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These are questions from you. A little rapid fire.
So the first question is feelings on baby number two,
especially after getting back in shape postpartum. We had always had a plan to start trying around
Carmella being two. That was Dobby Day's plan. Not plan. Dobby Day had said from the very
beginning that he wanted to have time with Carmella or whoever our first born child was. He said this
when we like a long time ago, I would not have a baby because of anything having to do with how
my body looks at all. I mean, I understand the sentiment and I know lots of moms have
said that many, many times because you kind of just get back to feeling like yourself and then
your baby's older and it's like the thought of starting over again, but I'm very excited to be
pregnant again and loved being pregnant. I also waited probably six months to really do anything
after I had Carmella last time. I kind of just felt really heavy and felt really bad for myself and
like the first active things I was doing was playing tennis and I just felt like I was in
quicksand. I felt like I couldn't move and then I found out I had PCOS and really my hormones
and everything have changed so much. I really have gotten all my PCOS symptoms completely under
control and that feels really good and I'm really curious how that will affect me getting pregnant
again. I'm getting some tests done to figure out whether or not I should actually do IVF because
I would like to have two more kids and so I just want to see where I'm at physically to make sure
that I'm capable of doing both, you know, doing that naturally. I'm going to figure that out. I
mean, I got pregnant last time when I was 20 pounds over my normal weight, which obviously
was no big deal and had no bearing on anything, but it was because I thought I was going to have
to do IVF so I was on copious amounts of various supplements and like thinking I would do like
an acretrieval and it was also COVID and I like was doing like the one thing that just really
makes me gain a lot of weight and you guys all know that like I love like to drink. I don't,
I mean, it's not like I'm, I don't drink every single day, but like, you know, I love to
have and join myself and during COVID, I was drinking a lot of wine, a lot of wine. I have friends,
like we had like our little COVID crew and I have friends who like only drink red wine and
it doesn't affect them at all. Me, if I drink a lot of red wine, I notice it, I notice it really
quickly and it's because, you know, there's a lot of sugar in it and it's just the way my body,
my particular body reacts. So, you know, I was like taking all these supplements and drinking lots of
wine and wasn't working out and I was just kind of, you know, we'd been in this like weird thing where
I tried to get pregnant for almost, you know, it was like over a year and a half and I was kind of
just like, wasn't depressed, but I was just in like a really intense funk and feeling really
sad and anyway, so that's where I was last time. Right now, my period, okay, since I stopped drinking
coffee in January and Alyssa Vitti told me this many years ago when I was trying to get pregnant
a long time ago, she told me the supplements to take. Now I know that she has her own formula and
I take parallel, but before like all the things that are in these like conception
packs are the things that I was all taking separately and she told me when I was like desperate for
any sort of advice or help to get pregnant was it takes three months for these things to have
an impact. It takes three cycles. So, it was so wild. I stopped drinking coffee in January, so
December was the last time I had coffee. I hate that I had to do this. I love coffee so much.
So, I stopped drinking the coffee and last month, which was three months, three full cycles,
my period was incredible. I'm someone that's period, that whose period is so intense that I
literally put like a doggy pee pad in my bed sometimes. I'm like loaded up with overnight pads,
like a disaster. And we were in New York last month when my period came and it came like a day or
two earlier something. And so, I wasn't like mentally prepared or physically prepared. I didn't have
all the stuff and we were in New York. I thought it was going to come like the day we got back.
And I was like, oh my God, like I don't have any of my stuff. And, you know, New York are just
like ripping all day. And I was like, oh, like I need like access to like a bathroom and an extra
pair of pants and all my things. And my period came and then it never got heavy and then it just
ended. And the same thing happened this month. My period came yesterday. It like usually I am
so crampy and my mood is so bad. My mood has been totally manageable. I was a little bit sassy in
the last couple of weeks, but not anything insane. Like little things would bother me and be like,
oh, like my period is coming. Like that's written by me so much. And then, like over the weekend,
I just like really wanted to scarf food. I was just like, oh, I want a burger and like, oh,
I just wanted to eat. I was like, courage bagels. I just wanted to eat so much. And like, obviously,
like gave into that because that's what my body was saying. And then my period came and it's
just so light and I have no cramps. So I can't even tell you how amazing that feels being in post
part of more than anything else than what my body looks like or anything is I've had many different
forms of body. Also, the hardest part about like how I looked before is the fact that everybody
would call me fucking fat in my DMS. Anyway, now everyone's giving me fucking ship or being
skinny. Everybody can fuck off. But baby number two will hopefully happen at some point this summer.
