'd say I'm about 85% there.
I think the last 10 or 15% will take another six months.
There's certain twisting, right?
And laughs, bending, but I can't really do.
I got a physical therapy once or twice a week.
And they are great.
I like to go there every day, frankly, but apparently that's not really necessary.
I just like having a trainer.
I like someone who tells me what to do when I do it.
It feels like you should go more than once a week.
No, they're like, I've progressed so much that I only need to speak.
I just need to do what they tell me seven days a week.
And also when I was out there with Simone, I said, listen, this is a make or break moment
in your life.
This could be the end.
Or this could be a new beginning.
And she looked at me, she was just shut up.
Okay.
I have another peak left in me.
This is not the end.
And I was like, yeah, but you can go for it in this moment and get really healthy and
strong or some people in their mid 50s that get a procedure like this just slide straight
downhill.
It's not happening.
You can get out of that to happen to you.
No, no.
I've got many good years left.
So this was just a little hiccup.
Okay.
Good to know.
Good to know.
By the way, to all of our straight male listeners, Simone's available.
I'm available.
Yeah.
Hey.
Okay.
So what do we have in store today, Catherine?
Amazingly, I do have a straight male listener who has written in.
Oh, is it for Simone?
Oh my God.
This would be amazing.
I don't know, but he is married.
Somebody sounds like an eager beaver.
Listen.
I have some sister questions.
I have some dating questions, all kinds of stuff.
Let's do sister's question.
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Well this first question is from Lovable Ant.
Growing up with my three years older sister was sort of a battle.
She was always so headstrong, almost like a bully to everyone, especially me.
She had this bad attitude, always looking for a fight, and she was spoiled rotten.
When we were young we weren't friends.
She always pushed me around, teased me to the point where I would cry.
She once said to a new friend that she didn't know me, and that I was a neighbor who lived
on another street.
Fast forward to now, and we are the best of friends.
Somewhere along the way she grew up and finally realized what's right and wrong and became
normal.
The issue is, she has a four year old son who looks exactly like her, and I'm terrified
to say is exactly like she was when she was younger.
My nephew is a bully in the making, just like she was.
He's only four, and he already has this bad attitude.
I feel like it's giving me PTSD of some sort.
I do love him, but I cannot tolerate him.
It's hard to like him.
Do I have to wait till he's in his 20s to be able to bond with him?
He's just so awful.
And no, I do not have kids of my own, nor do I ever want one.
He is my birth control.
Any advice, lovable and with an unlikable nephew?
Oh, geez.
That's an interesting one.
I haven't heard like that.
When you started out, I was like, oh, this is Shoshana and Chelsea when they were little.
That's what I thought.
Yeah, that's what I thought too, except I was the youngest and I was the bully.
And this is what would have happened if you had children.
Right, which is why everyone in our family advised me over and over again.
You guys say I don't listen, but obviously I did because I didn't have children, and all
of you kept telling me definitely don't.
And you didn't need to say that.
But okay, so go on.
Okay, so continue.
Sigamos, Simone.
Yeah.
So I think this is a tough one because I feel like commenting on someone's child is that
you have to tread really lightly.
It's a delicate area.
If she's good friends with her sister now, that's a great starting point.
There's got to be an opportunity that when they're all together for her to not necessarily
criticize her nephew, but when her sister corrects her nephew or parents for nephew,
I wonder if there's an opportunity to have a broader discussion about his behavior or
even saying things like, oh, how does he do it preschool?
How's he doing with other kids?
Like asking more objective questions about his behavior to see if she'll realize that
this child is having some behavioral issues and is a bit of a bully.
I wouldn't do it very subjectively and really go in there and say your kid is a nightmare.
You need to fix him because that's never goes well.
Yeah, do you think that she's aware that her son is acting like she did when she was
young or that's a question that I would want to know?
It's interesting to talk about who's aware of their children and who isn't.
You know what I mean?
You're so blind when it's your own child.
I just talked to a friend of mine who said it was a straight couple I was with recently
that they both were working big jobs, both CEOs of different companies and they realized
that their kid was turning into a major brat and she's like, I just realized that she was
turning into the she's like, so one of us had to stop working and we had to spend more
time with her and I was like, oh, oh, I've never heard anyone say that about their own
kid.
