Coming up, I'm going to reveal four questions that you must answer before you decide to
quit your job.
And then, you're going to look at recent surveys that show what are the biggest pain points
in the workforce.
Let's go.
All right, folks, helping you win at work.
Because in life, because you've winning at work, you've got a great shot at winning
at life.
But I'm going to tell you, if you're losing at work, it is sucking a whole lot out of
your life.
Let's go.
Some of you need to quit.
Some of you want to quit.
Some of you have never quit.
We're going to talk about quitting.
Let's start with some negative psychology around quitting.
I'm going to take you back to my driveway when I'm 10 years old.
I'm playing a game of one-on-one basketball against my best pal at the time, who was
a year older than me.
And folks, I'm still short.
If you ever see me at a live event or in person, it's pretty underwhelming.
In fact, I get this comment all the time for people.
They say, you're a lot shorter than I thought.
I guess my personality implies that I'm taller and I'm sitting behind a desk.
I got to tell you, I'm 5'9", and shoes.
So when I'm 10, I'm probably 4 feet tall, 4 feet 2 maybe.
So I'm playing a game of one-on-one basketball against my buddy, he's a year older, and he's
probably 6 inches taller than me, which is a big deal when you're a kid.
Well, somewhere deep down in my psyche, I probably knew that it was a long shot that
I was going to beat my pal, but I thought I had a chance and I'm a competitor and I'm
a fighter.
And so I'm playing this game and it took about 3 minutes of this one-on-one game to
realize I was about to be destroyed.
I was already frustrated.
Every shot I took he blocked.
I couldn't get a shot off.
I couldn't dribble around him.
And as a 10-year-old, I'm about to boil over.
Unbeknownst to me, my dad is standing in the front yard about to mow the grass.
He's watching this and he's seen me boil over.
And he knows I'm about to quit.
But I don't know that dad's watching and watching my motion, and here comes his voice
out of nowhere.
Hey, winners never quit.
Quitters never win.
I never heard the phrase before in my life.
That was the first of what feels like 5,000 times he told me that in my life.
But I got what he was saying.
He was saying, Coleman's don't quit.
Suck it up, buttercup.
Take it like a man.
He's beating you, don't quit, right?
That's what my dad was saying.
And there is a kernel of truth to that, right?
In that he was saying, don't quit.
Finish the game that you started.
But outside of that, which is what he was using that phrase to challenge me with, that
phrase is wrong because I've got news for you.
Winners do quit.
They quit all the time.
They quit the right things at the right time.
So it's always perfect timing, but they know when to quit.
That's what winners now.
Winners don't like what's associated with quitting because it's a form of losing you.
Listen, it's not working anymore.
In a good run, or maybe it was a really frustrating effort.
We tried, it didn't work.
We quit, whatever it is.
Quitters can win because winners have figured out when to quit.
And so if you're quitting, you should be quitting to something not quitting from something.
That's what I want you to get today.
I want to walk you through four questions that allow you to always make a really good decision
on quitting, but I want you to understand.
You should always be quitting something for valid reasons to then move into something
else.
Not just, I'm mad, I'm frustrated, I quit.
Now what?
That's not what winners do.
Winners say it's time.
It's time.
And then winners figure out what they're going to do next.
And when they figure out that, then they say, I'm out.
Here we go.
Four questions.
Number one, why do I want to quit?
That's the first question.
Why do I want to quit?
I got all these frustrations.
I've got thoughts.
I've got feelings and I'm leaning towards quitting.
I feel like I should quit.
Before we quit, we should first ask, why am I quitting?
This is about maturity.
This is about clarity.
I want to make sure that I'm not in a bad state of emotion that's not based on reality.
That's not based on wisdom.
So why am I quitting?
Let's get absolutely clear that this is in fact a legitimate exit.
I should exit.
I've thought through it.
I've looked at it from multiple angles.
I'm not acting in emotion.
I'm acting with knowledge and wisdom and counsel from others.
It is very clear.
It is time for me to walk out.
Great.
So I must first answer the question, why am I quitting?
And this does two things.