And that's kind of my plan. My PCOS is being managed really great. I'm taking my
conception packet from parallel. I'm taking a bunch of other things that people told me
would help with pregnancy. I have like a great program going. I got pregnant the first time.
Well, not the first time I had a miscarriage, but I got pregnant the first time I gave birth
was the first month we stopped trying, which was so wild. I'm sure you've all heard this
three million times, but it was after almost trying for almost over a year and a half. And it was
the first month that I was like, I really don't want to try anymore. And that's when she came.
And what a goddamn blessing that was. But it's also this weird thing where it was because I was
like, who fucking knows, right? Like that story is incredible because so many people told me
that the moment you stop thinking about it, it will happen. But like, who knows? There are many
people that plan this shit and get pregnant. Like, nothing matters. Everything's insane. Who knows
what works and doesn't work. So what I'm going to try to do is just enjoy my summer and give myself
like four months, five months where I'm just not trying, but not not trying and see what happens.
Because I'd like to just be able, you know, the intention of not trying last time is what worked
for me. So I have a single superstitious about that this summer. So that's where I'm at with that.
I'd like to be pregnant in the fall. And I hate even putting that out in the air because
then I feel like people are going to ask me and then that's stressful. And like, you know,
everyone to ask people if they're pregnant, you know, that the whole thing is just such a sensitive
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Hi, I'm Mariela Wellen and I'm the host of the Pursuit of Wellness Podcast. A couple of years ago,
I went through a huge transformation. And although I got a lot of attention for losing weight and
discovering my passion for weightlifting, there was a lot more to that before and after than what
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to podcasts. Okay, there was another question in here that I loved that was so smart.
Not smart but interesting. Okay, if you were pregnant right now, what would your morning
routine supplements be, etc. What would change? I would switch my parallel conception packets to
my first trimester packets. I would continue to take fatty 15, which I will take through pregnancy
and into breastfeeding. I can't tell any of you enough. I want to scream it from the rooftops.
I don't talk about it enough. Fatty 15 is incredibly important. And just go on their website,
look at the science, look at the research. There's been like every single clinical
study has been done on this stuff. It is renowned. This will,
Fatty 15 and C15, I swear to God, will change our lives. C15 is something that we all need and
99% of us are deficient in it. You only get it from whole milk. How many of us are drinking
whole milk? Not many of us, right? And especially probably not in the portions that you need
to get the amount that you need. You can give it to your child through breast milk. That's how
you give it to your child. That's how babies get C15. But if you are deficient in it,
you can't pass it through your breast milk. So it's mandatory for me. I swear to God,
I've never felt better than when I started taking it helps with your PCOS. It helps
out a metabolic, I helps out a cellular level. There really isn't anything it doesn't help with.
It helps with your metabolism, which in blood sugar, which is why it's so good for PCOS.
It helps with, oh my God, fatty liver disease. It helps with depression. It helps with
anxiety. It helps with sleep. My nails are so strong. They've never been this long.
My hair, but I also take neutral fall, you know, all of that. So I will continue to take my fatty
15. People are weird about drinking. People are worried about drinking coffee when you're pregnant.
I drank it when I was pregnant the first time, but I won't be drinking it into my pregnancy.
I'm going to stay off of it. So really the only things that will change is switching my parallel
packet to the coordinating dry master packets. Continuing my fatty 15, I will obviously go
off my neutral fall, but I will take neutral fall postpartum right after I give birth.
And then I pretty much eat the same. I obviously will not be doing hot yogurt anymore,
but what I do know that I'll be doing that I'll continue to do is weight training.