Yeah, I mean, that takes a lot of self awareness to realize that I think in some cases, like
if the child is now emulating the parent, some people find that endearing.
Oh, it was just like me as a kid.
He's looked at me. Oh, I've heard that so many times from so many mothers.
She's like, she's just like me.
You're like, that's actually not appropriate behavior for a child.
So it's a difficult area again.
I think siblings providing advice on their nieces and nephews is just a touchy area.
I just think you have to, I think it's worth bringing up, but I think you have to do it
in a very sort of diplomatic way.
Well, maybe this woman, could she start doing stand up and just out everybody that way?
There you go.
There's another option.
There's option B.
That's the straightest path to success.
I think if the sisters have a close enough relationship, there is a way to open up that
conversation gently.
But it depends how tight they are to be able to work that in slowly, gently.
But if you really do have that really tight, close relationship, I think that you can find
a space to talk about it in the right way without being really obnoxious about it.
I also think depending on the relationship that you have with your nephew and with your
sister, if it's appropriate where she doesn't mind if you reprimand him or have some input
on his behavior, I have a niece who was a Helian growing up.
And I was a person in her life who set really firm boundaries and she knew that I was the
auntie that if I said no, the answer was no.
If I said later, the answer was later.
And that as I set those boundaries early on, that paid off in dividends as she got older.
Yeah, Catherine, I think you definitely, that's a good point about as a child, I think
child grows up, you develop your own relationship with that child.
I don't think she has to wait until he's 18 years old, but it develops over time.
And I know all of my kids benefit from their aunt and uncle.
Starting school too might help correct some of this behavior because a lot of times kids
are bad in a way that like their peers are not going to put up with.
So like as he gets into kindergarten, first grade, whatever, some of this might start
coming out in the wash, hopefully.
That's true.
I mean, that wasn't the case for Chelsea when she was little, but you know, I got more.
I was more confrontational once I met other people.
I was like, oh, there's a whole sea of people I can disagree with.
I remember getting thrown out of nursery school because I said something to the teacher that
dad had said to me about her, I said to her face and then I got in trouble.
She had dad pick me up and dads like you have to go and apologize.
I think she was trying to get me to take a nap and I hated that.
Now I would love it.
But back then I didn't want to be forced to lie on those stupid cots.
I was like, first of all, there's accounting to be done for my family.
Like I have to figure out where the money's coming from or where is it where is it coming
in.
And I dad was like, you have to apologize.
I'm like, you're the one who said it.
It was either something about the way she dressed or it was something I can't remember.
But anyway, I was so mad that I was basically getting in trouble for something he told me.
And then I repeated.
I was like, you're a bad influence.
But yeah, I so I'm not a good example, but other people are you do get socialized when
you go to school.
I feel like teachers are so tired and exhausted now that they're not going to put up with
any bullshit anyway.
Yeah.
Okay.
While lovable aunt tell us what happens with their nephew and if you can set some boundaries,
let us know what happens.
Problem solved, it sounds like.
Problem solved.
Well, at the end of the day, I got to wait it out, right?
Well, we have a caller.
Are you ready for a caller, ladies?
Oh, a live caller.
A live caller.
I'm sure.
Okay, let's go.
Okay.
Number says, dear Chelsea, I've been dating my perfect man for two years, this time around.
We dated 17 years ago and had a tumultuous eight year relationship that ended with cheating.
And I was the cheater.
In the seven years apart, he dated one girl and I dated several douchebags.
He was always on my mind though.
And about two years before we got back together, I started pursuing him again, even while he
was committed to someone else.
Needless to say, I want him back.
I know there's a lot to unpack there, but we've been working really hard, but he has major
trust issues.
I cheated on him 10 years ago and I'm a completely different person now.
I have done a ton of therapy and 12 step programs and even a two month retreat in Thailand.
They all have the same message of truth telling and honesty.
So I've been exactly that honest.
How do I earn his trust back and convince him that I'm not the amber from 10 years
ago?
Will the trust ever come back?
Or will my shitty ways haunt me forever?
Amber.
Hi Amber.
Hi Catherine.
How are you?
So everyone, you're a shirt.
I'm very excited about this.
So let's go to therapy.
Oh, that's cute.
Right.
Hi Amber.
How are you?
These are my sisters.