When I have a really good reason for quitting, I am now confident in quitting.
If I don't have a good reason for quitting, it is going to hold me back and help me not
make a poor decision.
So it will rescue me or give me confidence.
All right.
Now, next, once we've determined and we're going to walk through this as though we have
determined that it is the right thing to quit.
Okay?
So the second question becomes, when should I quit?
Now that I know why and it's absolutely clear, I must quit.
I now have to go, when should I quit?
Now, this is based on a couple of things, professional opportunities that have financial
realities.
If my financial reality is one that I have a whole lot of room, I've got a year's worth
of pay.
I've got a great set.
You know what?
If I've got financial independence and stability for a extended amount of time, then the win
is kind of just, well, you decide.
But if you don't and most people don't, the win to quit is one.
It is determined by the next opportunity and the financial reality.
That leads to the third question.
Okay.
So we're looking at win.
All right.
Okay.
And so we got to go, well, my win is based on I've got to have the right opportunity because
of my financial reality.
Now that leads to the third question, well, then where should I quit too?
So now it's all about the where.
I'm not quitting until I've got to wear.
If I need money or I don't want to put myself into a potential financial strain, then I've
got to have my where before I determine the win.
So that's where to quit.
Hey, what have I learned from this quit that will inform my where?
I don't want to just quit because it's not great.
And then quit into something where it just drags up all the old same stuff again.
I want to learn from this.
I want to be informed.
I want to make sure that I'm quitting to something that is better in the short term or
certainly going to be better in the long term.
Once I've got the where now I determine the win, excuse me, the how and the how, the win
and the how pretty simple.
I got something to step into.
I'm done.
Now the how here's a simple thing.
Quit the way you would want someone to quit you.
Quit in a way that you want someone to talk about you.
No guilt.
All class.
Move on.
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Why are so many people considering leaving their jobs?
I have millions upon millions upon millions of people left their jobs since 2021.
It was known as the great resignation.
It continued into 2022.
We're talking about four plus million people every month.
There's a whole lot of reasons why but I want to focus in on a few things from a recent
Pew Research study on how Americans view their jobs.
There's so much in this.
I don't want to use it all but I want to focus in on some things that I see and I hear and
I want to encourage some of you because I want you to feel a sense of community to go,
I'm not the only one that feels this and I shouldn't feel this.
I shouldn't have this because if I can shake you and almost reach out here verbally in
an audio format and in a video format and say, hey, you're not wacky, you're not weird,
you're not wrong to feel this and you shouldn't feel this and you shouldn't have to keep feeling
this.
That's what I want from this.
I shared some data on the show recently that revealed that our leaders at work have more
impact on our mental health than our doctors.
When I first read it, I was like, wow, but then I was like, well, that kind of makes a
lot of sense.
I spend more time with my leader than I do my doctor.
My leader has more impact on every area of my life than my doctor.
I mean, every day.
So let's look at some very critical pieces.
I'm, again, a vast study.
I'm pulling some things that I think you need to be aware of because a lot of you are in
these numbers.
52% of employees say that their employer cares about their wellbeing, a great deal or a fair
amount.
Okay.
So, you know, when you see pieces of data like this, you do have to pay attention to
the details.
And so they're asking these people, does your employer care about your wellbeing a great
deal?
Or a fair amount?
And 52% said, yeah.
Now, that's a failing grade.
Do you ever get a 52 in school?
I did.
I was always in the area of math and science and a 52 is not good.
28% say their employer cares some and one in five say their employer doesn't care much
at all.
A majority of workers, 55% say they don't have someone at work who they consider a mentor.
So I want to camp here for just a moment.
We'll move on to some other pieces of data.
This is the underlying issue as to why people are leaving or thinking about leaving their
jobs.
That's all a piece of data we're going to share it on the show.
We're doing show planning today.
Another surveys come out that said this year in 2023 over 50% of people are thinking about
leaving their jobs.
The underlying issue is this.
A majority of employees whether right or wrong, but a majority of employees say or just under
a majority suit.