I worked out a lot when I was pregnant the first time, but I was doing all the wrong workouts.
I think it was really, it was the same thing I was doing before I found out I was PCOS,
which was really disrupting my body, which was high intensity workouts.
Those just don't work for me. So it's really about like, even this morning,
I did a Sculpt Classic Hot 8. My heart rate didn't, it was pumping, but not big time.
Like I did no cardio. There was a whole cardio section. I didn't do it. I just did slow squats.
I make sure to maintain my heart rate. I do so much breathing. I keep myself very calm,
and I just do heavy, slow movements with heavy weight. And that really helps. And so I'll do that
with long, awkward walks while I'm pregnant. And that's really, as working for me now,
and I know it will work into my pregnancy. Gentle parenting or old school. I don't know guys.
I see gentle parenting tips on, there's one guy has really great gentle parenting tips on TikTok.
I don't know who knows. Every kid is different. I'm going to tell you this. I don't want any of
our kids thinking that they run our home. And I think David and I can both agree on that.
If someone has an attitude problem or if somebody is rude, that's just not behavior that's allowed.
Do I want to be rate my child or make her feel small and think that that's going to work for me?
No, our most important traits for our daughter are to be kind and empathetic. So, you know,
hopefully she's the kind of person. And I think she might be because she's not super rim
function. I mean, she's definitely like a toddler that gets into things, but she's not. She doesn't.
She's only two, by the way. So, she'll be two next month. So, you haven't even entered like deep
toddler yet. Like, who knows what's in front of me? But she has, she has not yet, like done something
she knows she's supposed to do while looking at me. She doesn't like push my buttons yet.
So, there hasn't been any, you know, we haven't encountered this, but what we talk about are
intentions as parents, which we've talked about before we were pregnant, was just really to
be able to have our child from a young age understand consequences. And that's like that book
good inside. Like, I like how I really like what Dr. Becky says. Sometimes it seems like she
lacks a little bit of consequence. And we believe in consequences for sure. But I like how she'll
explain what was an example she used? It was like a kid being like a brat about getting a present
they didn't like or something or not, not saying thank you as like a grandparent gave a present.
And like, you know, say, wow, like that presents, you're so lucky to have something like that.
So many kids don't have that. Like, you know, and just make them think like, wow, like,
I remember my nephew Levi, who's an angel on earth every time my mom would give him presents
at Christmas. He would literally look at her and say, wow, grandi, thank you so much. So many
kids don't have a toy truck. We would all just look at each other and melt. And I think like some
kids are also just born that way, you know, so it goes child to child. Who knows? Who knows? I
mean, old school, will I hit her? No. But but I'll tell you this, my mom used to grab
the back of my arm if I snapped at her, especially in public. And here's what I will not allow my
child to do is talk to either one of us in public, especially, but ever in a way, that's shitty.
That'll be a direct like, we are leaving the situation. We've talked about this at length
when we see kids out at dinner who are getting like empty threats from their parents. Like,
if you don't stop doing this, like, I'm going to take the iPad or if you don't do this, we're
going home. But the parent never goes home. Dovine made me promise like before I got pregnant.
We've had like very seriously, he brings it up often. He's like, you have to promise me that you'll
do this. Where if, you know, one of our kids is acting up and we give a threat that we are going
to leave if she doesn't stop. And she keeps it up that we have to leave the dog. He was like,
we have to leave. Like, no matter how much fun we're having, those are the moments, those are the
learning, teaching moments. And he's like, I really need you to have my back there. So,
that's what I promised him and that is what is going to happen. Where in Italy, should I get
married next summer? I'm between Poolea and Tuscany. Those are two very different places.
I would go to both of them and try to see what represents your relationship the most.
Poolea is very large. You know, each town is like 45 minutes to an hour from each other.