There are special guests today.
Hi sisters.
Hi Amber.
I made you.
Nice to meet you as well.
Wow, that's a long breakup.
And then you got back to how many years were you guys apart?
We were apart for seven years.
Wow.
Yeah.
So you had, let me get this straight.
You had eight years together and broke up for seven and then you've been together again
for the second time for two years.
Correct.
Okay.
That's 17.
Yeah.
So we've been together for eight years and then I cheated on him and I had a little bit
of a fair, about a three month affair.
Obviously, he found out about it.
We broke up.
He got involved in a new relationship and I was pining for him that whole time and ended
up getting back together and we even back together this last two years, but he just
does not trust me.
Wait, I have a question Amber.
Yeah.
Was that the only time you cheated on him?
One time.
Okay.
Yeah.
Okay.
Go ahead Simone.
So how has it been these last few years?
You obviously both still had something going on for each other.
So enough to bring you back together.
Yeah.
What is, how is he demonstrating this distrust?
Like he's just not a hundred percent there.
You know, for me it's been great.
I'm just so excited to be back together with him that I think I'm a little bit blinded
by his insecurity.
He gets insecure about kind of the silliest things.
Like if I'm on my phone for too long, maybe if I'm on an app and I close out of the app
too soon, he's like, why are you doing that?
I mean, obviously when I cheated on him eight years ago, a lot of it was related around
the phone.
So he's just been really insecure and he doesn't really voice it.
He's a little bit passive aggressive.
I can just tell that something's upsetting him.
He's not really good at verbalizing it.
And then it gets to a point where I start to retreat because he's being, he's retreating
and then we'll have kind of like a blow up where he's like, I just don't trust you.
You're doing these things.
You're being shady with your phone and you're closing out of these apps.
Some things I don't even know what he's talking about.
I'm confused on why he's.
Right.
He's in a different state of mind altogether than you are.
Right.
The jealousy thing is a serious thing that's not going to automatically go away.
Have you guys gone to counseling together at all?
I go to therapy.
I asked him to go to therapy and he was not on board with going to therapy.
Well, that's a big problem right there.
That's a big red flag.
This is a hurdle that you have to figure out and therapy is not the only way, but it might
be the easiest and best way to have a third party figure out with you guys if you can
get past this because it's hanging over your relationship and it's not healthy.
So you have to move through this or you have to probably not be together.
So if you're going to make it work, you have to find a way to address this issue because
it's not going away.
Yeah.
And it's been 17 years and I have so many amazing single girlfriends and I want to be
in a long-term relationship and I want to be with him and I don't want to give up on
the relationship.
And I know that he loves me very much too and doesn't want to give up either.
I don't want to say he doesn't want to go to a traditional therapist.
He does his own work.
He's very spiritual.
He listens to a lot of Eckhart Tolle and Deepak and he's just really into that spiritual
side of himself.
He's a pretty special human.
He just can't get past this hurdle and I'm not sure what to do.
I think the fact that he's had this experience, I mean he has a legitimate reason to have
this trust issue with you.
You have never been in that position it sounds like.
So you can't really understand what he's going through and why he's acting this way.
But it's legitimate for him.
So I think you really do, if he is spiritual, maybe you just need to go to a different type
of third party as someone that's a little bit more connected to mindfulness or someone
that he's on board with because I don't think you can kind of grow together.
If you really think he's the one and he thinks you're the one but there's this constant issue
hanging over your head.
I don't think it's going to work unless you really hash it out.
Yeah.
I just feel like he's punishing me for something I did 10 years ago.
Well, he's not punishing you.
He's still hurt from something that you did 10 years ago.
He's hurting and he's not able to let it go.
And the whole thing about spirituality is not to hold on to the past or to harbor the
past and that's what he's doing.
So he can be as spiritual as he wants but he's not taking the advice that he's listening
to which is to let go.
For a different person, you've gone to therapy all these years.
If he doesn't even have the interest in going and sitting down with you to hear about what
you've learned and to figure out a way for you guys to continue, that is a really big
red flag.
And that's to say he could spend the next 10 years holding this over your head.
I feel like you have done the work to account for your behavior.
You're not going to do it again.
Enough time has passed.
It's been two years.
How long is he going to hold on to this for?
