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Alphabet Boys is a new podcast series that goes inside undercover investigations. In the first season, we're diving into an FBI investigation of the 2020 protests. It involves a cigar-smoking mystery man who drives a silver hearse. And inside his hearse we look like a lot of guns. But are federal agents catching bad guys or creating them? He was just waiting for me to set the date, the time, and then for sure he was trying to get it to happen. Listen to Alphabet Boys on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. What if I told you that much of the forensic science you see on shows like CSI isn't based on actual science? And the wrongly convicted pay a horrific price. Two deaths sentences and a life without parole. My youngest, I was incarcerated two days after her first birthday. Listen to CSI on trial on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Did you know Lance Bass is a Russian trained astronaut? That he went through training in a secret facility outside Moscow, hoping to become the youngest person to go to space? Well, I ought to know, because I'm Lance Bass. And I'm hosting a new podcast that tells my crazy story and an even crazier story about a Russian astronaut who found himself stuck in space, with no country to bring him down. With the Soviet Union collapsing around him, he orbited the Earth for 313 days that changed the world. Listen to the last Soviet on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi! Hello, hello! How are you this morning? I'm good, I'm good. How was your vacation? Oh my god, it was so good. Oh yeah? Yeah, oh my gosh. It was wonderful. We stayed at the Western resort that had waterfalls and slides and all kinds of things. And of course, I like did all the kitty water slides, which was very fun. And then we went to the wedding at the Four Seasons on Maui, the White Lotus Hotel. Oh yeah, so cute. So that was fun. I remember when Connie Britton was filming there, she's like, this place is magic. Come visit, because it was all closed off for COVID. Mm-hmm. Hi, Brad. Hi, Brad. Hey guys. Chelsea, I have to say I love that you caught the ire of Tucker Carlson and those motherfuckers. Mm. I take a lot of pleasure in that. Yeah, your response was pretty epic though, that was pretty fantastic. Thanks. Can you imagine having a conversation about women driving in 2023? Somebody wrote their parodying misogyny. Like, it's not even how you really are misogynistic anymore. Oh, ridiculous. It's so basic. It's just you know, intellectual, like, women hating. I just love men telling us how miserable we are because what the fuck do you care what we're doing? You fucking wick. Go get a life. Oh my God. Can you imagine reporting on me and my child this video as a news anchor, his hot takes, his hot takes. There's any more hot takes we needed. It's not from Tucker Carlson. Oh my God. Seriously. Are we calling that journalism? No, it's not journalism. I don't even think he claims to be a journalist. He's just talking. He's like an entertainer. Yes, a personality. Mm-hmm. If you will, just like me. I also have a personality. Indeed you do. And when those two personalities collide. It makes for entertainment, for example. It makes for very, very good content. You must be so sad up there surrounded by friends and family having the time of your life on a mountaintop. I know. I was sitting in my underwear. It was so funny. I was lying in bed just like he thought I would be. I was lying in bed and I was taking the day off from skiing because I had to read a script. I had to read all this stuff. I'm sitting in bed and then I get all these alerts from people going, have you seen this? Have you seen this? And after the 16th one, I'm like, I guess I'm going to have to take a shower and fucking respond to this asshole. And then the Daily Show emailed me and they're like, do you have to respond? We'll help you write a response. I was like, great. This is what I want to say. They wrote it, then sent it back to me. And then I edited it and added some stuff. And then I was like, okay, it was really funny because that's what got me out of bed that day was Tucker Carlson. I was like, I can't believe I have to take a shower for this fucking asshole so I can film something. But yeah. Oh my goodness. That's one way to do it. That's one way to get you out of bed. I can't wait to see what he says next, but it'd be funny if he got so scared that he just didn't respond again. I got to write. Oh my goodness. I just added a show to Red Rocks Amphitheater in Morrison, Colorado. Yes. I'm coming to Red Rocks, which is going to be awesome. That's going to be very, very cool. I know that's like one of Brad's favorite venues. Okay. So our guest today is a friend of mine. She is a co-host of the iHeart podcast, Drama Queens with her co-stars from One Treehill. She hosts her own podcast called Work in Progress, which I've been in or on. And she stars in the upcoming film called Junction. She's an actress. She's an entrepreneur, my favorite word, and activist, Sophia Bush. It's here. Hi, Sophia. Hi. Hi, honey bunny. Hi, cutie pie. Oh, you're the best. Thanks for coming in on such short notice. Oh my God. Wouldn't miss it. How's Whistler? Pretty magical. We've been getting a lot of snow. It's been light all season and now it's coming. So yesterday was just like, it was like skiing on clouds. We were just like bouncing all over. It was so fun. I've got to get out there with you one of these seasons. I just love it so much. Sophia, this is Katherine. This is my co-host. How are you? I'm great. How are you? Thank you. Good. We got your ice coffee. What are you drinking, Sophia? What kind of concoction is that? It's bone broth. Oh my God. I knew it would be something of that elk. You know, I was wondering, I was like, is she going to answer the Zoom? Is she going to be in like maple leaf paces with a martini? I would have loved it. I know, I know. That's usually how I operate around here. I just go throughout the town. The villages I like to refer to it as because to me it is a village. Sophia, we have a lot to catch up on