So 48 call it 48% of employees feel like their employer does not care for their well-being.
That's a lot of people.
The other way looking at it, as I said, it's a failing grade.
Only 52% think that there are some good companies out there that's good news for those of you
who don't feel cared for, but there's a lot of work to be done.
And then a majority worker saying they don't have someone at work who they can consider
a mentor.
Folks, we need that coach, that mentor relationship.
To feel like we've got somebody that we can go to and they can guide us when things are
tough.
So you take that mentor and then the well-being data, you shove it together.
And this is the underlying reason why a lot of people leave.
Now, you'll see all kinds of data about people don't feel like they're making enough money.
People feel overworked.
I'm seeing that everywhere.
But those issues lead to this response because if you don't feel you are being paid fairly,
I promise you you feel like they don't care about you.
If you feel overworked, I promise you you begin to feel as though your employer doesn't
care about you.
If you aren't getting promoted, you aren't being talked to about promotions, or maybe
you're in a competition to get promoted and you keep getting passed over, I promise you
you begin to feel like your employer doesn't care about you.
Here's another reason why people leave.
They don't feel they have the resources to do their job.
I haven't been trained adequately.
I don't have enough time.
I don't have enough of the resources to do my job.
Let me tell you something.
If you feel that way, it's not long before you begin to feel like they don't care about
you.
Now, one of the other thing that's going on is that 34% of workers say they receive feedback
on how they're doing their job from their manager extremely often.
34% of American workers are saying, I get feedback on how I'm doing on a regular basis.
39% said they sometimes receive feedback and 27% say they rarely do.
So an overwhelming majority.
Are sometimes are rarely getting feedback.
Why is this important?
Because you're a human.
An inside here is a child that never leaves and never stops wondering, do you notice me?
Do you love me?
That's a human need that must be meant at work.
Now, I'm not being literal here when I say your boss needs to walk around saying, I love
you.
That's weird and you'll get your lawsuit and you get fired.
What I'm saying is that little child says, do you notice me?
Do you care about me?
And this is back to the well being.
I am blessed to have a two boys and a girl.
The way that the boys manifest that is different than a girl.
But again, make no mistake about it.
All of us adults are saying, do you notice me?
Do you value me?
And so when you don't get feedback, guess what that begins to do?
You're not seeing my work.
You're not noticing me.
And then you start to wonder, am I making a difference?
Am I doing a good job?
They don't notice me.
They don't see me.
They'll give me feedback.
Where do I stand?
Oh, man.
This is the stuff that can absolutely begin to crush you mentally and emotionally.
What's those findings right there?
We want to belong to something.
We want to feel as though we've made a great difference.
And here's the deal.
Even if it's just a JOB, for somebody right now, you're going, you know, I don't know.
I'm supposed to feel this way about work.
No, no, no.
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All right.
Let's go to Matt is joining us in Youngstown, Ohio.
Matt, you're on the Ken Coleman show.
Hey, Ken.
Thanks for taking my call.
Can you hear me?
I'm loud and clear.
How can I help?
Great.
So I'm in my early 40s, married with two adolescent kids, no debt, maybe step seven.
I've been a licensed engineer for about 15 years.
I got a master's degree in it.
Put in a lot of work and effort to get here and my wife's endured the journey with me.
Always supported me and we kind of built all this together.
It's been a lot of work.
So I honestly don't have many complaints about engineering, but I think I have an itch to
become a plastic surgeon.
No, kid.
What's behind that itch?
Well, I've followed that world for quite a few years and have an interest in aesthetic
reconstruction, helping people achieve and restore their desired look.
It's a lot of schooling and stuff like that.
Yeah.
How much time and how much money?
I just poking around the web.
I'd have to go to med school.
That's about four years.
There's about six years of residency, I think.
Money could be on the order of two or three hundred thousand, I think.
I'd say, okay, I want to stop you there.
This is not something that you can think about or call me and talk about.
If you're not absolutely sure what the money is.
You got to know, man, because you got to have a specific target.
I wonder, are you looking at numbers from your standard medical schools, your high-end
medical schools?