There are not that many hotels. You're on the water, which is really nice, but not many of the
hotels have access to the beach club. So you have to know the Masserias. You know, it's like,
you have to understand the logistics of both of those places. And I really feel like getting
married should be in a place that's very meaningful to you, where you should continue to want to go
back or there should be some sort of like tie to that place. You're also asking a lot of your
guests, like financially. Summer in Italy is summer in Italy is unbearably expensive. Like,
we booked the trip that we're going on right now. We booked our tickets
fucking six months ago and our, you know, it's half. It's like many different, like,
we're doing lots of work for three different brands on this trip. So, you know, these tickets,
like half go to this company and some go to that company. And then some of it, you know,
it's all, it's expensive. And so you want to make sure that you're taking your guests to a place
where they're going to have a great itinerary for the weekend or, you know, you just want to be like
cognizant of that. One of our friends is getting married in Portof Fino. We're going to that.
We have to go back to the end of the summer for that. And there's only 30 people going. And I love
that it's going to be really small. I feel like that'll feel like a true vacation for everyone,
you know, and so I think it's just about getting married in places that are very, very meaningful.
And that are, that's really easy for your guests. Tuscany is definitely an easier place,
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me to say? How much I love it? I did hot eight a lot before my wedding and I found that that was
what really my like made my body. It's my body racks very well to hot yoga. My inflammation just
really goes down. Like, I think it's must be the same thing that people say about just being an
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control my movements and think about everything that I'm doing. Like, for as intense as some of
the classes are that I'm taking, every move is very thoughtful and every breath is very thoughtful,
the stretching before and afterwards also, you know, I do lots of different kinds. I take regular
yoga and I take sculpt and I take the bar classes, but man, if listen, I know that some people,
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Manifesting tips. I have a notebook that I love that I carry around with me and the front of it
are my to do lists that I go through and then I'll flip it over and use it like the opposite way
from the reverse side and I'll just have a page in there that'll say like this year,
next year, five year, I don't look at it that much. I need to put them up on a wall in my office,
but I check back on them every time I go to write something new in there and I try to visualize
as much as possible. Like, before I go to bed, things that I want to work on, like, I'm really,
you know, really want to build this guest house for my mom. And so I'm been manifesting that.
And I think like doing the work for your manifestation really helps. Like, you know, I have a really
strict financial plan that I stick to, like I have an accountant and that's something actually like
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of those three things is really important. An example of intention, okay? Well, when I was in
college, I remember a professor telling me, like you really want to be very good at negotiating
your salary, like for your first job. And listen, my first job paid me like 30 grand a year. So
there are some jobs you're just going to take, but like I was a waitress at the same time, right?
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which is a part of the grit of getting to where you want to be, right? But there's going to be
moments that we'll realize like, oh, if I want to go from, you know, 50k to 70k or 50k to 100k,
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you want. So I think that's the most important thing about manifesting is like you can't just
sit around and be like, I really want that. For example, when I was manifesting my husband,
I would lay in bed every night. I always say this, but a lot of you keep asking. So sorry
for repeating myself. I would lay in bed every night. I would say wherever you are, I hope you had
a great work day. I hope whatever you did today is leading you to be the best version of yourself.
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blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I also didn't want to be too focused on like being obsessive about
finding my person. So I did it. I went on so many dates. Like I was just on Ria, like, accepting
dates, accepting dates with people that I knew I didn't want to date. But it felt really good to
get to know myself through going on dates. And I loved that. And I would just like, get, you know,
me at someone at a restaurant and have a dinner and go home and like call my mom on the way home
and be like, that wasn't for me. But like, you know, I was really proud of how many times I asked
him about himself or like, that I was really comfortable, or I'd be like, maybe I talked too
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It's so weird. Why did also another question? Why did you decide to go by your real name?
I don't know what that means. My real name is Lara. So I don't go by my real name.
Okay, what else? If you were pregnant, I don't know where you're in that one.
Dressing for changing pregnancy weights. Zara, Norma Kamali, skims, stretchy things.
Vintage bias cut dresses. My bias cut dresses fit me through all shapes of my body. Those are my
favorite. Those are usually available at your local thrift store. Etsy, eBay, go on Etsy and
type in floral bias cut dress and buy all of them. Like I cannot tell you how much that helps.
Europe, summer clothes, packing list. Same thing. I got some stuff from forward.
