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Hi.
Hi Chelsea.
Hi.
Hi.
Hi.
I'm very, very vibrant this morning.
Oh, I don't know.
Yeah.
Because I haven't had a drink for a couple days, and I just feel so much better when I don't
drink, but obviously that's not going to last, so I had tried to take a couple down days,
you know, but I mean, with summertime, it's just very difficult.
Too many social engagements, too much traveling.
The most amount of time I spend sober is probably on an airplane.
I don't like to drink on planes.
It does make you feel extra yucky when you get off the plane, you're like, yeah, I don't
like to mess with that.
I like to get on a plane, take a Xanax, go to sleep, wake up, and feel fresh as a daisy.
Oh, that's the way to do it.
I once took an out of an on a flight and like watched an entire movie.
For God, I watched the movie.
Welcome to my whole fucking life.
I don't even, I've watched entire series and not remembered.
That I've seen them until like rewatching them and being three episodes in.
Yeah.
I'm a hot mess.
Sometimes I'm like half asleep, you know, I like to fall asleep to television.
I know they say don't do that, but I got this amazing rose quartz face mask that I sleep
on.
Is it cold?
Well, it feels cold.
It gets warm in the night, but it's like just because it's crystals, so I have a full
face one and I have a half face one.
I've been sleeping with that and any under eye puffiness or swelling or anything like
that.
It just gets everything out.
So I've been, I'm, I'm really into that lately.
Anyway, I go to sleep with the TV on.
I put my own my rose quartz mask and then eventually I turn the TV off.
I love it.
I mean, who's paying attention to television anymore?
Anyway, I mean, it's so hard to pay attention to anything because we all have such ADD,
ADHD, ADD, bipolar disorder, multiple personality, borderline, anyway, okay, guys, we have added
more shows to my little big bitch tour because I'm coming all over.
We added a second show at the Pantages in Los Angeles.
So that's October 12th and Friday the 13th, which is my favorite day of the year.
We added a second show in Boston at the weighing center.
September 29th and 30th is in two shows in New York.
I also have a show in Hampton, East Hampton, New York, August 26th.
We added a second show in Portland.
So Thursday, November 2nd, Friday, November 3rd in Portland, November 4th and 5th in San
Francisco, two shows there.
We added a second show in Seattle, November 10th and 11th.
Two shows in Boston are November 16th and 17th at the Bach Center, a weighing theater.
And I'm also coming to Toronto and Montreal and Ottawa and so many other cities, Columbus,
Cincinnati, Detroit, Louisville.
So I will see everybody at all of these shows.
Thank you.
Get your tickets at ChelseaHandler.com.
Chelsea, have you always believed in something beyond our physical world, like what we can't
see sort of thing, maybe not a higher power, but an afterlife?
I mean, I guess, yeah, I know.
I mean, I hoped so, right?
Like I think when I was younger, I believed in God because that was instilled in me that
there was a God.
And then as I became in my teens, I was questioning it a lot, but always kind of, I've always
felt like there's something personally like watching over me.
Like protecting me, like I've always felt like, oh, there's something protecting me.
There's something steering me.
I'm accountable to this invisible eye in the sky.
So when there's a choice to make the good decision or the bad decision, I always make
the good one because I feel like I, there's a witness.
Yeah.
Meanwhile, that's like a fantasy.
But as I've grown older and I think my brother's death and my mother's death makes me believe
in mysticism, makes me believe in the other, I believe there is a universal intelligence.
The more that I've read and discovered and then therapy also really made me, I always
went to psychics and stuff because I like that kind of stuff.
Yeah.
But I never necessarily always believed it, but sometimes it's just very comforting.
And I think that now that I've witnessed all those little miracles, like I was yesterday
looking at, I took my girlfriends are in town and I went to take them to my new house.
That's going to be ready never.
And today.
They're like, it'll be ready in August.
My girlfriend's like, there's no way this house is going to be ready in August.
Everyone's like, there's no way I'm like, watch.
That's how it's, by the way, that you were talking about renovating when this blog
has started.
I know.
I know.
It's been, I mean, it's just the joke is on me.
I can't believe how much time I've spent in rentals, wasting money while anyway.
But my friend, we left there and we're at the interlaced side with a couple girlfriends.
And my friend was like, oh, did you see that hummingbird just circling your front door
when we were walking in?
She goes, you were talking to the contractors and the designers.
And there was a hummingbird just circling, circling, circling.
And then when we walked in, so a psychic had said to me, you know, your mother, the way
your parent, your mother, and a lot of dead people come back are as birds, whatever.
So that's easy because you can always, yeah, if you're a cynic, you can be like, well,
there are birds everywhere.
But a hummingbird specifically.
And they also told me, watch out for nests when you move into a place or you have a house,
watch out for nests in weird places because your mother is forming nests.
And that's where she hangs out is around your house.
In Whistler, my property guy called me and he goes, you know, you have a nest right
outside your front door.
There's a bunch of hummingbirds up here.
Oh my God.
And I was like, what?
So yesterday, this was six months ago.
Yesterday, my friend was like, you know, there was a hummingbird outside your door and I
go, you didn't tell me that because yeah, it just kept circling the door, circling the
door, circling the door.
Like, why would it be doing that?
It's my mom gracing it or lusting it or saying like, she's here.
She's here.
That means, but and then when we were there, they're like, there's like three birds nest
at every entrance.
And I was like, three, he goes, yes, at every doorway in the back in the front and then
the doorway to the gym, he goes, there's three.
And I was like, oh, my God.
And I couldn't, I was just like, holy shit.
It was just crazy.
And so I was like, okay, I believe in that.
I thought is my mother.
She would be a bird coming back around me.
I do believe she was also my dog junk, but yeah.
So I do, I just, I think it's some more fun way to live.
And whatever you believe is true, it's true.
It's just like when you tell yourself negative things, they become true.
And when you tell yourself positive things, they also become true.
I think that's so true.
I love what you say about like, if you don't know what it means, that's still okay because
maybe you will in the future and maybe you won't.
I tend to see the numbers one, two, three, four constantly, which seems like, well, those
are the first four numbers.
Also like, on a clock, like half the time I look at a clock, it's one, two, three, four.
And I don't exactly know what it means.
I tried looking it up and numerology and stuff.
And it seems to mean that when you see it, you're on the right track and you're in your
growth and you're learning, which I like.
But I'm like, I feel like there's some deeper meaning.
And I feel like one day it's going to hit me like a ton of bricks.
Yeah.
Numbers are important too.
