How to build a positive mindset so that you wake up everyday excited!

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Welcome to the positive mindset podcast where we come together to raise our vibration, lift our perspective and build a positive mindset. My name is Henry and in this episode, we're going to have a special conversation diving into how to pick yourself up in life. If you were feeling stuck, if you're looking for that motivation, this is going to be a powerful episode because we're going to talk about how you can shift your energy so that you wake up every single day excited for what's in front of you. But before we get started, we're going to take a few moments to slow down, zero in. We're going to take some deep healing meditative breaths to help us align on the frequency that we want in our lives. So you can pick a word, can be love, joy, happiness, abundance, whatever frequency you want. And we're going to take a deep breath in. And as you're breathing in, you're going to say this word over and over and over in your head, really charge yourself with that energy. And then as you're holding your breath, visualize yourself doing something in that frequency and once you exhale, anything that no longer resonates with you will leave you and you'll be in a more positive state. So let's go ahead and take a deep breath in. And out. Well, we're going to take another deep breath. This one is about alignment about getting ourselves in receiving modes that we can receive the message that we need to hear. So just imagine that you are surrounded by the most healing, uplifting energy that's meant specifically for you. It can have a certain color, a certain taste, a certain smell. However, imagine it. And when you breathe it in, it's going to charge you up. It's going to break down the negativity, the blocks, the weight, everything that just been holding you back. And once you exhale, anything that no longer resonates with you will leave you and you'll be in a more positive state. So let's go ahead and take another deep breath in. And out. All right, well, let's go ahead and dive in to this conversation. All right, well, I'm really excited about this for a number of reasons. One, it's been a while since I've had a guest on the show. But to Ashley Johns, who's the guest today is someone that I met a few years ago, I think it's been a few years ago. And she's just got this amazing, powerful journey that she has been on. And it sounds like the story continues. So Ashley, welcome to the show. Thank you, Henry. I'm so happy to be back. My name is Ashley Johns. And about 10 years ago, I hit rock bottom in my life. I was a personal banker, super stressed out. I gained a bunch of weight, which actually it was through the body. I couldn't fit into any of my clothes anymore. And I realized I'm not living the life I really want to live. I'm not being the woman I really want to be. And I started moving forward in my life. This mantra came to me called Fierce Forward. And it's all about having this warrior attitude with, you know, having courage and taking that next step forward, like through the fear that comes up when you start making change in your life. So I started a business, I started intention bracelets. And that was about a decade ago now. And so now I'm like all into crystal jewelry, healing. And I have been on this journey for over a decade. And I just keep moving forward. It's something I'm very passionate about. And I'm really excited to share today, like the next evolution of how I continue to move forward and how you can too. Through this past year, you've gone through some growth and healing. And so I want you to kind of maybe share that story. But at the end of it, you know, someone listening, what they could take from it is how you're now waking up every day, actually looking forward to the day. So that's a powerful thing that I think a lot of people would love to have in their life. Yeah, absolutely. You know, I spent a lot of my life looking backwards and kind of holding on to things and being disempowered and almost not almost but oppressed by betrayals, by things that had happened to me by just. So I actually want to share the story is last July, I was a part of this business mastermind. And I don't know, I had been feeling for like the past few months, just something was like really off. And if you've ever had a voice in your head, it's like, I don't know, just something feels off, it starts getting louder and louder, especially if you like don't listen to it and get curious about it. And you just kind of like keep moving forward on your normal day to day. So I go to this event, and I'm sitting there in a room with 10 other people. And I felt very safe. We all kind of shared basically what are roadblocks and business and life right now. And it got around to me and I had no idea I was about to say what I said. But I basically, I felt very safe. And I just said like, I actually don't know what is going on with me. I don't know who I am. And I don't know what I'm doing anymore with my life. And I couldn't believe I said it. But honestly, it was like something deep inside of me, my truth just releasing. And everyone in the circle like asked me like, do you still want to make jewelry? Like do you like your business? Like maybe you don't have to do that anymore. And I knew that wasn't it had nothing to do with what I was actually doing. It had to do with me for the first time in my life. Like, I really had to face myself and who I had been choosing to be my whole life. And I went on, I started going on this journey. Like, I remember the next day I stayed an extra day, I called my husband, I was like, I'm gonna stay in Utah next day. I went and got a journal at Barnes and Nobles. I turned on some music and I just sat in my hotel room and I started writing. And I like, I had to figure this thing out because it was consuming me very quietly, like