because you got married without my permission. And I was planning on being there but then I was on tour. So I couldn't come to your wedding, which was I really wanted to be there with you on your special day. Oh my God. Tell me about it. I know I missed your humor. It was amazing. It was so tremendously special. Also your tour was fucking badass. I love the new special so much. I'm really having a great time. I watched it three times. Oh my God. Thank you. It's my nighttime like joy moment. So thank you. The wedding was amazing. You know, it's, I mean, I don't know how you feel about the weird shit that comes with what we do. But when we got engaged, it was wild to see like the amount of attention that an Instagram post garnered. I wasn't prepared for articles and languages that I have no idea how to read and for it to be such news. I was like, you know, like Jennifer Aniston is famous, like Reese Witherspoon is famous. Like, I don't know, like I do TV, but I didn't, I didn't expect that. And it actually really enabled us in talking about how that felt and what that meant and was there a way to make it seem less overwhelming. It enabled us to figure out how if that was going to be the sort of attention that comes from our relationship, how we could do something really good with it. And so we went to Tulsa and it was really an unbelievable moment and being able to use our wedding to teach folks about the 1921 race massacre and about Dr. Tiffany Crutcher and all the people on the ground, the Black Wall Street Times and their staff, all the people who were doing the work to rebuild Greenwood, getting Vogue magazine to talk about Greenwood felt really cool. So it was special for us and it was special for our community. And did you guys either one of you have a tie to Tulsa? Yeah, Grant is a fifth generation, Oklahoma. He grew up in a farming family and they're three hours west of Tulsa. And so when we went on our very first trip to visit his family, he was like, Hey, I have these friends working on progressive politics and social justice and Tulsa. And do you want to go three hours east of my parents and meet them too? And I was like, I'm going to marry the shit out of this man. I do. I want to go meet that whole community. So for the last three years, Tulsa has kind of been our home away from home. Oh, cute. That's cool. I'm performing in Tulsa coming up. When? Oh my God, we'll come. I don't know. I have to look at my calendar, but I know I have a Tulsa, Oklahoma date. Oh, great. And I don't think I've ever performed in Tulsa. I've performed Oklahoma City, which is always fun. It's always fun to go to those cities because you just like what you're talking about. There's a whole, you know, undercurrent of liberalism, always pocketed in these cities. And so when you go there and then you meet up with your people, you're like, Oh, yeah, this is great. So there's like minded at people everywhere. Truly. And Tulsa so special and the sort of richness of the history there and the black history there and the progressive history there and the sort of classic Americana and the music and all the art. And it's just like a really unbelievably beautiful place. And it's well, we should probably cover the Tulsa massacre for those of you who are listening who are not familiar with what happened in Tulsa. Sophia, do you want to lead on this? Yeah. In 1921, a case that began very similarly, you know, most people know about the murder of Emmett Till when he was young and accused of whistling at a white woman who happens to still be alive and has never been brought to justice for what she did to that 14 year old boy. It was the photographs of him that really helped to educate America on what the enactment of racist violence looks like. And Tulsa is as a an event, the massacre of 1921, which was inaccurately called a race riot. You know, they love to call things riots that have harmed at risk communities. And in Tulsa as well, there's so much evidence in terms of not just photographs, but insurance records, we understand the devastation of families and we understand not only the emotional and geographical impacts, but we understand the financial impacts of those things, which historically and violence against black communities have been harder to prove. It's harder to go back into the 1800s, for example, and have those conversations. So Tulsa is an interesting place to get educated for the breadth of information that you can gather. And in 1921, a young man was accused of attacking a young black man, was accused of attacking a white woman in an elevator, didn't happen. She was then taken to jail and fathers and men in the black community came to the jail and surrounded it to ensure that this young man was not lynched by white members of the community who publicly stated that day that they were going to bring a lynch mob to the jail that night. And the men came armed, both sides did. It turned into a pretty violent situation very quickly. And the really arresting thing to understand about Tulsa is that with the support of the National Guard, white citizens were deputized as sheriff's deputies on the spot and they murdered hundreds of black families. They got farmers who had planes for crop dusting up in the air and firebombed Greenwood. And many of the people who have seen the watchmen or who have looked into this know the corner of Greenwood and Archer and they think like that was Black Wall Street. That street was Black Wall Street, but Black Wall Street was a neighborhood that was 40 square blocks in a city. 40 blocks by 40 blocks and the entire thing was burned to the ground. Hotels and doctors offices and movie theaters and car dealerships. This was the wealthiest black community in America. There were multi millionaires in 1921 in Tulsa in Greenwood and people didn't like it. They didn't like the success of a community that they had been trying to oppress for so long. And it is one of the most egregious violent acts that has been recorded in our nation's history. And it's heavy. It's not lost on me and it certainly was not lost on my husband and I that in a moment where we see so many people like