He has to accept and trust in order for you guys to grow.
And if he can't, yeah, you have to have a third party sit down and have a conversation
about it because it's irrational at this point.
You're not doing anything that's warranting his distrust.
And if he wanted to get back in this relationship even though you went and pursued him, and
I'm sure you were very influential in getting you back together, he agreed to get back together.
So he has to agree to a new set of terms and a fresh start.
Yeah.
So that's why I'm as past since this happened and you've demonstrated your behavior of them
past two years and then this newest part of your relationship.
And if that's not enough, then it has to be, you know, you have to work on it together
for him to either get past it or if he realizes he can't get past it.
That's a problem.
Yeah.
It makes me really sad because I'm worried that he can't end.
It sounds like he might not be able to.
Yeah.
I wonder if there is something that's not like you said, traditional therapy that might
be really healing for him.
First of all, of course, there's a ton of books about getting over cheating and how to
repair relationships.
So like that might be something to be like, Hey, I need you to read a couple of these books
so we can start to move on from this and rebuild that trust.
But you might also look into like a weekend retreat with a shaman based on connecting with
your significant other or something like that that feels a little bit more you guys or feels
a little bit more of him that he might be more comfortable with.
Now, like, could Iowaska, he didn't Iowaska retreat in Costa Rica.
And I think that really helped him.
I don't think it was as powerful as he was expecting it to be, but I know that's more
his route and I'm willing to support him in that.
So I really, I really like that idea.
Well, I mean, it's good that he's into this stuff and that he's sort of open to sort of,
you know, forward thinking and, and, and, you know, changing his outlook and all of that.
So it sounds like he's got the potential to do it.
I mean, this one issue is kind of significant for him, but there's got to be a way that
you can address it together.
Because again, you're speaking about two different things.
He's experiencing things and he's not able to verbalize it to you what the triggers are
and when it happens and how that makes him feel when you need to have this conversation
together.
And I think the only way to do this, the have an interpreter or a third party that can
really help you and try maybe you can do a Molly MDMA session with somebody.
Those are good.
No, really.
It's helpful for couples, especially when there's cheating involved because it kind
of like gets rid of your ego and people are just like, you're so loving and communicative
that you can solve a lot of these kinds of big issue relationship issues in one session.
Yeah.
Like if you get somebody who can guide you through an MDMA therapy journey with you and
your partner and that way it's not traditional therapy.
Yeah, we've tried to be made together.
But having somebody lead it, I think would be would probably be more powerful.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because for him at this point, his rote response, his pattern in his brain is like, I'm afraid,
I'm afraid, I'm afraid.
So he needs something to break him out of that.
And he also needs to be taking the initiative to work on that healing for himself.
Yeah.
I just hope, I just hope that the relationship that hasn't, this hasn't gone too far because
I do love him.
Yeah.
And it sounds like you want to do the work.
So that's half of the battle.
I just have to make sure he wants to do the work.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You just need to figure out what that work looks like and let him know how much you're
committed to trying to get there, where whatever it is that it takes to get him more comfortable.
You guys are on the same page and get past this that you'll do it.
Well, I'll do what it takes.
I'm hoping he does as well.
Yeah.
I mean, you've got like 17 years together now, right?
So try and figure it the fuck out.
So I tell him that, tell him that.
I'll tell him Chelsea said that.
Yeah, please do.
I need another straight fan.
That to the other two.
All right.
Well, thanks for calling in, Amber.
Keep us posted and let us know how everything goes.
Good luck, Amber.
I will.
Thank you, sisters.
Bye.
That's a good podcast title.
You guys, thank you, sisters.
Thank you, sisters.
Thank you.
Love it.
Unless it's about nuns.
Well, I have an email from a straight listener.
His name is Sean.
Dear Chelsea, my name is Sean and I wanted to write in and see if I could get some advice
about an upcoming diagnosis.
My wife, yes, I am a straight man writing in, has come into recent awareness that she
might be on the autism spectrum.
She's going to get tested because she would like to have the answer to some of the idiosyncrasies
in her life.
We've been together for six years and married for a little over a year.
I've expressed that no matter what the outcome could be, it doesn't change any part of who
she is as a person and more importantly, she's my wife.
I'm just worried that she could go into a grieving or depression about this discovery.