internally and kind of eating me alive. And I finally released it, got honest with myself and said something's off. I don't know what it is, but I'm gonna find out. And I realized that I had been a people pleaser my whole life, but I wasn't really leveling up. I was leveling up. I've always been leveling up in my business. But when it comes to me and like, myself belief, I wasn't being honest with myself that I didn't know my own worth, but I was looking outside of myself for my worth in success in my accomplishments. And what people would tell me about myself if I was liked, and I found myself in all of these different business groups, specifically with women, not feeling a part of it and just feeling like a little different, like what's wrong with me is something, you know, just always feeling that my whole life, like something was off with me. And I come to find out that it was really just that I didn't accept myself. That by being a people pleaser my whole life, I was really like living in a shell just trying to get validation from everyone else of my worth. And so in a way, I created this movement, this business, and I thought I was moving forward in my life. And while I was, really internally, I didn't quite know like my value. And that was something that was really holding me back in the tiniest ways in the quietest ways, but also like the loudest ways. And ever since then I went on this journey and I just started really realizing like, wow, this is how I had been living my life. No wonder I felt like something was missing. No wonder I felt like I couldn't do these things. I, you know, other people are doing a dream of doing, and I would just not really fully step into the courage, believing I can do it, but just kind of doing the things like I knew I could, but not fully like harnessing who I am and using that to propel me forward. So I, one of the things that the guy that I took this business course from, he said to me, he was like, one of the most powerful things you can say to yourself is I don't know, because from that place, you're starting with a foundation of truth and you can build whatever is in your heart to build. And I walked away from that day. And when I look back, that was almost a year ago now, one of the other things I kept saying to myself was no looking back, like no looking back and beating myself up for not, you know, believing in myself for not having the courage to do certain things in my life that I really wish I could have done then. But instead looking forward and choosing to become the vision of myself that I know in my heart I was born to be. And ever since I did that, I really like opened the cage. And I started creating my own way for myself in a very different way than I did the first time. So just, you know, the power of creating who you really want to be and not looking back at who you've been, it's important to look back. Yeah, reflection, right? Yeah, it's really important to reflect and like ask yourself, why am I here? And what isn't working for me anymore? And from those powerful, really important questions we ask ourselves if we can be honest with ourselves and get curious to be like a truth seeker, that's when I really felt the freedom of like, Oh my gosh, I had grown up around very powerful, strong people, like all of them. And I was just trying to survive. I was just trying to get love and I became a people pleaser in my family. And I continued carrying that out and something just was not working for me anymore. Like this, this me deep inside was like, Ash, you're never going to get where you want to go if you don't face this and you like, free yourself from this thing that's holding you back. So yeah, I just think like it's so easy to get stuck in your day to day and like know that something's off, but we have to face ourselves and we have to have the courage to ask ourselves who we are. And from that place, who do we really want to be? Yeah, well, I mean, I think your life is a very good example of the external is never the solution. Right? Like it, you ran into a crisis point years ago in your career. And then you changed a lot about yourself, right, your health, you know, and all those things and you got alignment. But then it became a new career, a new external solution with fierce forward, which obviously you love and have a ton of passion for us. It's not that the things externally are wrong. But it sounds like, you know, you made all these changes that initially helped and then you leaned into this fierce forward and continued down this path and maybe forgot to keep fulfilling what was going on internally. So what was it? What would you say? Like, this is what I released about myself. And this is what I've put in its place. Yeah, what I released about myself is that I'm not enough that someone else needs to tell me I'm worthy and important and special. And I decided to be my own authority. Like, and I am now feeling like I know that I'm unstoppable, untouchable. And you know, I know that I have farther to go and I'll get even more solid in this. But I know that that's what I'm embodying right now. And I'm moving in this path of like, when you become your own authority, nothing can touch you. Oh, yeah. Is that is that a statement that you run in your mind? Like, how do you keep that thought process? Because I know a lot of people, they feel how you felt and gone through that that system. And then they realize, okay, I want to change. And so they come up with this positive thought or this, you know, affirmation. How do you make sure that that stays in your mind constantly to where you don't go back to old habits? Yeah, I just I'm really obsessed with it. I I've lived for I'm, you know, I'm 41 years old. I realized last year that I had been living the first, you know, hopefully less than half of my life. Kind of like just being what I thought people wanted me to be, which is not true. Like, that's not