Ding Dong Ron DeSantis and every other asshole chatting on Fox News trying to literally ban our history. We know survivors of the race massacre. There are still living survivors of this massacre in 1921. And if we don't learn our history, we're not going to see it coming when it begins to repeat itself. And so for us, it felt really important to have our big beautiful day on a Saturday, but ask all the people who know us. It's like, look, you're coming to the wedding of your favorite activist friend and her former public school teacher husband, like, you're going to do some homework. And so we did this big, beautiful museum day and toured through Greenwood and met with the Crutcher Foundation. And I have to just say thank you to everyone in Tulsa because when I said to Dr. Crutcher who works on these justice issues every day, like, can I bring 200 people to your office? She was like, what? Sure. Okay. And so we literally split everyone into these four groups of 50 and we rotated people through Greenwood all day. Wow. And people time to process and they'd been to museums and journalist offices and the Greenwood Cultural Center and the John Hope Reconciliation Park. And some people needed to cry and some people needed to talk about it. And we rented out a bar and we were like, do whatever you feel like you need to do. Have a beer when you go home. When you talk about our wedding, please tell this story. Because like, plenty of people get married, but we need to make sure that this is a story that doesn't get, you know, pulled off the bookshelves in schools like we're seeing now. Wow. That's so beautiful. It was gnarly like a lot of people cried. But what's been beautiful about it and what I find so special is I, you know, I know it can be painful to look back at history like this. It's painful for communities. And it's hard to know that we come from humans that do this to each other, right? But what always gives me a hope when I learn hard history is the people that are helping now. So it felt special to say, you need to know about this. And here's all the people who have rebuilt a community from the ground and are continuing to do so. When you want to know what to do about things that are this hard, look to these people and support their work. And that's where the inspiration comes. And that's where the joy comes. And that's where like the beauty out of things that were so ugly in the past, I think, comes in the present. And I'll be forever grateful that that whole community said, absolutely, tell us who you want to bring and tell us what you want them to learn about and the best people I know. Well, it's also nice to be married to somebody who's so aligned with your political leanings, right? And your human, well, your passion for human rights is probably a better way to describe it because it's been parsed as politics. And it's not political, but it has somehow has become political, your body, your race, all of it. So yeah, tell me about that, like kind of relationship, having somebody who's totally on the same page as you because I don't know. I've never really felt completely aligned with a person that I was dating politically. Like we might have some of the same beliefs, but still there's a lot of disagreement. Yeah, I get that. I think what you first said is really important, right? This idea that people deserve to be treated equally shouldn't be political. The idea that whether you are a woman or you are a member of a historically repressed community, you're not supposed to just be there to serve the ruling class. We don't live in the French aristocracy. And yet there's a lot of folks in our country who love a modern day aristocracy because they get really, really rich. And the LOL to me is always that they're the people who yell at us for being rich. And I'm like, I'm paying a 30 year mortgage on my house. Like having had a down payment is certainly a privilege, but Tucker Carlson is so rich. Like that guy makes $46 million a year and he's yelling at us. We're out here like making independent movies for a dollar. I'm like, go fuck yourself, dude. So it's not lost on me. I won't ever say a bad word about Tucker Carlson. So don't try to beat me, Sophia. Yeah, I know. I know Chelsea, you're just, you're a classier broad than I, but you know, it's not lost on me that people make money off convincing the populace that our basic human rights are political. And I think because things have gotten so hot, like the pot is boiling, right? Everybody's real jumpy and people feel like their identity is tied to politics. I don't feel like that. It just feel like I'm not a ding dong who doesn't get that equal is equal and unequal isn't. And so that's sort of my first place. And I will say it is hard to find a partner regardless of how progressive so many of the men we know are, you know, if you're looking for a heterosexual relationship, a lot of guys are like, yeah, I'm all in. But then when it's their girl, that's the bright, shiny one, or their girls, the one who draws the attention or their girls, the reason they get invited to the White House or their girl makes more money than them. Suddenly what they say they believe in is egotistically very difficult. And so what I think is really important is for me at least having found a human being who had entered a stage in his life where he said, okay, I'm saying I want to meet the woman of my dreams, where I'm not aligned with what I say. But he had to confront some things. And so did I, I had to, he had to confront the ways in which he could actually metabolize what masculinity and patriarchy does in relationships, even unconsciously for someone as evolved as he is who has three master's degrees and loves the environment and was a teacher and all this stuff. He had to really do some inquiry about the way society kind of steeps us in these teas that are gross. And I had to do some real inquiry and go, oh, I've been in relationships with people who didn't deserve me. It's been my fault because I've tolerated somebody's ineptitude and competitiveness. So as much as past relationships in certain circumstances were trash, I took trash home