A lot of Norma Kamali, really. And then I have so much OPA stuff that I'm so excited about.
Because we really, I think this is really the first delivery.
Chloe started working with us as our designer. I mean, maybe over a year ago now at this point.
Chloe started working for us and obviously we were designing, we used to design
my God, three months ahead. Then we started designing six months ahead. This is years ago.
Now we design a full year ahead. So the collection that's coming out now is really
Chloe and I working together and are now in our groove a year ago. So these clothes that are coming
are fucking to die for it. Like everything from here on out, the new collection comes out the 26.
Everything from here on out is are the items that I am the most proud of that have ever been a part
of LPA. LPA will be nine years old this summer. So I packed a lot of LPA stuff. There's tons of
cute stuff. And I'm really proud of it. And I'm excited to wear all of it this summer. And it's
also stuff that I want to have forever. Porn use men following Instagram models.
You guys porn doesn't bother me unless it's clearly a problem. Like I have like friends who
will be like, Oh my God, I worked in my husband and he was like, but I think that's healthy and
normal and that doesn't bother me. And I don't think it should bother you. Because I am sure at
some point you have made yourself feel some type of way and it wasn't about your partner. And
that's just unfortunately how shit works sometimes. Following Instagram models. I don't see
that would be a hard one for me. I don't see why there would be a reason that if you were in a
long term committed relationship that their your partner should be following hot checks, you know.
And if he was following them before and then you got her he or she and then you guys get
together, I don't know. I mean, if you were to say, Hey, we've been together for a long time,
like you think you need to so follow all those accounts, you know, I think you could say it in
like a cute, funny way. You got to be fucking people are such liabilities, you know, you say
something to someone and they're going to interpret it in a certain way. So you really got to be
careful about making your needs feel heard in a way that's perceptive to your partner.
So if you just say like, Hey, like, you know, I think trying to make it a light joke, like,
do you really think you need to be and see if so and so is proactive about it. If that doesn't
work saying, Hey, you know, we've been together for a long time, kind of makes me uncomfortable
that you follow all these other people on Instagram that are constantly half naked.
Would you mind not doing that? You know, we're adults, like maybe your mom follows your partner,
you know, it gets to the point where like people can see and then you can explain it. And if they
fight you back on it, I think it's a moment to have a conversation being like, Whoa, where's that
coming from? Like, you know, I really want to feel safe. And this doesn't make me feel safe.
See what happens there. porn doesn't bother me unless it's like an addiction. But I don't,
I don't know. I feel like I'm pretty play the fucking cool guy card a lot. And there would be no
fucking reason for someone to like be active on an account when you have a serious partner,
like that, you know, I don't, I don't know. Eight years together realizing he's not fit for my
future self. I'm reconciling this hard truth. Any advice? Well, I'm really happy for you
that you have realized that I'm sorry, because I'm sure it's really scary. I'm sure you have a friend
who's maybe been who you've seen exit a really long term relationship. And then all of a sudden,
all these like magical things start happening. Because maybe that relationship, unfortunately,
or and where you were or are in that relationship is keeping a lot of doors closed. So I would really
look at this as an exciting opportunity for a lot of doors to open. And unfortunately,
the quicker you close that other door, the more the new doors will open. But nothing is scarier
than ending a relationship. Eight years is a huge chunk of your life. So I would be very
graceful with yourself. Feel all the feelings. Don't not be ashamed to be sad. Call on your friends.