Like I told my aunt when my cousin died, she was obviously, you know, never going to
be the same.
And I said, you know, she doesn't believe in any of this.
I go, you have to think of something, think of something so obscure that only he would
know about.
It's just make it up in your mind, communicate to him in your mind that you need to see
these numbers or these letters or the symbol.
She chose like XYZ, dead at a, she chose some random thing of numbers.
So she spent the whole, I go great.
Now look everywhere, just look at, in all the strangest places.
So she's looking at license plates, she's driving around looking and seeing if she could
find this weird combination of lettering.
And then she picked up her phone and the numbers that those letters made out on the phone
was on her phone without making a call because it wasn't a full phone number.
Yeah.
It was just like five letters and it just, it was like, whatever that is on your phone.
And she said she looked at her phone in the middle of the day and she called me and she
was shaking.
She's like, oh my God.
That's him.
He's okay.
So what?
I have chills right now.
Yeah.
So I think that, you know, when we lose someone, we're so desperate to know that they're
okay.
And we suffer so much.
It's like they don't want us to suffer.
And I understand you have to grieve because you've lost someone.
But there is an attachment that real monks and Buddhists know not to attach, to know
not to attach to the physical form.
Of course you're attached emotionally, but it's not gone when that person dies.
They're just not here.
And while that's a huge loss, don't forget that there's the energy and the connection
and the love is still there and palpable.
Right.
I mean, even from a straight up physics perspective, energy doesn't disappear, right?
It transforms into something else, whether it's water becoming a gas, et cetera, et cetera.
But I think the same can be true of the literal electric energy that's in our bodies when
we're alive.
It doesn't just disappear and dissipate.
It has to transform into something else.
And when you are aligned with this universal intelligence that I speak of, like when you
believe that everything is leading you to the in the right direction and to trust your
instinct and gut and you don't resist uncomfortable circumstances or things that don't work out.
You don't let them drag you down so far.
Everything starts to get easier and that has happened in my life in such a major way that
I would be remiss to pretend that it wasn't part of a universal alignment.
Like I'm in my flow state.
I understand where things are going and even if things don't work out, I feel so optimistic
about all the work I've done and the direction I'm headed that I can handle it all.
And now I trust myself and before I didn't trust myself or there were times where I
didn't trust myself is a better way to put it.
It's a hard thing to learn when something's not going right.
Like, okay, this is a learning experience.
One of my actually supposed to take from this even though it's painful or awkward or annoying.
But you can get there, you know, to accepting that all of these things are learning experiences.
Yeah.
And the more experience you have, the more you realize a breakup is not the end of the
world.
A job, you're losing a job is not the end of the world.
A family member dying is terrible experience, but it's part of life and it's not the end
of the world.
Your world continues to exist.
So how do you want to move forward in that as a victim or as someone who's empowered
and understands that this universal intelligence is going to take and give and upset and like
enlighten, be open to all of the experiences.
And you know, I used to be such a baby and a brat if things didn't go my way.
I would, I would stop my feet and cry to get my way.
And I don't have to do that anymore.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So amen to that.
Yes.
For sure.
Which brings us to our very special guest.
Oh, you guys are going to like this.
So our next guest is doing a live tour currently.
Just nominated for an Emmy for his show on Netflix, which is called Life After Death.
And he is the star of Hollywood medium.
He's a recent Emmy nominee for his Netflix series Life After Death with Tyler Henry.
Please welcome.
Tyler Henry.
Oh, my God.
How cute are you?
I was so excited to talk to you.
I'm so excited to talk to you.
I barely slept away last night.
So I am looking forward to doing it.
Oh, my God.
You're so cute.
I think you're so, your whole vibe and energy is just so sweet and welcoming and comforting
to so many people.
It's so touching.
Well, thank you so much.
It means the world.
I feel the same way about you.
You have entertained me for years and brought so much joy to so many people.
So I'm excited.
Well, I'm less comforting, but more probably joy.
Yeah.
I can bring joy.
And I don't think comfort is what I'm bringing.
But that's okay.
Not everybody's here for everything.
You know, Catherine, this is my co-host.
Hi.
Oh, Catherine.
It's lovely to meet you.
Okay.
So I want you to tell me, I don't know if I have this story right.
I want to talk about your kind of OG story, your mom.
And I think I read that your mom was kidnapped as a young girl.
Is that accurate?
In essence.
Yeah.
I'm basically my mom as a baby was taken by a woman who we later found out took her.
And we for the first 20-something years of my life thought that this woman was my grandmother.
And indeed, we came to this family discovery that she was abducted and it led to a whole
kind of reunion with my biological family, which was captured on an Netflix show called
Life After Down.
Whoa, holy shit.
I mean, that is a lifetime movie come to roost.
It really was.
Oh, my God.
The woman who did this, who I thought was my grandmother for the first 20-something years
of my life ended up actually serving over 30 years in prison for the murder of two people.
And ended up actually involving her own family and having to bury the bodies and manipulated
the entire situation.
And, you know, it was a source of a lot of shame for my mom.
And then to find out that that wasn't even actually her mother, it was definitely heartbreaking
and also kind of relieving to know we weren't related to that person.
Oh, yeah.
I bet.
God, that must be such a hurdle to get over emotionally, to grow up thinking somebody's
one thing and then find out they're not multiple things.
Absolutely.
And there's something to be said about, you know, people living often with the sins of
their father and you hear all these tropes about how the apple doesn't fall far from the
tree.
And, you know, my mom grew up hearing those things and it was very taunting for her.
And so to realize, hey, you know, there wasn't even a biological link.
It was kind of healing.
Have you been able to help your mom on that front?
Yeah, definitely.
You know, in some ways, my own intuitive inclinations are kind of limited when it comes to reading
my own family.
And a lot of that has to do to implicit biases, you know, I kind of know too much.
I have my own hopes and fears about the people that I love and care about.
And so it was very difficult in my pursuit for answers to be able to really get any through
my normal kind of go to methods, but we were able to work with a leading genealogist.
I introduced my mom to another medium and we received a very compelling reading and
through all of that information was able to kind of get an understanding of what happened,
what led to this horrible event that affected so many.
Oh, gosh.
Yeah.
I wonder if that, you know, when we talk about intergenerational trauma, right?
I wonder how that affects you unconsciously.
Absolutely.
Oh, I've so often wondered too, you know, just how trauma and its effect over generations
and sometimes even kind of be inherited in certain proclivities or susceptibilities to
maybe even anxiety, you know, on some levels.
So I do know that shame is something very powerful and often does have a ripple effect.