with me. So, no, two-fault system here. And I had to really get clear on where I was going to realign my boundaries. And I also had to get clear on how those experiences and other traumas I'd been through had made me really hard. And I don't mean hard to be around. I mean, hard to like emotionally penetrate. I was going to say hard to penetrate emotionally. And like what? Emotionally, like hard to get into the heart all the way. I've had such walls and I have such healthy emotional relationships with my friends. My platonic relationships are so loving that I was kind of like, I'm good. And I had to really do some work on getting vulnerable in a way where I could not only have a rallying cry for us, for community, for justice, but I could also gently cry and say, this is really hard for me. I need help. This is where I need support. This is where I normally isolate and say, fuck you, I don't need you to carry that for me. And now I'm like, will you please just put my bag in the overhead bin? I'm so tired. And so in a way, we had to meet on so many levels. And interestingly, in analyzing how society affects relationships between men and women, I think it made it so clear that the community politics that we believe in was like, for sure the easiest part, dealing with your own internal, individual psychosis is way harder, at least in my recent experience than aligning with somebody politically, because every ding dong they tried to date me that then was like mad about female success. I was just like, bye. Yeah, it's very true what you say about how people say they're one thing and they're down with it and they're with it and they're supportive of women. And then it becomes a totally different story when you come face to face with it in a romantic relationship. Yeah. And I wonder about this for somebody like you, because you are one of the most successful women in our industry, you are brilliant. You're always the funniest person in the room, which has to be hard for people who like to be funny. And you have not only always been at this level of success, but you've also so publicly shown what it's like to continue evolving and growing and getting like squishier and more tender and your political lessons you learn out loud and in public, which is such a beautiful model for people. And sometimes I think about it when men are obsessed with you, as most of them are, where I'm like, you knew exactly what you were getting into. That's Chelsea fucking Handler. Nothing is a surprise. I know. It's like there are six books about it. So if we could pick one up and it'll cover all your basis. She's a badass. She's this person. Did you think at home? She was going to be like, Oh, honey, sweetie, baby. What can I do? Your feet like. With my apron on all of a sudden, I'm just like living two parallel lives. Okay. So Sophia, well, thank you for those accolades. I feel the same way about you. You're always constantly learning and evolving and sharing and you're brilliant. You're so fucking smart. I remember the first time I hung out with you and I think it was Connie Britton was with us and then Cindy leave. Not the first time, but one of the times we spent together was when Connie and I were driving home and I was like, fuck she's smart. I was like, she is smart. And it's not, I mean, not to put everyone else in this industry down, but it's just always really encouraging when you sit down next to somebody at a Hollywood event and you're like, blown away, you know, so there's that anyway. I what we're going to do is we have live callers calling in or wrote writing in and we're just going to tell them what to do with their lives. Okay. So I think we're both totally both very well equipped for this partnership today. Absolutely. The multiple degrees I have in psychology. No, I don't make me qualified for this. I'm self certified, which is much different than a degree, a certification. I'm like a, like a masseuse, a massage therapist. And then someone goes, where'd you train and you're like on people? University of Phoenix. Like Malcolm Gladwell has that whole 10,000 hours theory, right? And I'm like, well, 10,000 hours of like therapy and psychedelic therapies and the retreat I've done and the places I've gone and the fact I have to be a professional at this by now. Yeah, I agree with that. Yeah. And I think I don't even think it need, you need 10,000 hours. I think if things, if you're smart enough, I think you need half that time. Perfect. Okay, Catherine, what do we have in store? Oh, first we'll take a quick break and then we're going to come right back. Okay. During the summer of 2020, some Americans suspected that the FBI had secretly infiltrated the racial justice demonstrations. And you know what? They were right. I'm Trevor Aronson and I'm hosting a new podcast series. It's the FBI. Sometimes you get to grab the little guy to go after the big guy. Each season will take you inside an undercover investigation. In the first season of Alphabet Boys, we're revealing how the FBI spied on protesters in Denver. At the center of this story is a raspy voiced cigar smoking man who drives a silver hearse. And inside his hearse we look like a lot of guns. He's a shark. He's on a good and bad ass way. He's in nasty sharks. He was just waiting for me to set the date, the time, and then for sure he was trying to get it to happen. Listen to Alphabet Boys. On the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What if I told you that much of the forensic science you see on shows like CSI isn't based on actual science? The problem with forensic science in the criminal legal system today is that it's an awful lot of forensic and not an awful lot of science. And the wrongly convicted pay a horrific price. Two deaths sentences in a life without parole. My youngest, I was incarcerated two days after her first birthday. I'm Molly Herman. Join me as we put forensic science on trial to discover what happens when a match isn't a match and when there's no science in CSI. How many people have to be wrongly convicted before they realize that this stuff's all bogus. It's all made up. Listen to CSI on trial on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Lance Bass and you may know me from a little band called NSYNC. What you may not know is that when I was 23, I traveled to Moscow to train to become the youngest person to go to space. And when I was there, as you can imagine, I heard some pretty wild stories. But there was this one that really stuck with me. About a Soviet astronaut who found himself stuck in space with no country to bring him down. It's 1991 and that man, Sergei Krakalev, is floating in orbit when he gets a message that down on Earth, his beloved country, the Soviet Union, is falling apart. And now he's left defending the Union's last outpost. This is the crazy story of the 313 days he spent in space. 