Lean into the feelings. And what I think what I did, which was really helpful, because I've had
four boyfriends of my life, like serious. And you know, you don't you want to be able to like
feel the feelings, which are really healthy. And you have to, but not have it take over your
life. So I remember being like, okay, I'm going to give myself like three months to
make bad decisions and a fool of myself and be kind of a mess and then kind of check in with
myself in three months and really reconcile with those feelings and see where I need to go from
there. And that was kind of really helpful therapy. Also is just a godsend through these things,
truly. And don't be sensitive if your friends say, I mean, you're going to be sensitive. And
that's totally normal. But if your friends say things like, Oh, I didn't like him anyway, or
blah, blah, blah, blah, they're just trying to make you feel better. Nobody knows what the right
thing to say is when somebody's exiting an eight year relationship, because it's, it's a lot for
everybody, really tips for career success. If you're not the smartest person in the room,
girl, I am not the smartest person in many rooms. But I am the one with the most
fucking drive. And that will, you know, ideate like a psycho path for a long time. Being smart
is a very subjective word. And it means a million different things. And first of all, also don't
talk about yourself that way, because you're putting yourself in a box that you don't need to be in,
because you absolutely have talent. And you have a lot of talent that someone that I'm sure you
consider to be smart doesn't have. So you just got to lean into that stuff. Okay, I'll do one more
balancing travel social life marriage and thirties with motherhood. I don't know, it's really hard.
I don't know how to chill. And so I think a lot of the things that are really normal for me are really not normal for a lot of people.
And I want to be really clear about that. Like I threw a giant baby shower here yesterday. And everyone was like, wow, it's really crazy that you did that. And like, how do you do that?
And the whole time I was like walking around and picking up stuff. And, but like, I've always been like that. Like, I used to throw ragers at this house when I was in high school.
I threw other friends birthday parties when I lived in New York at parties at my house all the time. I love the chaos. I love to host. I love to move around a party a lot and have like lots of little conversations.
So me constantly walking around the party, picking things up, cleaning things up. Like that's normal for me. That's my personality. That's one small example.
In the course of a day, this is how I was in high school, by the way. Like if I have to put together like a deck or like an Excel, which I never will have to put together because I don't put myself in the fucking position to do that because I'm not good at it.
And I know my strengths and my weaknesses at this point. But like, if I have to do like a project, it's really hard for me. Really, really hard for me to focus.
And that's something that I have to do after the baby goes to bed and after I have dinner.
The boundaries that I put up, like the main one is that I know that you guys are going to be like, you're a good woman. I do not go to events.
A million, there are a million brands and there are a million people that I love that have a million brands. And what makes these things work is the community.
So when I get invited to an event, which is often because I live in Los Angeles and this is a hub of many people who have lots of brands and many people that I know or brands that are trying to get known.
It's a part of the social fabric of my industry and this town. And I would love more than anything to go to all of these events because I love people and I love knowing about these brands and seeing the cool ideas that people come up with.
And seeing how people execute an event is so fascinating and interesting to me.
And I really love FaceTime with people that I talk to on Instagram all the time. And that would be my dream. But I live 45 minutes away.
I own businesses that will now, especially soon, have employees.
And I have to be responsible for my time management. I want to do bath time and dinner with my daughter every night.
I want to work out in the morning. That helps me very now at this point. Like, that's like what keeps me sane.
Like, there are a lot of things that get very disrupted by me driving 45 minutes to us Hollywood for a lunch in the middle of the day and then driving two hours back in traffic.
You know, I'm in the car. That's, you know, at least two hours that I'm not answering my emails. I don't, it's just like chaos.
And so I, that's something that like unless we're, you know, having dinner with friends, which is important to us or going to dinner with an investor or attending an event of somebody that I work with.
Or I'm very, very, very close with. And it's like important to me to show up for that person. Then, of course, we will.
But that's been something that I've had to cut out. He also have to keep in mind that like my mom lives here with me. So I have help in the morning big time or like David A.
Store doesn't open until 11. He gets there at 10. But usually he has all his calls with Italy in the morning.
And he does a lot of consulting. So like he'll work in the morning too before work. So usually like, you know, I wake, I'm leaving like right before Carmella wakes up.
So, you know, I have her breakfast ready to go. When I run out the door, sometimes I'll get her up, change her diaper and just put her in a little toddler tower and front of her lunch and then, or sorry, in front of her breakfast.
And then my mom will eat breakfast with her and then I get back and then the nanny comes at nine. So, you know, I have a lot of things kind of like locked and loaded, but I will tell you this, a lot of shit falls through the cracks.
I get a lot of like really stressful text messages from my mom. I get stressful text messages just from dovey day. Like, you know, the other day he went to take a car.