And so to be able to tell that story in a way that was shared with millions of people,
I think was liberating and kind of reclaiming what happened and boning that narrative
and being the one to tell that story versus being ashamed of it.
And that show on Netflix life after death was just nominated for an Emmy.
So I should mention that too.
So if you haven't seen it, definitely go and see it because that is one crazy story.
Okay.
Let's talk about you and how you came into touch with your abilities.
Absolutely.
Well, for me, it really started when I was 10 years old.
I didn't recognize this as an ability initially.
I woke up one night in April of 2006 and just had this knowingness, this overwhelming feeling
that my grandmother was going to pass.
And from there, very quickly, I went into the room to try to share this with my mom.
And as I was explaining it to her, we literally in that moment received the phone call from
my dad that my grandmother had just died.
So that acted as a catalyst.
But when you're that young, you don't really recognize that as an ability.
It was just a moment of connection, a moment of knowingness that led to a series of other
moments of knowingness as time went on.
And was this the grandmother that was went to jail or is this your different one?
So thankfully, I had a very, very wonderful paternal grandmother who was my world.
And she made up for all the nastyness on the other side of the family.
But no, this was the grandmother who was my whole life.
And she was really kind of that introduction into what I would later do as a job.
Oh my God.
And so how does one, when you have abilities like this and you categorize yourself as a medium?
So how does one separate the knowing and the intuitiveness and the seeing that you have?
How do you separate that when you're living your real life and you're not working or you're
not trying?
Is that like a switch that you're able to flip easily?
You know, I kind of like in the medium side of things to a little bit of like a volume
dial in the sense that there's always background noise when I go about my life.
But I've had certain kind of processes or rituals or routines that I've created to allow
myself to kind of turn on and turn that volume dial up.
And then when I need to kind of go about my life and go grocery shopping, be able to kind
of turn it down.
And so that's kind of the best way to describe it.
But it certainly is a process of kind of navigating a constant sense of I'm trying to understand
what's mine and what's other people's and having that discernment.
And how do you feel there must be a sense of responsibility that you must feel?
As just a human decent person, right?
Because if I mean, I feel a sense of responsibility as a human being and I don't have that ability,
even though I kind of wish I did, I mean, who doesn't really, right?
I mean, you're the envy of it.
I mean, who doesn't want to be around somebody who can see, you know, the people that have
left your life or has some sort of psychic ability, which I think we're all innately born
with, right?
It's a matter of whether or not you're how in touch you are with the idea of it.
Absolutely.
About trust and, you know, we all get a first impression.
We all get a feeling when we shake someone's hand.
We all get a vibe when we enter into a room.
And so many of us just kind of discount that as, I was just a feeling, but so often it's
kind of a tool we're relying on and don't even realize.
So what was the biggest discover you made after the first thing with your grandmother?
I mean, obviously that's a huge discovery.
But what was the next thing that really cemented the idea that this was going to be a
play a major role in your future and your professional life?
Yeah.
So life very quickly changed for me at the age of 16.
I had an interaction with my math teacher of all things where I shared with her a message
that I was getting while I was sitting in class.
And again, it came through as a knowingness, almost akin to like a memory that hadn't
happened yet.
And when I showed this message with her, it involved her former relationship and her divorce
and what led to that.
And her former mother-in-law came through to let her know that she loved her like a mother
loved daughter, regardless of the fact that her relationship with her son had dissolved.
And it was just really healing and showed that there was power in these random moments
when they could be applied in the right way, in the right circumstances, and could actually
help make a transformative effect on someone's life.
And so that math teacher was interviewed actually on the Netflix show.
She was instrumental in helping me graduate high school at the age of 16 where I then went
on to try to become a hospice nurse because I figured, you know what, two birds, one stone.
And what happened when you tried to become a hospice nurse?
Well, this is the, no one's going to believe this, but I ended up reading the Dean of
my college.
And he literally ran into me one day and was like, Tyler, if you did for me, what you did
for me, you probably should just go in that direction more than, you know, doing the
hospice nursing thing.
And so in essence, I kind of always joke the Dean of the college gave me permission to quit
school.
And that's literally what happened.
And then, you know, life obviously went a very different direction as I got my show
when it was 19 years old.
Yeah.
Photos to you on that way to go.
Netflix doesn't miss a beat.
Yeah.
I just kind of felt guided into it.
Well, that's nice.
Congrats on that.
Are we going to do a little reading?
Is Tyler going to have?
Are you going to read me?
Are you going to read me?
Are you going to be me doing a little reading for Chelsea?
Yeah, so absolutely.
I would love to.
Well, let's take a quick break and we'll be back with Tyler and Chelsea.
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It's Las Vegas.
the 1990s, and it is time to find a husband.
There were four Jewish doctors who were felt
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One of them was Bob Bearman.
On paper, he was perfect, but in reality,
this guy is a wacko.
He choked into the point she went unconscious.
I would call him, and I would say,
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So as far as this reading goes,
I have my pen and paper here,
so I'm happy to scribble
and it might take about 30 seconds
for stuff to start coming through.
Information can come through about both of you,
so just kind of good to give this in mind.
Something might make sense for one,
the other might not so much.
And so we'll kind of go back and forth
if that happens, but I'm going to scribble
and then we'll kind of see which direction we go.
Now very often, what will happen
is information will come through around conversations
we've just had, family dynamics,
things we were just doing.
If anything too sensitive comes through,
I'll share it with you after the fact off recording,
but yeah, generally it just kind of helps me get a map
of where I'm going.
Like if my father's planning on coming back
and reincarnating himself during my life,
that would be problematic for me.
Of the, you know what, you know, I'm here, yeah, I'm here.
You know, it's something, something's funny
that I always say when I meditate
or when I'm feeling spiritually connected,
really like to the universe, and I do my mantras
or whatever I'm into at the time,
I always feel my mom and my brother,
but I never, ever feel my father.
And I'm like, I feel like he's getting,
he's in the spin cycle, like in purgatory,
making up for all of his bad behavior.
He's just a limbo, but you know,
it's working, working our way out the spin cycle.
Yeah, exactly, we're good.
Well, we'll see if anything comes through
because one thing I actually want to start with,
so immediately I have to highlight for some reason
when we talk about females within family,
I've been a big fan of you.
Of course, no, your mom has passed,
but I have to highlight for some reason,
acknowledgement also around an ant.
So if you have any answer to passed away,
it could be a way of just kind of trying to acknowledge that.
I like to relay exactly
as a symbology comes through kind of how I'm seeing it.