313 days that changed the world. Listen to the last Soviet on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And we're back. Yes, we are. I actually have a perfect question for the conversation we've just been having. It was question number four and now it's jumping to number one. But this is like the top 40. It's like Saturday afternoons with Casey Ksome. Yes. So this is from back. The singer? Same question. Right? Just be easy. Sure, it's a back. I would be thrilled to give advice to back. But I would exchange it for performed songs. Be like, I like to question every questions a song. We'll be a concert. Anyway, you reeled the conversation. I'll be a conversation. What does Beck BEC want to know from us? So Beck says, dear Chelsea, first off, I'm a huge fan of the show and have listened regularly since day one. You guys keep me accountable and encourage me to try and grow. Here's my problem. I'm in a long term relationship with a man who has only in the last year or so started to share worrying opinions. We have one six month old baby together and another on the way. Whoopsie doodle. That's pretty quick, which makes it hard to know what is the right thing to do in this situation. My partner recently has started to openly and overtly express his opinions on an array of different groups and conspiracies of late. I think Jordan Peterson, think Russell Brand, COVID is a hoax, women are out for blood, the world is ending. Russia are the good guys. Today, he said something along the lines of, today's woke agenda is so mortifying. It's all just a group of white women acting marginalized and campaigning for people who don't want their help. I bite my tongue most of the time because these conversations almost always go nowhere and he's not open to hearing my counter argument. He spends all his time on YouTube watching alien conspiracy videos and thinking he's smarter than everyone else. This is not the man I originally started a relationship with or even the man I planned to have children with. He seems to be going deeper and deeper into his way of thinking at an alarming rate. What the fuck do I do? Thanks back. Yikes. That is not a good situation. This is not... No. I mean, you're going to have to skedaddle, unfortunately. I mean, you can't reason with somebody. Anybody who's reading conspiracy theories online is gone. They've left the building and it's not your job to get them back. I mean, I'm really sorry to hear. Well, I mean, I'm happy. I'm sure you are happy that you have your daughter and that you have one on the way. Or I'm sorry. I don't know if it was a daughter or son. I missed that part, but you have one child and you've one on the way. I understand how difficult this is going to be, but you're going to be a champion if you just get yourself out of this situation because if you can't listen to your point of view and you're not having...this is such a big, huge sign for you to get out and explain to him that you can't be with somebody who's reading, make it up stories on the internet. Like the least likely scenario is the least likely scenario. So anyone who doesn't have the gift of critical thinking or has learned about that and how to understand what's true and what's not, that's not somebody that you want even around your children. So you immediately have to draw a line in the sand and let him know this is A, on a acceptable, I'm not down with this, you're scaring me. And if you're not going to do something about it and actually get some help or be open-minded to my opinions and actually have real conversations, which it's just too far gone anyway, he's already wrapped up in his nonsense. I think you just got to get out of there. Sophia? Yeah, I mean, I don't know how you come back from it. I understand there is a toxicity in those algorithms where when you start to look, suddenly that's all you see. And I think it's important to understand that it is being under an influence. It's like this guy's doing heroin. Conspiracy theories are a drug and they are designed to make you addicted and the psychology of them. If you do any light study proves that the way they work is they make people feel special because they get to say, I know something you don't know. I have the information you haven't found yet. It's not grounded in reality. Something that I have found really helpful recently, I've been very horrified to learn that someone who I have loved for a very long time has gotten on the edges, sucked into the Jordan Peterson world. And the thing that I saw get through, it wasn't saying Jordan Peterson defends rapists, defends the sex trafficking of children. He believes Andrew Tate is a good guy. He is a misogynist in a suit. He's like a guy who beats his wife, dressed up like a college professor. That's who Jordan Peterson is. None of that cracked. But when I said, so the generations of global study about equity aren't swaying you, but this one guy who's speaking in a way that you think is deep, who charges $49.99 a month to teach you how to be a man, seems like the guy. The guy with all the answers makes you pay him to give them to you. It's just like Tucker Carlson. He makes $46 million a year to lie and just this week, all those text messages were published about him making fun of Donald Trump and making fun of Rudy Giuliani and calling them all a bunch of lunatics and saying there was no voter fraud and they all knew from the beginning, but they pushed