My mom had taken the baby seat out of the car because she needed to help move my own goal. And one has to, oh, by the way, also my mom works. My mom just real estate.
So there's just like a lot of chaos that happens. And again, it's like very much of my personality to just like thrive and complete chaos. I love to problem solve quickly.
So I'll be like, wait, okay, this needs to happen. And then we need to do this and do this. So I think a lot of stuff just really depends on your personality and knowing your personality.
Our careers are all different. So, you know, probably sound like an asshole saying like, oh, I cut out events.
Like, you know, that is a huge part of like the industry that I'm in. So there's just a lot of different.
A lot of different things that are going to go wrong. And I think it's a matter of leaning into them and giving yourself some grace when things get a little fucked up.
Oh my God, a lot of these questions are so funny. The fragile male ego. I mean, that's a special one. That's a whole podcast in itself.
Motivation for postpartum fitness when already exhausted and taking care of a baby. Okay, this will be the last question I answer.
So I have a friend. I have a lot of mom friends. I have, I got married at the, you know, quote unquote later side in my like friend group from high school.
Like, you know, one of my best friends since sixth grade, not in fifth grade we met. She has three kids. And so I'm really lucky that I'm around a bunch of moms that I wish we all lived in the same place.
Like, you know, one of them lives by the beach in one of them in San Francisco and then another one lives here. But like, I have a lot of moms who are fucking badass and work.
There's these moms that you look at and you're like, Jesus Christ, like you're doing it all, you know, like my friend Kate friends her own business and has three kids and always looks put together and the kids are doing tons of activities.
And each kid is more special than the last and they're like, well behaved and her house looks great. You know, it's just one of them.
And they're like, God damn it. Like, how is she doing this? But what really, really, really when it comes to motivation to work out, it's your hour for yourself that seems shallow because it's something you do for your body.
But this is not this is fuck weight. Like, this is about health, right? Like, if you just go on a walk or do yoga on your phone or do a YouTube class for 45 minutes, you will feel better, like physically and mentally. That's it.
So like, I didn't feel good in postpartum and I was heavy and I was embarrassed of like how out of shape I was.
Wasn't anything to do with my physical body, obviously, because like, I've been like, had no problem getting my ass back into the gym and working out like that's a place I feel very safe.
But like, especially in Pasadena, like West, if I was going, if I was living in like West Hollywood and going to like classes with like those girls that show up and like, you know, God bless them.
But you know, there's a difference between the equinox in Pasadena and West Hollywood. And it's like a runway show with the West Hollywood one where, you know, I'm around more like normal people may peers over here.
Anyway, there is something that just happens when you show up for yourself.
And I learned this from all my mom friends, Kate, Whitney, Hillary, like Sarah, all of them, they, like, I remember before I had a baby, I would like call Hillary and she would answer.
And she'd be in the middle of doing yoga on her iPad and I'd be like, Oh, no, no, I don't want to bother you. She'd be like, Oh, no, no, no, like, I have, like, I can just let me finish the last five minutes of this, like, while I'm on the phone with you.
And I was like, how are you doing this? Like, where are the kids? And she was like, my boys are sleeping. This is their nap time.
And I was like, aren't you tired? And she was like, yes, I'm tired. But like, this is my time for me. And like, if I don't work out, I turn into a like a crazy person.
Like, I don't show up being my best self. So I think really like that is something that it becomes motivating.
And the hardest part is just showing up. But once you show up and you start feeling good, you'll get fucking hooked.
And you just don't want to go back to feeling any other way, you know, even if it's just going on a walk or going on a walk with the baby, you know, whatever it is.
But add it to your schedule as something that's just as important as the other things in your life. And it's a mandatory thing. That's your time.
That's how I view it. All right, I love you guys. I hope you enjoyed this. Please leave a positive comment. If you're so inclined.
I hope all of you who are listening to this are in a very good place in your life. Oh, my God, Carmella just knocked over something big.
I hope you're all in a very good place in your life. I hope this day fulfills you. I hope you're on a path to greatness. Thank you.
Thank you.
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