She's expressed to me that she would most likely grieve for her younger self, but I
want to make sure I can show up for her in every facet.
As a role model for women and mental health, I feel that you would be able to help give
some perspective as to how I can best support and comfort my wife through this time.
You're a north star for both my wife and my mother-in-law sharing many similar traits
and beliefs.
That's why I thought you'd be perfect to give an outside perspective.
Sean.
What a sweetheart.
I know.
Yeah, that's sweet, Sean.
We're all attracted to you now.
Okay.
I'll go first.
I think that first of all, that's a total gift to get a diagnosis.
You understand where your behaviors are coming from.
My friend, Amy Schumer, who has been very public about her husband's autism diagnosis,
was also directed by her.
She noticed some weird behaviors or some non-traditional behaviors.
She wasn't used to seeing.
She saw and asked, hey, do you think I've looked this up and I think there's a chance
you might want to get tested because you might be on the spectrum.
He did.
It was like such an informational tool.
Then he understood why he acted differently in his behavior towards things.
She fell down once and he didn't go to pick her up.
He's like, I don't know why I didn't do that either.
He's like, usually if someone falls, somebody comes to help me.
Why are you standing there?
He's like, I don't know.
The synapses are different and the reactions are different and your socialization is very
different.
It's a very big gift to get the information, to understand and put in context all of these
things that you've been confused about for so long.
I think you have to look at it and go at it from that very positive angle.
Like, oh my God, great.
We have answers.
Right.
I agree.
I mean, data is key.
She could potentially be diagnosed with a form of autism, but she's not being diagnosed
with terminal cancer.
It's something she's had, probably since she was a child, and it's just putting a name
to it and diagnosis to it, but it's not changing her life in any way.
She's still living the same life with her husband.
This information can be useful.
They can read more about it and they can maybe, I don't even know if you would change
anything to be honest.
It's recognizing the signals and the symptoms and the behaviors that she's been seeing.
I think, yeah, I agree.
It's valuable to get that information back.
There's nothing wrong with data.
Yeah.
And being autistic is an advantage in many ways that we don't see.
So there's this whole additional layer of added value that autistic people bring to the
table in the way they see things and in the way they take information in, in the way that
they see the world.
It's just so much different.
And so there's so much value in teaching more people about that, your children.
It's not a bad thing.
It's not like you're getting a cancer diagnosis.
You're getting a personality diagnosis, and that is always helpful.
Yeah.
And it might be like a little, just a relief, just to know, okay, now that's what I have.
I have a name for it.
This is what it is.
If I know that I have autism, then there are very specific people that you can go see
that deal with that regarding autism that can help you as opposed to seeing somebody
that may not be familiar with that or that kind of thing.
So it's a good opportunity to move forward with it, knowing what you have and knowing
where to go to get help if there's things you want to change.
And I also think to Sean's original question, which I think was about how do I provide appropriate
support, I think she's going to handle it, how she's going to handle it.
We can't predict if she's going to be depressed about it initially, or she's going to be kind
of excited to have this data and want to see a therapist or want to see a specialist.
So you kind of have to react to her and know not to diminish any of those feelings that
she's having and just be there as you have been apparently in support regardless of her
reaction.
And then it's really ultimately her decision as to whether she takes the next steps or
not.
Because I remember it sounds very similar to Amy's story.
So some people, you know, there's nothing to do.
It's just to be there and support those reactions and sort of help her walk through the emotions
that she might experience.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And great for you for even asking, you know, I mean, that says it all about your personality.
It's already where it needs to be totally that you'll be supportive and very encouraging.
And always, I think just keep reminding your wife in the moments that she needs to hear
it.
What a positive thing this is.
Knowledge is power and like you have all this information now, assuming she does test and
is on the spectrum.
So positivity is everything too, you know, just to be like a solid kind of stable force
in someone's life when they're going through something is a big gift.
Yeah.
I think that's all good advice.
Well, Sean, let us know how it goes.
Let us know if you found some resources and we're able to put some good systems in place.
I think we should start also giving rewards to the straight men that call into the podcast
Catherine.
I mean, if they're this kind, yeah, there should be a list.
Anyone straight man who's listening to this or calling in is very masculine because you
would have to be very confident.
Oh, I just hit myself in the face with a microphone.