Is there much difference?
I mean, I'm asking this unintelligently, but it's kind of the question you need to be asking.
What's the difference between Harvard med school and Youngstown State Medical School?
What's the difference?
That's a good question.
I haven't dug that deep.
I guess at this stage of the process, I'm doing soul searching to see if this is too crazy
to even think about it.
Well, okay, I get it.
Let me address that.
Well, I'm attempting to address it by...
You've got to figure out how much time and money it's going to take.
Then you determine if it's crazy.
I don't think it's crazy on the surface because it sounds like something you've wanted to
do for a long time.
So if the time and money weren't an issue, would you have any doubts at all?
I don't think so.
Well, you need to know so.
I would dive in.
Okay, so it's not crazy.
It's really hard and it's probably complex due to the fact that you're 43 and you're
married with two kids.
So we've got certain amount of money we've got to make all while we are getting the med
school degree and then the six years of residence, what kind of money you're making then?
60, 70,000 a year, I think.
Can you live off of 60 to 70,000 a year in Youngstown, Ohio?
Well, we have my wife's name come too.
We would probably be okay.
Great.
All right, so we just covered that.
So once we get to residency, we would be okay even at the 60 to 70 year because after the
six years of residency, what is your income jump to?
Or could it?
And plastic surgeons could make around 300,000.
All right.
So if we start today, that's got you at 49 or 50 making really good money doing what
you think that you really want to do.
Yeah.
All right, so we've talked about time only right now and we talked about income.
What we've not talked about is the expense.
So you got to get an idea of what it's going to cost.
And I will tell you, I don't think anybody cares where you went to school.
So I would be going to the most inexpensive med school there is.
That's what I would do.
Right.
Okay.
And how about bringing my family along with this journey?
It just seems crazy.
Well again, what makes it crazy?
What makes it not crazy?
If we have to move somewhere to be closer to a school.
Well, as long as your wife is working and you guys can cut your expenses to where it's
not causing stress for the family, it's not crazy.
How old are the kids?
16 and 11.
I mean, this is going to be harder on the 16 year old than the 11 year old, like making
a move, but they'll be fine.
Right.
Okay.
You know, here's the other thing.
Are you ready to get into med school right now?
How long would that take to actually get to the point where you would get in?
You have to go through some biology courses.
So there would probably be a couple of years at my local college.
All right.
Now we need to add to some more time onto this.
So now we're not 50.
We may be 51 52, right?
Okay.
But that takes care of the 16 year old.
So the 16 year old finishes high school.
You're doing all your local stuff.
Hopefully you're busting it, working two, three jobs, saving up some money.
How are you going to pay for med school?
We'd have to save the cash.
I don't do that.
Add a boy.
So, you know, now we're talking maybe you're 55.
But if you're 55 and you're making 300,000 plus and you're doing work, you love feels
okay to me.
You might be able to do plastic surgery for 15 years.
If you can only do it for 10, would it be worth it?
If we didn't pay, if we didn't have any debt and we got there at 55 and I started making
300,000 dollars or more as a plastic surgeon and I could do that for 10 years.
Would it be worth it?
What we just described?
I would say it's worth it.
Then there's your answer, my friend.
It's not crazy.
It's going to be hard.
It is going to be complex.
It is not crazy.
Yeah, good.
Here's what we didn't discuss.
If your wife is on board, fantastic.
If she's not, everything gets paused until that gets figured out because that I agree
that will be brutally difficult and I would not do it if my wife was not on board with
all of this.
The kids, it's not their call.
You know?
Right.
So, I think we walk through everything.
All to say, the reason I did this is because I do appreciate and I'm very sensitive to
the fact that this is not an easy decision.
This is big.
But yet what I wanted to do is walk through all your fear and doubt from a very practical
standpoint because your fears and doubts are all related to everything we walk through.
So instead of you asking you what they are, I wanted to walk through the whole journey
and the thing is it's not crazy, man.
I think you can do it.
I think you should do it.
More people should do this.
It's worth it.
55 doing what you love, making a bunch of money.
Hit it, baby.
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