And that's one of the individuals,
I feel like I have to highlight in some kind of capacity.
Check and see within Chelsea, within your family,
if there's anyone who's passed away in their 60s,
that would be female.
So like, I don't feel like I get to hit my 70s.
I feel like I passed away kind of closer to my 60s
and it wouldn't be your mother.
So it would be somebody else.
And that's just kind of good to keep in mind.
Without giving any information away off the top of your head,
do you know of any females
who would have passed away in their 60s?
That would have been fine.
Yeah, my mom's sister Elka would have passed away
in her 60s.
So yeah, I have one ant, Elka.
So we'd kind of be going in that direction.
The way this keeps coming in
is like, you're having to talk about
that ant acknowledgment in the way this comes through
a couple of cancer susceptibilities
that would exist within family
that just need to be kept in mind generationally.
So as far as I know,
I believe your mom did deal with some kind of cancer.
Is that correct?
Yes.
I'm aware of that.
But I also feel like somebody else
may have also dealt with that susceptibility
that also comes through as being significant
and female in dealing with this kind of an earlier age.
So on mom's side of family,
do you know of any other females who dealt with cancer?
No, I don't.
No worries, any like cancer scares, cancer bouts.
When we talk about her sister,
do you know if she had any areas of concern in that area?
I forget how she died,
but it wasn't cancer, I'm pretty sure.
She had, I think she had heart issues.
Gotcha.
She seems like a very strong person's kind of way
to describe it in a sense of like strong will.
I'm not going anywhere.
I don't know why, but I have to highlight
more than one health related thing
and I'm putting it definitely more around her.
So just something to look into
and we'll kind of look and see if we can confirm with that.
I have to talk about some reference
in the way this comes across to somebody receiving a gift
and it would be an art piece, but it would be of a dog.
And this would be of a dog that passed.
So if somebody received some form of either an illustration
of a dog that died, I feel like I have to highlight
this event happening in some way.
If it hasn't happened yet, it may,
like we just ended up getting surprised by this gift,
but it would be something thoughtful
that somebody would do as like a rendition
to honor an animal that has passed away.
Yeah, I've had, it's plenty of those with my dog chunk
because chunk is such a public stud
that people sent me so many beautiful things
after he died and a lot of them were paintings and like, yeah.
That's sweet.
And it's really symbolic in the sense of when we see
these things, it's just those reminders
that we hold on to that feeling it kind of brings back
and the importance of holding onto that.
I also have to talk about Atlantic City
and this is just good to keep in mind.
I'm seeing Atlantic City and anytime I see Atlantic City,
I've been there before.
It's usually a place I attribute to casinos
in some capacity, but if there's any sentimental memories,
so do you know the significant memories
in that kind of area?
Well, that's where I met Bill Cosby,
so that was significant.
That's all right.
Well, significantly.
Hopefully, all the way.
Yeah, I was awake because, yeah, yeah.
Yes.
Will you remember it?
Yeah, I'm aware that it happened, so there's that.
But yeah, I perform in Atlantic City on every tour
of which I'm on one right now,
so my family usually comes down there
and I have a lot of pictures of the beach
in Atlantic City with my nieces.
Yeah, I have that.
One thing I want to look into is,
there's some acknowledgement.
I kept sharing a little birdie told me,
so anytime that comes through,
for some reason with your mom,
there's some connection as this comes through
with like a little bird visiting.
So if you find that like you win this hang,
when we hang off, if you like go to your window
and there's a little bird sitting there,
it's those kinds of things that often happen
that kind of validate what we hear in readings,
but I feel like there's some visitation
about being a little bird.
It's so funny, that's so true,
because I've heard this before,
and I've read about people in like the most common ways
that they show you signs from the other side,
and birds is obviously very common,
but someone once told me,
check for bird's nests outside of any place that you live,
like they're gonna be in weird places.
And like three months ago, I have a house in Whistler,
my, the guy who takes care of my house for me,
set me a picture of a bird's nest right outside the window
and he goes, oh my God, this bird's nest was here all winter.
Did you see it?
And I thought, oh, that's my mother.
Oh, I love that.
So that's just kind of, for me,
when things like that get brought up in a reading,
it's a way to kind of refer back to an event
you would be familiar with,
something that you can recollect,
and kind of almost validate as a way of saying that is indeed.
Either me or I know that you thought that was me
at the very least, and that for me is often very comforting.
I have to talk about the,
I woke up this morning hearing of the song Idol-wise.
Idol-wise, it's a song from,
I think the sound of music,
there's some darn sentimentality with that song.
And it will go back,
and it could go back to generation, even, but I'd always.
Well, my mom was German,
so she was from that neck of the woods.
I love it.
If there's some sentimentality,
if that song was played as a child for somebody on a music box,
just remember that I'm saying that, check into it.
Okay.
So I think we'll end up knowing where that fits.
It feels like we're kind of going back
in time on some kind of larger capacity.
Also, I have to ask, as it relates
to your kind of overall physical body,
one thing to consider is as we go to lower,
I keep in mind that you have a susceptibility
when it comes to legs of one leg being weaker than the other,
and just wanting to be mindful of this,
because for some reason when we're talking about balance,
I'm almost more inclined to worry about one,
like almost slipping up.
So that generally for me can sometimes indicate
like these susceptibilities, ankle susceptibilities,
anywhere we would have like a joint on one side,
more than the other,
just be mindful of that.
If you notice any issues,
because I don't think things are set in stone,
we can kind of, you know,
acknowledge his power on some greater sense.
One thing I want to talk about when we go to dad side
is when we do talk about that department,
one thing that I want to acknowledge,
when I focus on that symbology,
I do not get a lot,
but I will tell you what I get.
There's an acknowledgement of four dad,
either my symbology around what do we do with him,
where do we put him, where does he go?
If there was a decision around someone
either going into a nursing home
or having a rehabilitative kind of situation
where they need to be taken care of
through the help of like professionals,
there's some conversation around that
in some large capacity,
but what's interesting is there's this feeling of
if somebody was not,
or if people were not able to be there when he died,
there's this feeling of that's okay,
I went the way that I was supposed to go,
but sometimes people will come through and say like,
no, I needed everybody around me,
I'm not getting that feeling with him,
there's this feeling of,
I went and almost timed my passing,
and I don't know why,
but if somebody like almost intentionally went
when they went to avoid people,
but I don't mean to say it's such a kind of way,
but it just kind of feels almost like
not having everybody involved
when it comes to sending me off.
Well, that's how I want to go.