the lies on Fox News because they made money. People are taking brains like this woman, Beck's husband's hostage for profit. And if that truth can't give him just enough of a cold water shock to look elsewhere, then you know, to Chelsea's point, he's way too far gone and it's heartbreaking. And I can't imagine having to leave the person who I thought was the love of my life, but I wouldn't let a heroin addict around my children. And that's what these conspiracy theories. Hey, mad to that. Yeah. There is no reasoning your way out of it. I think if he'll agree to like find some counseling with you or maybe you just need to talk to a therapist by yourself because my guess is he's probably going to say no, you could try that, but it does sound like there is an exit in your future. Beck. Yeah. And pick up some bone broth on the way. I mean, Sophia is drinking it and she's as sharp as a tack. So I have heard lots of good things about it. And did you make that yourself because it looks like iced coffee? Like it's that thick and anxious. I make my own bone broth. I make my own too. This I did not make because it's been a crazy week. So I did the Bougie LA thing and I went to air one and I was like, look at me. I'm one of these. You paid $49.99 for expensive jar. This is 12 ounces of bone broth. So yeah, on Monday I'll be making more of my own because I have a mortgage to pay, like I said earlier. Yeah. People are always shocking. When they open up my freezer, like, why are there just a bunch of bones in here? Yeah. Keep mine in a paper bag in the freezer because it's less upsetting to the people who come over to me and the people who often come over here. I realized the like gallon Ziploc was a little traumatizing for now. It was a brown paper bag and nobody has to know what's in there but me. Yes, exactly. People are like, what'd you get your husband for your wedding? I'm like, a bag of bones. I don't know what I would do. I know. Well, I mean, I just don't understand how. I mean, how long could they have been to? They've had to been together or at least over a year. And how does somebody keep their opinions like that? I once had a boyfriend who blurted out something. We were going to lunch and I had dated him for a while and he hadn't said he wasn't really in a politics but like he didn't really know what he was talking about about anything but he never spoke about them. So it wasn't that upsetting, right? But then once we were at lunch and he goes, God, this fucking Bill Gates guy running everybody's healthcare into the ground, why does he get to be like the health czar for America? And I remember going, what? What? What are you talking about? He said, why is everybody listening to Bill Gates? And just went on this Bill Gates and I was like, oh, you've read, you're listening to people who talk about conspiracy theories. But it's insidious. Like there, there is a person in my life who like is not conservative and you know, they are very staunchly independent. They vote with who they like. Every once in a while, something will slip out of their mouth. That's like a little foxy doodles over there. You know, and it's just like it's in, it's insidious. Like some of these ideas are woven through like actual journalism and sneaks in there sometimes depending on what you're reading. You know what's interesting to me that I'm just remembering about what she said? This notion that her husband is parroting that now progressive politics is just white women supporting people who don't want their support. I'm like, oh, you can't read between the lines at the deep patriarchy in that? Because what the nightmare of the conservative white man is, is that the women they want to marry who look like the three of us get over their bullshit and we join up with all the people they've been oppressing forever. So now they're like, no, no, no, don't let the, don't let those white women come and listen in your rooms. Oh no. Like, are you worried that so many of us are going and paying attention or you know what I mean? It's such a tactic. It's like separating communities, pitting different communities against each other and it's been so beautiful this year and this past year, I guess, is more accurate in the wake of all this horrible community violence to see groups coming together like black and Asian communities advocating alongside each other. 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I'm Sarah, 32 years old and according to my friends, I have one of these so-called sugar daddies. To give a little background, I was raised with my three siblings by our loving single mother. My father was a deadbeat, so I have the typical daddy issues people associate with that. When I was 20 in a Florida college, I met an older man, the age of my father, at my apartment complex. We became fast friends in a short amount of time and started going to lunch and dinners together. He always paid and he started taking me shopping and paying for my car oil changes, etc. When I moved across the country, he gifted me $5,000 to help me get started. We talk or text daily or at least every few days and he's been such a great friend with consoling me when I had a few breakups and actually when my father passed, he was so easy and supportive to talk to. Anyway, I feel I made a mistake telling my friend of two years about my relationship with this older man. She brings it up in front of others at social events and seems to want to make fun of me, laughing and saying I have a sugar daddy. She repeatedly tells me how she's baffled that my husband is okay with this. It's embarrassing to me the way she makes it seem like I'm having sex with the man insinuating that I'm doing anything inappropriate. He's more of a father figure to me than I've ever had. I have two children and they call him pop pop. He always remembers our birthdays and sends a card. I'm so frustrated with my friend and have explained to her that he's like my father as her father is to her. Should I confront her and what could I possibly say to her now? When it's just me and her, she's sweet as pie. Around others, she takes on this bully persona, always saying that