No, it's almost like men were just kicking me in the face as a response to that.
But yeah, it takes a big man to do that and that's very sexy.
So like I said, we're all attracted to you, Sean.
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Perfect.
Siv wrote into us, and she said, Dear Chelsea, my brother and his now what breaks my heart
to say ex-girlfriend have been separated for close to a year.
To make a long story short, they encountered issues as they both got older and faced real
world responsibilities.
It had an impact on their relationship where they felt they needed to separate, and for
the record, they're 25.
Here's the thing.
The two of them are still in love with each other and have both admitted it to me, and
it's so obvious to everyone who knows and loves them that they're meant to be.
For some reason, they haven't been able to get it together to resolve the situation,
most likely poor communication.
Our entire family has been under the impression that we were just waiting for them to be in
the right headspace to get back together.
However, after his ex told him he should move on, even though she didn't actually want
him to, my brother has taken it upon himself to start dating a new girl.
I'm entirely sure that this is a bandaid, an easy situation for him to have fun and
feel better.
He was hiding this from me because he knows I'm still close with his ex.
I always envisioned her as my future sister-in-law.
I really don't want to make the situation about myself, however I'm having a hard time
because only I know how the two of them still feel about each other.
But now he wants me to meet his new girl that he's seeing.
I feel like it's too soon and frankly have no interest in meeting her, but I don't want
to hurt his feelings.
How do I handle this situation without imposing my feelings onto his life?
P.S. listening to this podcast every week has probably enabled me to not have very strong
emotional reaction to the situation to begin with.
I appreciate this basically free therapy and I should probably go to real therapy.
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I feel like has she expressed her feelings about this to her brother?
I don't think so.
I think they've talked about it and she said she's close with both of them.
They're both still in love with each other, but it's also been a year since they broke
up.
Yeah, but look at our last couple.
They were broken up for seven years.
Exactly.
I feel like not meeting a new girlfriend is not the move.
I don't think that she's holding it against him that he hasn't, he may need five years
to come to that conclusion.
It's not really for her to sort of force them together at this point in their life.
If they've decided they need to be separate at this point in their life, so this no girlfriend
hasn't done anything wrong.
She's just happened to be the new girlfriend.
If it's important to her brother that they meet, I don't see why she can't honor that.
Don't think of it as this is your sister-in-law.
This is just someone he's dating right now at this moment in time.
I think he's getting a lot into it and I don't think that people need to find their life
partner at 25 years old.
Yeah, definitely not at 25 years old.
If you really believe that they're so in love with each other, then you can say that
to your brother like, hey, it's very obvious to me that you guys are in love with each
other still.
So, all you have to do is just express that to him once and then your job is done and
your conscious is clear.
You can't prevent him from moving on and dating people or any of that.
It's like you're not in charge of their relationship.
All you can do is just tell him your truth, tell him once, don't repeat it 50 times and
then move on with it.
This new girl didn't do anything.
She's just dating somebody and the fact that he's 25 years old is also a sign that everybody
needs a little bit more growing up than to get settled down at 25.
That's just super young.
And so, I mean, they may have gotten super scared that they were so intense and so like
ready for marriage and that could have caused the breakup.
Maybe they realized like we were going too fast, too young and maybe they'll come around
and it'll get back together.
But again, it's not her job to force them together and get in the middle of it.
It is a lot about her.
Is this, I'm getting a few of her and this is the sister, right?
Is writing in?
Yeah, this is just writing in.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I think, you know, we do get so bonded to the people that are siblings bring home.
I know my mother-in-law was even more devastated with a breakup that happened with one of her
sons than he was.
I mean, for years, she was devastated about the loss of this relationship.
And it's okay to grieve that, but at the same time, you do have to respect like maybe
your brother does want to move on.
Maybe he does want a little bandaid and a little fun and maybe they will get back together
and maybe they won't.
You know, you just have to be nice and civil to the new girl while she's there, but it
doesn't mean you have to like be her bestie all the time.
Yeah.
I'm a tushy either.
Yes.
Yeah, right.
Right.
Trishana, any more wisdom on that one?
I mean, she really needs to take a step back.
She's too involved with the whole, they're adults.
So they're going to do what they're going to do and let nature take its course.
I agree with Chelsea that she should let her know how she feels or him know how she feels.