So, I mean, I totally relate to my father feeling that way
if that's how he felt.
It's definitely an interesting sense of timing my passing.
When it comes to dad's situation,
were there people around at the very end
or did he pass kind of more solo?
He wasn't with any of us.
Yeah, he was solo in one of those assisted living places.
So, the way that that comes in is basically,
some people live and feel like,
ah, I wish I would have been there,
I wish I could have been there.
For him, there's this feeling of like,
didn't need people to be there time my passing.
The interesting thing is I feel like
he kind of held on a little longer
than I would have even expected,
which is kind of strange.
He gives me an earlier knowledge of an earlier point
where I almost feel like we were like,
ready to say goodbye.
And then he pulls through in some capacity
in some larger kind of way
and then ends up passing a little later on.
And we're like, what?
Like we thought it was going to be the earlier thing.
Did you have any earlier situations?
Yes, we were hoping he would die a lot sooner
than he did because at a certain point,
it was just not a quality life.
And he was such a stubborn asshole
that he wouldn't die.
You know what I mean?
He was just like holding on tightly to his anger.
I remember when my sister called to tell me
that my dad died, my sister Shana called.
And I was in the car with my driver Billy
and she was crying and she goes, dad died this morning.
And I'm like, I said, why are you crying?
And she's like, I don't know.
We've been waiting for this for years.
Like not because we hate our dad.
I mean, he was disappointing on many levels,
but we all really loved him.
It was just that it was no way to live anymore.
So I think he definitely extended his life
about six or seven years longer than necessary.
With that, though, equally comes an awareness
of certain cognitive biases, certain cycles
that you as an individual have broken on a larger scale.
And there's just an interesting acknowledgement
when it comes to dad about dad not being able
to see things in life, being short-sighted
in a larger capacity.
And from where he's at now, I truly believe
there's a greater clarity in understanding that ripple effect.
Oh, I love that.
Of how both his actions and inactions
affected the people around him.
And I would really just say I don't get
maliciousness around him.
I just kind of get a sense of,
I feel like he might have sometimes offended people
without intending to offend them.
And it's almost like when someone says
the worst possible thing at the worst possible time,
but they thought they were being comforting,
there's something there that just kind of comes through
that if anybody feels he kind of had that quality,
there's an acknowledgement of wanting to wife that clean
of I see maybe perhaps the insensitivity
or my timing not always being the best,
but people maybe not understanding that
from his perspective.
So I don't really feel that about it.
Yeah, yeah.
Well, I definitely have a little bit
of what you're describing as well.
I was born with the ability to say
the wrong thing at the wrong time
or the right thing at the wrong time.
There you go.
You know, it definitely, it happens,
but there's definitely what I would say
is innocence of in hindsight and understanding.
Who was born in August?
My brother Roy.
Okay, now for some reason,
and this is just one thing to consider,
there's an acknowledgement around like one brother
and then another brother
and having to kind of separate the two for some reason.
Oftentimes objects that come through
have a lot more meaning than just their initial kind of application.
Check and see if anybody has any horse paintings.
Kind of a weird thing to say.
I don't know where it's coming from,
but like if somebody in the family made a painting of a horse
or has a painting of a horse, I don't know why it's not.
I've been called a horse before a horse face.
Is that what we're talking about?
Well, I think you're okay in that regard,
but it's kind of a weird generational thing.
I feel like I'm going back
and I'm not even entirely sure where to place it.
It could be switching gears to Catherine as far as this goes.
I definitely have some paintings of horses,
one specifically that was from my grandfather's house.
Okay, I feel like.
I want to kind of go to you
because I do sometimes get pulls
and I have to kind of go with those pulls
because they're inclinations
and we all have inclinations,
but yeah, I think there's something to inform in that.
So give me, let me scrub a really quick.
Catherine, one of the areas that does pop up
is just kind of a hypervigilance
around the feminine system.
That's usually ovarian, uterine, cervical,
but I'm kind of going to lower.
Again, this may not be something we've included.
No, I'm very open.
I've got endometriosis
and had surgery for that a couple of years ago.
So yeah.
Gotcha.
Gotcha.
I hope you're on the mend.
I just want to keep it in mind.
There's some acknowledgement around what I would view
as like susceptibility of inflammation,
fibroids ovarian cysts,
just kind of being mindful of that thing.
I'm just kind of clumps,
just being on top of that.
Catherine, in your family,
I'm just kind of curious,
checking to you if there were two passings
within a very relatively short period of time.
There's an acknowledgement of three years
and two people within family passing in three years.
So that comes in pretty strongly.
Do you know off the top of your head
like two passings in three years?
Yeah, I mean, I would definitely say
my two grandparents on my father's side
passed within two years of each other.
Gotcha.
Now, when we talk about the lung cancer susceptibility
things separately from this,
I would just look into it and see if perhaps
when we talk about dad side of family,
Catherine, for you,
do you know of any situations involving
three siblings on dad side?
Do we know what kind of situation?
It's basically,
so I have to highlight an acknowledgement of three
and it's generationally going back above you,
which usually will put that on dad's level.
Yeah.
My dad has three half siblings that he grew up with
and he has a lot of half siblings
that he did not grow up with.
So that could be what that is.
Okay.
Having to highlight the three generally
would be three that we're kind of more familiar with
in some capacity.
That's more for some reason.
I'm putting some kind of lung diagnosis,
lung prognosis.
Oh, yeah.
Okay.
I absolutely know what that is.
Yeah, my aunt Debbie died of emphysema
or like complications from emphysema.
Gotcha.
Which is one of those three.
Yeah.
So I definitely want to go there.
I just generally interpret anything.
There would be like a terminal lung thing
that's kind of the symbology I'll get
and that's what I was getting.
So I'm glad we figured out where it is.
All good as far as living people goes,
we're just kind of good to be on top of that.
And when you bring up like health issues,
is it as to heat a warning or is it to like,
I mean, when someone has already crossed over, say,
and you're acknowledging how they went,
is that a confirmation in a sense
that you're speaking to them?
Is that why they're like saying it,
like to confirm their presence?
So how someone passes is a big part of their life story
and some very often people's lives
and what they valued and who they were,
we'll come through,
but very often a way to kind of validate
will be kind of leading with what led to where I'm at now.
And that's usually will always a cause of death.
Oh, okay.
Well, that was very juicy and cute.
I like that little speed round.
Okay, so let's give some advice out.
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Our first email comes from Denise.
Dear Chelsea, I recently lost my mother unexpectedly
to a stroke and I'm pretty devastated.