I should have my sugar daddy pay for our dinner and drinks and letting everyone know about my situation. To me, he has no wife or children. He's wealthy and I'm not. It's very kind. All the help he's given me over the 12 years we've been close. I'm proud to have a real friendship with someone that is not a likely bestie being that he's 60 and I'm about half his age. Thank you and take care, Sarah. Well, that's confusing. But they're not sleeping together. I know, but it's still confusing because you're taking money from a stranger. Like I find that to be, I don't know how I feel about that. Honestly, I think it's lovely. This man's probably very lonely and he's attached to this gal and her kids and doesn't seem to be a creepy situation. I mean, first of all, you definitely talked to your friend to stop ringing it up because that you didn't tell her for her to be making fun of you and you're not in a sexual relationship, right? So you need to tell her. Yeah. I guess, you know, I say that yet I've given money to strangers and they've taken it, but that's not, I feel like it's different coming from a man yet. I also understand that this man is probably like seeking out a relationship with her as a daughter figure too. It sounds like as long as he's not ever tried to hit on you, which would be completely unacceptable. So I don't know. I'm conflicted. It doesn't sound like there's anything untoward happening, but also, yeah, it's like something to think about. So you know what's interesting is I realized as you got through the letter that this is a 10 year relationship, and when she said, you know, that it's not a sexual relationship, I went, oh, same, because if I had a friend who was 21, who had a 50 year old neighbor who was trying to take her out and buy her stuff, I'd be like, don't you fall down that rabbit hole. Right. However, 10 years in, to your point, it really does sound like a very paternal relationship. And like you said, Chelsea, if he's never hit on her, he's never made her uncomfortable. He knows her husband. He knows her children. You know, what it makes me think of is we have this lovely neighbor. I mean, well, we, a neighbor I grew up with at my parents house, our sweet neighbor, Charlie, is an elderly man in our neighborhood who doesn't have a family. He is like the Pasadena historian. He knows everything about everything in nature. He can tell you the Latin name of any tree. He is just the sweetest old man. And when our family moved into the neighborhood and my grandpa would come visit, we'd go out on walks and my grandpa and Charlie struck up a conversation one morning. And from that year, Charlie has spent the holidays with my family. How are you? I love that. After my grandfather passed away, we, you know, we used to call him our bonus grandpa. And after my grandfather passed away, Charlie still spends all of the holidays with my family. It's been 25 years now. And no, you know, Charlie's not like some man of means who's like giving money away to everybody, but he's a really important person in our life. And we are his family. And I think that those relationships are meaningful. And so I get why the dynamic of this guy being financially supportive rings the alarm bells of older guy taking advantage of younger women, but he's never tried to fuck her. He seems to be seeking a family. And who is this person to judge anyone else's family and how they make it is really where I land as I go through the sort of stream of consciousness list that I'm making with you. Well, and it sounds like she's not even living in the same state as him anymore. So I mean, probably not anything untoward there. My parents always talk about this concept of giving with warm hands. My dad is in elder law, so he helps a lot of people prepare for their eventual death and where they want to leave their money. But for my parents, it's always been really important to give with warm hands, like give while they're still alive. So they give a lot to charities and they help out people that they love. They've certainly helped me out. And it sounds like that's kind of what he wants to do. You know, he has this and he's able to do that. But I do think Charles is right, the friend. Sometimes people will rib you about stuff and like not realize you're actually pretty offended by it. So maybe if you talk to this friend, I also think there's something that needs to be explored there. And I know people get real touchy when their egos get pressed, but it sounds like this friend has a dynamic of jealousy. And if she's just with her best friend, she can love her best friend. But when she sees the way people react to her best friend, she needs to get competitive. And it really sounds like this woman. I don't think she's doing it to be mean. She's not conscious. She's doing it. But it really sounds like she has some self-engry to do to figure out why she needs to nag her friend in front of other people. Why is she trying to knock her down a notch in front of others? Like you need friends who want to lift you up and who want to push you in front of them when an opportunity comes around. And I think you might be well off to ask your friend, why do you want to make me small in front of other people? It's really hurtful. Yeah, yeah, definitely. You can confront that issue. And we've decided that the other relationship is okay. We said we talked through it. Yes. Sarah let us know how it goes with your friend and we wish you the best of luck. But we'll stick a quick break and we'll be right back. During the summer of 2020, some Americans suspected that the FBI had secretly infiltrated the racial justice demonstrations. And you know what? They were right. I'm Trevor Aronson and I'm hosting a new podcast series, Alphabet Boys. As the FBI sometimes, you get to grab the little guy to go after the big guy. Each season will take you inside an undercover investigation. In the first season of Alphabet Boys, we're revealing how the FBI spied on protesters in Denver. At the center of this story is a raspy voiced cigar smoking man who drives a silver hearse. And inside his hearse we look like a lot of guns. He's a shark and not on the good and bad ass way. It was a nasty shark. He was just waiting for me to set the date, the time, and then for sure he was trying to get it to happen. Listen to Alphabet Boys. On the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. What if I told you that much of the forensic science you see on shows like CSI isn't based on actual science? The problem with forensic science in the criminal legal system today is that it's an awful lot of forensic and not an awful lot of science. And the wrongly convicted pay a horrific price. Two deaths sentences in a life without parole. My youngest, I was incarcerated two days after her first birthday. I'm Molly Herman. 