But you know, that's all you can say and they're grownups.
So, you know, maybe it'll happen.
Maybe it won't.
Don't hold it against the new person.
That's, you know, seems wrong.
And what's going on with you and your boyfriend and your relationships?
Like, you know, she might need some different names.
But I will say I want to go on the record because I've had this conversation with both
of my sisters about previous relationships that I've been in.
When they didn't say anything to me, when I was with somebody that they thought was creepy
or weird or whatever, I'm like, you guys, wait a tell me after the fact.
They're like, well, we never liked him.
It's like, well, fuck off.
It was like two to four years of my life.
But, and their excuse is what, Simone, that I wouldn't listen to you if you had.
No, I think it's a different, I think those are different situations.
Here we're talking about someone, she loves an ex-girlfriend.
She wants them to marry the ex-girlfriend.
It's like not for her to make that happen.
When it's, I'm seeing with you that I don't think someone that you're with is currently
perfect.
I...
No, I know, it's not the same situation.
I know how that can sabotage.
You can say, I really don't like this person.
Then you end up getting married and you have a 25-year marriage.
And I put that out there that I just don't love this guy.
There's that risk there to the relationship.
If I really thought the person was dangerous for you or it was an unhealthy relationship,
I think that's a different story.
And that's where you do have to step up and say something to prevent that from becoming
a long-term unhealthy relationship.
Yeah, I guess so.
I guess so.
I don't know.
I feel like you should tell people when you don't like their spouse.
But I know it does backfire.
But I just think with sisters and siblings, it's a different story.
If you're hearing that from a sibling, like, oh yeah, this person is dangerous or this
person is weird or I think it would have a different impact, especially girls.
Yeah.
But then again, conversely, girls can be totally bitchy and cunty and be pissed about it.
So I get it.
Yeah.
Well, it's like that movie, what was that show, Bad Sisters, where all the sisters came
with the story.
Brother-in-law, I love that.
That's the best.
I know.
They were at the Critics' Choice Awards.
I gave them a shout-out for murdering their brother.
Their brother.
Their brother.
That's how their brother-in-law.
I said that my family, I've been wanting to do that for years, but I could never get
any of my siblings on board.
You know who I was really talking about.
Yep.
You do.
Anyway, okay, that's a wrap.
Okay.
We are done.
We're not going to ask them for advice, Catherine, because that's silly.
I know.
I'm like, you're going to ask your little sister for advice.
We get a lot of unsolicited advice anyway.
Well, all the time.
Yeah.
Well, thank you, ladies.
What a great job, Sissy Bombers.
Well, that was fun.
Thank you.
Fine.
I'm so good to meet you.
Oh, likewise.
I'm so pleased to finally meet you.
And Chelsea, I confirmed the March 15th connection.
Yes.
We're at the March babies.
Yes.
I know.
That's a great birthday to have, actually, March 15th.
Three now.
Three in our family.
Now the council is from the family, Mike, and me and Catherine.
Yeah.
Okay.
And Olga's March 20th.
Yes.
Right.
Okay.
Great.
Okay.
Well, good to know.
I'm going to write all those dates down right now because I don't want to miss your birthday.
Bye, girls.
Thank you.
Bye.
Also, I'm going back on tour, everybody.
I have a new tour.
It's called Little Big Bitch because I'm a little big bitch and I always have been.
Sometimes, well, now I'm a big little bitch.
No, I'm still a little big bitch.
Whatever.
I'm going back on tour.
I'm warming up my new one hour that I have to create from scratch, but I have some very
strong ideas.
I'm going to be at Zaines Nashville, March 29th through Sunday, April 6th, and then Irvine,
improv, and then I have dates, theater dates everywhere from Peoria, Illinois, Carmel, Calamizoo,
Spokane, Washington, Boise, Idaho, Vegas, Highland, California, Tulsa, Oklahoma, and more
and more and more.
So go to ChelseaHannler.com.
For tickets and yeah, that starts in April, so I'm very excited, Catherine.
Yeah.
Amazing.
I have family in Peoria, Illinois.
They might be able to square, though, to come see you.
Well, no, they can see me.
They just, we shouldn't interact.
Right, exactly.
Yeah.
Don't forget to watch my special on Netflix, you guys.
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