This was the hardest thing I've ever gone through.
My mother was not only an amazing woman,
but also my best friend.
I used to talk to her two to three times daily
and she was my bouncing board for everything.
The constant pain I'm feeling is unbearable
and I'm learning about grieving.
They say that even though people die,
you can speak with them
and that they're still here with you.
I find myself having conversations with my mom,
but I don't know if it's me talking to myself
or is it her?
How do you know?
And when is too soon to see a medium?
All the best, Denise.
What a beautiful question, Denise.
I would just say, when it comes to seeing a medium,
it's important to do that when we've gotten to a place
in our grief where I think we've been able
to fundamentally process that physical loss.
A medium reading is not a care for grief
and it's important that we go through the process
of being able to find acceptance.
However, that looks to us in being hopefully able to see
grief counselors or find a sense of community
or find a sense of support before we go
and receive a reading.
So that would be my kind of general advice
when it comes to the protocol.
Largely though, I think when it comes to wondering
if they're there, if they notice, are they connected?
Those are all very normal questions to have.
And for me, I find in my own work,
one of the number one ways that they often seem to answer
is there's something called meaningful coincidence
called synchronicity and synchronicity happen
and very often they are moments where events line up
and we just kind of feel an uncanny sense of wonder
wondering, you know, was that you?
And I think that even those moments where we stop
and are kind of struck by the sense of questioning,
those very often are signs and ways to let them know
and affirm that they're still with us.
So not only are dreams a great way for people
to kind of come in, timing is also something important
to look at as a way that in a vehicle
which they communicate.
And I also want to add in like, you just have to believe.
Like if you believe it, then it's true to you, you know?
And like when I'm talking to my mom,
I never doubt it for a second because I want to believe it.
You know, I would recommend to try not to resist
the judgment of your communication with your mom.
People don't, you know, they're not gone.
The love that existed will always remain
and that is a piece of her that you will always have.
So it's never ever gonna leave like your aura
and your energy field, like that's your mom.
So you have to trust in that.
I think energetically to know like,
you think your mom is just gonna die
and just forget about you and disappear and did you?
No fucking way is your mom gonna do that.
And also like, what's the harm in believing that?
Like exactly.
You're a total cynic.
Like why not be like, I'm just having conversations
with my mom.
Well, and truly there's something to be said about
subjective, you know, truths and objective truths
and creativity, love, spirituality.
They exist very much on the meaning oriented arenas
and that's a, you know, big part of it.
So, you know, objective truths are the pursuit of science.
That's math, you know, that's technology.
Subjectivity exists in kind of a different realm.
One that is still valuable and still has meaning,
but doesn't necessarily have to be understood
by everybody around you.
Right, right.
You know, if you believe in your mother,
that's all that matters.
If you believe that your mother that you're talking to her
and that's so, and it's so comforting,
why would you deny yourself that comfort?
Exactly.
And also like, it seems true to your relationship with your mom.
You checked in two or three times a day.
You are constantly in conversation.
So, why wouldn't you still be in conversation with her?
Why wouldn't she still be having a conversation with you?
I think that's wonderful.
Absolutely.
Well, let's jump to a caller,
who have Amy on the line here.
Dear Chelsea, my mom very recently passed away.
I was wondering if once someone crossed over,
if they have to prioritize how often they visit loved ones,
my mom would want to visit her three granddaughters first
and then my sister and my dad.
I don't know that she would feel the need to visit me
as much since I'm living an average life
with not a lot for her to worry about.
See, she was a big warrior.
But I thought I would get the sense
that she was around me more.
I keep thinking maybe she's focusing
on those that need her presence more.
Chelsea, having lost significant family in your life,
what has been your experience
and have you received any signs that they're with you
and how often.
Hi, Amy.
Hi, Amy.
Hello.
Hi, this is Tyler Henry.
He's our special guest today.
Hello.
Hi.
Oh, thank you for joining us.
Wow.
So you feel like your mom, do you feel like
your siblings or your dad
or any of the people you mentioned feel her presence at all?
You know, I think that they do.
I don't know if I was expecting some grand sign.
I just kind of wanted to know that she was okay
and she died of cancer and it was a difficult passing
and I just kind of expected maybe rainbows
or a bird to land on my shoulder or something.
And absolutely.
So well, first what I want to say, Amy, is I would love
if you contacted my website.
We'll give you a full free membership to the collective
where you can take part in group readings
and see the experience of potentially receive on yourself.
So we'd love to have you over there.
But to your question, when it comes to spirituality
on a larger scale, the analogy I like to use
when it comes to where they're at is this.
I like to say, if you imagine that you are in New York City
and there's a car accident that happens two streets over,
if you are in middle of the city,
you're not gonna be able to see that car accident
two streets over, but you know who will?
A skyscraper, somebody who's cleaning a skyscraper,
a window washer at the very top of a skyscraper
from where they're at, from where they're situated
would not only be able to see you,
but would be able to see the car accident two streets over.
And that doesn't make the window washer
any more enlightened than you and I,
but it's from where they're situated,
from that perspective, they're able to see more
than perhaps us on kind of a lower level of awareness.
So they definitely seem to see a lot.
They are with us, but not necessarily one at a time.
I think that there's an awareness
of that collective sense of connection that they share.
Yeah, and I would say in my experience with my mom,
like it's not something that's gonna fall out of the sky
and land on your shoulder.
You know what I mean?
They're not tapping you on the shoulder,
like they're not touching you in that way.
I look at it as like, oh, that's a reminder
that everything's gonna be okay.
And it's also helpful sometimes for you to pick a symbol,
like something that was meaningful
between you and your mom.
Like with me and my mom, it's an orange.
Whenever I'm like stressed out
and I see an orange out of place,
I'm like, oh, my mom is telling me
everything's gonna be kosher.
It's okay.
And I think that's a powerful thing
to like think of something between the two of you.
And keep your eyes open.
Don't expect it to come to you.
You sometimes have to find the signs.
You know what I mean?
It's like everything in life.
The more open, the more you see.
And the more narrow minds,
I think the more limited you are
and the less belief you have in this kind of possibility.
And it's beautiful because you kind of create a language then.
If you can say, this is my sign,
this is how I would like you to present yourself to me.
If possible, then you kind of have that code.
You have that language.
You are being that bridge
and making an active effort to communicate
and keep that relationship going in a different way,
but away nonetheless.
Yeah, I do something and I'm sure
you're probably not a comedian, Amy.
But so this won't be what you do,
but I do this thing before I walk out on stage every time.