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This is the crazy story of the 313 days he spent in space. The 313 days that changed the world. Listen to the last Soviet on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Okay, and we're back. Oh, hello. Well, Soviet, is there any advice you'd like to ask of Chelsea? Oh, man. Yeah. I'm really curious about something because I'm in this process right now. And when you work on projects and you get to travel and you work with all these crews, for me anyway, it has resulted in some really outsized nostalgia. And I'm really curious because you do a similar thing. How do you decide what nostalgic memory items, trinkets, chocchkes you keep, and what goes so that your house doesn't get cluttered? Because your house is very organized. And I feel a little bit like I live in somebody's grandma's house. Like there's just shit everywhere. Oh, yeah. No, you can't be a hoarder. No. I have a hoarder tendency and I don't know what to do about it. I know. But memorabilia of our own little trinkets or reminders are fine. I'm not really a sentimental person. So all of my stuff, I don't know who saves my stuff, quite frankly. I mean probably my relatives or my assistants or something like I don't have a thing about like I opened my cabinet the other day and there was like 85,000 books of ours. I'm like, why are we keeping these? I don't need my own books. Let's bring them on tour or sell them, like get rid of them, give them some charity, whatever. I have the opposite mentality because I just feel like everything's being recorded anyway. Who cares? It's not my stuff. Yeah. All of the things you've done are like there forever and ever and ever and ever. So why are we pictures are the most important things to me? That's all I care about our pictures. Yeah, I have a lot of pictures. I frame letters, but I'm one of those people who keeps every ticket stub from every concert I've ever. Oh yeah, no, no, no, no, no. I'm new to the book and I'm like, I think I'm running out of the room. I don't know where to put things anymore. I know. I know. It's good just to make as like photocopies of all of it because what are you really ever going to do? Look through your ticket. What are you saving them for like your grandchildren? I don't know. So yeah, I would say less is more Sophia. I would say get rid of a lot of things. I've memories you just need. You just need the pictures of the memories. You just need a picture of you at the concert. I mean, another reason that I don't have to save anything is because I'm not having any children. So I'm not having any grandchildren. So it's up to my nieces and nephews to preserve my legacy. That'll be a nice challenge for them. Send them the box of books. Yeah. Thank you, Sophia, for being on today. I love you so much. And I'm so happy we got to connect. I know. Me too. We both connect in person when I'm back in LA. Okay. For sure. I'll hit you up. Otherwise I'm going to mail myself to Whistler soon. Well, you can come here too. I knew everyone's invited to pass through. Okay. Okay. Thank you. Thanks, Sophia. Love you. I'm so nice to meet you, Catherine. Likewise. Bye-bye. And don't forget everybody. My new special revolution is now streaming on Netflix. And it's badass. And then I'm doing a tour, a little big bitch tour. You can go to ChelseaPandler.com for tickets. I've added some new dates. I added a date in Monticello, New York. I'm coming to Colorado to Red Rocks and Pethita. I'm coming to Kalam, New Zoo. And then I'm coming to a bunch of places in Tennessee, Memphis, Knoxville and Chattanooga. That's May 19th, 20th and 21st. And then I'll be in Atlantic City, June 10th, which is almost sold out. So get your tickets. So if you'd like advice from Chelsea, just send us an email at deerchelsiepondew.com. And you can find us at deerchelsiepondew.com. Deerchelsie is a production of iHeartRadio, produced by Catherine Law and edited and engineered by Brad Dickert. Alphabet Boys is a new podcast series that goes inside undercover investigations. In the first season, we're diving into an FBI investigation of the 2020 protest. It involves a cigar-smoking mystery man who drives a silver herse. And inside his horse would look like a lot of guns. Are federal agents catching bad guys or creating them? He was just waiting for me to set the date, the time, and then for sure he was trying to get it to happen. Listen to Alphabet Boys on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. What if I told you that much of the forensic science you see on shows like CSI isn't based on actual science? And the wrongly convicted pay a horrific price? Two deaths, that isn't a life of that parole. My youngest, I was incarcerated two days after her first birthday. Listen to CSI on trial on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Did you know Lance Bass is a Russian-trained astronaut? That he went through training in a secret facility outside Moscow, hoping to become the youngest person to go to space? Well, I ought to know, because I'm Lance Bass. And I'm hosting a new podcast that tells my crazy story and an even crazier story about a Russian astronaut who found himself stuck in space with no country to bring him down. With the Soviet Union collapsing around him, he orbited the Earth for 313 days that changed the world. Listen to the last Soviet on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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