I do this thing where I like look up
as if my mom's above me.
I think everything's above me.
But actually, Tyler just confirmed
that everything is above us.
So I'm glad for that.
But I always look up and as I'm walking out,
I'm just right before they call my name.
I just, I'm like, I have these ebulants of light,
like shining down around me, which is my mother.
And I'm with her and she's with me
and we walk out together.
And that's always how I do it.
And it feels like I'm being lit from within.
And so if you can have some of this imagery
for whatever is an important thing that you do in your day,
it doesn't have to be something that's scary or daring.
It can just be, try to invoke your mother's presence.
Really invoke it and be like, mom, I'm here with you,
like even if you're talking to yourself
or not speaking out loud and just thinking it,
like it's powerful, our brains are much more powerful
than we give them credit for.
So trust it.
Absolutely, being able to live vicariously,
and allow her to live vicariously through every new action,
every achievement, every new memory,
everything you do, every new love that you make,
every bond that you have is a way to honor her
and allow her to kind of live through that
in some greater way.
Oh, I love everything you guys done.
Awesome.
I knew you would give good advice.
Oh, good.
Well, make sure you go over to his website, okay Amy?
Yeah, I'll get you guys connected.
Of course, absolutely.
I'll see you over there.
Thank you.
I mean, that really did hit home for me.
The like, I need to not wait for her to come to me.
I need to communicate back.
So yes, yes.
That really hit.
So thank you.
Have a beautiful rest of your day.
Thank you.
Tyler, how old are you?
127.
Wow, you're very articulate.
Really, really good moisturizer.
I'm 27.
I just kind of, you have such a good use of language.
I love when young people speak so eloquently,
like your words, your vocabulary.
It sounds very patronizing, probably saying that to you.
But I just love language.
And I love when someone speaks effortlessly.
Well, that means well, I had a brain injury
of all things and brain surgery when I was 18.
So it actually really affected my ability
to get aphasia where I can't talk.
So that, that actually brought me a big compliment.
Thank you.
Well, you're probably over corrected, right?
Because of your brain injury that you probably
work even harder at speaking so well.
Right.
I try my best, but thank you.
It means a lot.
Did you have to relearn a lot of language
and that sort of thing?
It was a whole process.
You have the words inside, but to get them out
was really the challenge and what is off in the case
of brain surgery.
So it's been a lot of kind of slowing down.
You have a lot that you want to say,
but you just kind of have to take one word at a time.
So.
Well, our next question comes from Whitney.
Dear Chelsea, I've been going back and forth
for a couple of years about seeking out a medium
to help me with my grief.
She had lost a couple of grandparents
who were really influential in her life.
But I'm very skeptical and have no idea
how to determine if a medium in my area is legitimate or not.
I'm assuming that mediums who've gained national success
must be the real deal, but then at that point,
they're probably out of my price range.
To say that my grief bogs me down is an understatement.
And I'm not even sure that this would be the way
to finally have a sense of relief in my life,
but I've tried every other avenue so far.
I've been to grief counseling, I've seen therapists,
I've been medicated, I've tried to wear my grief out
like it's a toddler, but nothing is helping.
I know I'll never completely not feel this loss.
And I know that I always wish they were still physically here,
but I need this enormous weight lifted off my chest.
Is a medium the answer?
Whitney.
Yeah, what do you do with somebody
is having such a difficult time with their grief?
Like what advice can you give someone?
Well, for one, I think expectation management
is good, a medium will never be the answer,
or a cure all for grief, but it's certainly
if you find a good one can affirm and validate that bond
and the fact that that bond still continues.
And that's really, in essence,
what any good medium should strive to do.
But I look at mediumship as that of a practice
and being that it's a practice, they are practitioners.
And just as there are many practitioners
in this world, doctors, therapists,
you wanna make sure they're focusing a practitioner,
going to somebody who is legitimate
and the way to do that in this world,
in the world of mediums, which is unregulated,
there is no better business bureau,
which to my frustration is the case.
I think it's very important to go through word of mouth,
to go through recommendation,
going to somebody that you know comes under high recommendation
from somebody you trust, somebody you know
and have a relationship with tends to be the best way.
And equally, some of the best readings I've ever received
were for free from people who were not even
working as mediums full time.
So there are very talented people that exist among us
who may not openly work as a medium
but might still be able to help you out
and you'll find them through word of mouth.
And are there like group mediums, you know,
like where people can do it?
If they can't afford something,
like you mentioned that on your website,
which is also something she can explore.
But like, are there group things where you go
to a room with a lot of people?
I don't know, is that common?
So there is a community called Lily Dell, actually,
in Northern New York, which is just that people
take entire tourist destinations
to this gated community in New York.
There's been a spiritualist retreat
where mediums live on site and do readings.
And it's an entire kind of tourist industry there.
So there's certainly that in theory,
I think there's something to be said
about just individual experience
and being able to kind of seek out individual practitioners
without giving them information
and just kind of understanding when you walk into a medium
reading, you know your love one more than any medium.
You know what they love one's essence.
You know how they'd be inclined to deliver information.
And so I think it's just important to trust that
more than any message you hear.
You know, and we'll know if there's a connection being made.
And also, I just want to say Whitney,
your grandpa wouldn't want you to be suffering in this way.
This is heartbreaking.
No one wants their grandchild to suffer at the loss of her.
So that's something to also contemplate.
Think about the impact, like you have an opportunity
to live your life in honor of your grandmother
and like live your life in an essence for her.
I mean, no one should be living their lives for another person,
but in a way, she can vicariously live through you
and you can invoke her essence for your life.
That's a very powerful way to keep those relationships
close to your heart, even though they may feel far away.
And I would suggest to try and practice that, you know,
to try and live out loud, live your life fully
and try to really get to a place where you can be joyful again.
It's not, it's easier said than done,
but if you do it with the idea of your grandmother,
really just kind of smacking you on the butt,
like I want you to have the best life.
This is your chance.
Like, please don't get hung up on my passing.
I want you to succeed and love and live
and all of those things.
You know that she would want that for you.
Absolutely.
We owe it to them to remember them for who they were
and how they lived versus that one moment
that caused them to transition.
And I think it's interesting, the sense that Maya Angelou,
one of my favorites, had a quote about similar to Chelsea
when she would go on stage.
She'd call upon her departed mother.
She'd call upon her ancestors, her grandmother.
And she said, by the time she walked on stage,
she wasn't walking on that stage alone.
She came with an army of people who loved her.
And I think we really are a culmination
of the love we are given in this world.
So to be able to harness that, to call upon that essence
and invoke it, as Chelsea says,
is such a powerful way to still feel that connection,
even if that physical bond is no longer there.
Chelsea and I talked about this on a recent episode.
Sometimes when you try to push something away,
a feeling away, it makes it worse.
And so think of your grief as sort of something
that you bring along with you.
It doesn't mean you can't have joy in your life.
It doesn't mean you can't go about your day to day.
But that grief is a reminder of the closeness
that you shared with those people.
And when you feel that sense of grief,
you're reminded that that person is still with you
and that you do still have relationship with them.
They're right there that grief is part of that relationship
and bring it along with you.
Feel it when you need to feel it.
But also know like it's okay to have that
at the same time as you're having maybe a joyful moment
or something was funny or you know,
you're living your life day to day.
It's okay that that sort of a passenger with you right now.
I actually have a question for you, Tyler.
What do you think about like reincarnation?
Do you think people can come back?
So I don't view a reincarnation as a linear process
like a line.
So the traditional view as the reincarnation is
you're born, you die, you're reborn, you die,
you're reborn, you die.
In kind of a line, right?
And so my belief is that we as a soul
are a lot more multifaceted than we realize.
And in essence, the best way to describe it
is I think we basically can exist
in many different forms at once.
And it looks like we're living our individual little lives
on our individual little timelines.
But my belief is that in many ways
that we kind of have many tentacles
in many different dreams.
And it's very kind of uncomfortable sometimes
to think about and it kind of gets into philosophy
of you know, determinism and all of these things.
But I believe in a higher self
that when we transition become part
of something greater than ourselves,
that has always been a part of us
and we kind of reunite with that part.
And then part of us might continue on in other incarnations,
but that kind of soul essence of us always exists
and I think is always retaining information.
And that is why I believe I do readings for people
and even if they've reincarnated,
which maybe they have, maybe they haven't,
I'm still able to get information about that life
who that person was, even if that's kind of continued on.
And it's hard to say, you know, it's one of those things.
It's one of those great mysteries.
Well, let's take a quick break
and we'll be back for our last question with Tyler and Chelsea.
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Dear Chelsea, long time listener, first time writer,
I've always wanted to say that.
Ha, ha, ha, ha.
When it comes to mediums, I must admit
that I'm a bit of a skeptic.
I'm a nurse practitioner and so I'm very science-minded,
but I also greatly want to believe
that there are forces greater than us
that we can't comprehend or measure.
Now to the reason I'm writing.
My mom passed away this week.
She was an unstoppable force.
When I was six, she was shot and paralyzed
from the waist down by an accidental gunshot wound
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She had severe pain for 31 years,
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She raised two children as a single mom,
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As you can tell, she was someone really special.
I cared for her in her last month
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Tell her we're okay,
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It's a highlight of my week.
So I think the biggest question is,
how does she let her mom know that they're all okay
and how does she know that her mom is okay
and that she passed without too much pain?
Absolutely.
Well, I think we often do understandably
get very focused on what causes someone to transition.
Even under the best of circumstances,
so many of us relive those last moments
or our last interaction or what could have been said
or what could have been done,
even under the best of circumstances.
So I think it's a very normal place to be in grief.
You know, I just think when it comes to that awareness,
if you look at who she was in life,
clearly she prioritized her children
and the generations of family that came after her.
And so I would say as you revel in every moment,
as you reach achievements and accomplishments
and those big landmark moments,
find ways to implement her into those moments,
what maybe we wear a piece of jewelry
and every time we look at that jewelry,
we think of mom or whatever it may be.
There's ways to still carry them on
and allow them to kind of live vicariously.
But I think that's one of the great equalizers of death
is that in essence, no matter what we're going through,
it does allow for some closure of physical suffering.
And that's just a moment in time.
That's not someone's eternity.
Exactly.
Yeah, you have to know that people who have crossed over
are at peace, like you're not in your body anymore.
So there's no bodily suffering.
And I would, it would be a big leap of faith
to think that they're suffering beyond this earth.
You know what I mean?
This earth, I think it has so much suffering already.
I mean, what you're talking about is you're suffering,
you know, at the loss of your mom.
But when people wreck themselves over the circumstances
in which somebody passed like, oh, they were in such pain,
it was even if when it's a hard crossing, as they say,
at least they're not suffering anymore.
Like that's what's necessary to get them out of their body
and to stop the suffering.
So you have to believe that your mother is at peace,
regardless of how she died.
She's at peace now.
Yeah.
I mean, I think you just have to believe that
and you have to know that and just keep telling yourself that
and keep showing her, you know, in the ways
that Tyler suggested to keep living your life with her,
you know, not that it's over, she's gone,
but your relationship with her will never be over.
And, you know, just last point with the nursing aspects,
there's so many hospice nurses that have shared first-hand
experiences of, you know, their own grief
and also seeing, you know, patients at the end of life
have very compelling experiences.
So I would encourage to ask coworkers.
Yeah, tell us about your tour, Tyler.
Yeah, so very much in the road, been very busy with her.
Yeah, I've seen it on Instagram, you're on fire.
Oh, it's been so much fun.
I've been really thankful.
We've had a little sold out tour all across the country
and it's been intense every year, 26 cities.
I travel all across Midwest to the south
and it's in a group setting.
So it's anywhere from 2000 to 3000 people.
I share a little bit about my story
and what people need to know to get the most out of readings
and then it turns into a group reading.
And it's different every single time, you know,
people come in as strangers and by the end of it,
they're hugging and it's just a really beautiful experience
to be able to have that outlet in a society
that doesn't allow for people to talk about grief very much
to have people come together and feel comfortable
honoring that vulnerability
and what they've gotten through in a shared way.
Great, and people can get tickets at...
Over at TylerHenryHollywoodmedium.com,
you can check out tickets in my full tour schedule
and there's more to come.
Oh, well, that's so excellent.
You're doing such a great service.
How nice is it to do what you love
and have it be so helpful to people, right?
I feel so privileged and so humbled every single time.
I mean, it truly is mind-blowing
and it just reminds me of why we have to live mindfully
and it gives me a deep sense of gratitude
and every reading I do, I think there's a message from me
as well.
Well, what's the pleasure speaking with you?
I hope I get to see you again soon.
Absolutely.
I can happen.
And if you need anything either of you,
if I can help in any capacity,
if you ever need follow-up readings, friends family,
I'm here and I would love to stay in touch.
Okay, thank you.
Thank you.
We both are, I thank you both.
Have a good one.
Thank you so much.
Bye-bye.
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