real. And I want to be real. So it's like knowing your why. And for me, I just really want to be true. I want to be real. I want to be authentic. And I want to be that for myself and the world in what I do. That's like the core of it for me is I don't, I don't want to lie. I don't and I didn't know it for so long. So I keep that at the forefront of my head and in my hearts and those two, like the head and the heart connect it all the time. And I just, you know, anytime a situation comes up, I am it's not perfect. But I just go back to that. Okay, I'm a learner. Like, what am I, what do I need to learn here? And I assess every day. I literally like think about my day and I'm like, what did I do? Like, a lot of it for me has been letting go of people I was drawing in and I was attracted to that really aren't right for me. So I'm spending a lot of time alone now getting to know myself. And so it's really helped me just start that relationship with myself so I can be stronger within myself. It's very difficult in the world. When you start bringing in life and other people, and it took me a long time to get to this point. But for anyone listening right now, you know, I would just say like, you have to make it your mission to move forward in your life for you. And then stay wholeheartedly, no matter how hard it is, like letting go of people was really hard for me. It took a long time. I had to, you know, let go of a friend that I knew for years. It just wasn't right for me anymore. It was like the old me I attracted her. And this knew me like she didn't fit my future or my present anymore. So that was so hard to do that. So let go of a friendship. And I had to use that, you know, my why to continue to propel me forward and fierce forward ash like, this isn't my life isn't to be lived for her. Like, I got to make decisions that make me happy and that are true for me. And then they're true for both of us. Because I'm being honest. So with that, this is actually something that I run into a lot with one on one coaching where people have to start making decisions, right? Because, you know, whatever you surround yourself, you become, right, whether that's information, people, you know, all that stuff, you become it. And so people ask that they talk about, you know, toxic friendships, toxic people, like it's a real negative point of view. And one thing that I think maybe you're hinting at this is like basically you decided like, it's me. I'm responsible for me. I'm the one that empowers me. And so when you cut people off with things like that, I've been trying to have this view that it's not because they're bad. It's because I'm not right within. And so the way they are is affecting me in a way that I don't want to be. And as I go back to solitude, like you've done, you know, kind of going back rebuilding yourself, there should, I guess the goal would be that you become the strong so strong in your energy that that person, it's no longer you cutting them out. They can't be around you because you're so empowered in who you are that it doesn't sit well with them. And they leave or the better option, they get inspired and they make the changes too. Right? Like, is that kind of like the intern vision is that not like solitude isn't the intern goal? That's the stage that you're in right now is you're rebuilding, you're filling content within, you're building your business, probably family is close, but then, you know, then it's expansion from there. Yeah, I mean, ultimately, my goal is to be true. And what's true for me is I've been in a lot of groups, I've put myself in a lot of rooms that really aren't me. And, you know, we lived at this apartment complex a couple years back and everyone was drinking, I was running my business and we got kind of sucked in and I realized like we took a photo one day and everyone's like, family. And I just sat there after the photo and I was like, this isn't family to me, but they think it is. And this isn't true for me. And I don't want to be untrue to them. So for me, it's knowing that I'm doing the harder thing right now so that I can create a clearing and an opening for the truer thing to come in later. So it's really about that for me. It's that I know that even though we have to do really hard things along the way, that you do them, you make the sacrifice now, so you can get the better and the truer later. And that's what you're doing is you're building a stronger you by saying holding the line and saying, no, I'm just doing what's easy and keep these people in my life because it's easy and I don't want to be a bad person, but always go, am I being true to myself? Am I being true to them? And if not, if these people aren't your people, then you just do the harder thing now. And you will find the right people later on. Like, I just know that. I know I will. I know I will. I just I know I know. I know. Well, that's the law of attraction, right? Like, you know, you attracted them. And again, it's not that they're bad, right? That's the experience that they're having. And you can decide to be a part of that experience or not. And you know, you just send them love and you move forward. And the best thing you could do too, if you think that you're on a path for raising your vibration, you know, being part of the greater good, is that hopefully they see you and get inspired by it. That may not be the case, right? But hopefully they see you and see certain things, right? Like, your path is not their path. But I think everybody on this planet would love to be healed and have inner peace, right? So whichever way you demonstrate that is a good way, you know, to be in the world. I feel like. Yeah, it's like I said, it's so important to me to be the true girl, not just the good girl, you know, like, I want to be really honest and I want to be who I am. And I kind of realized too, like, I have, like, we each have a purpose, we each when you start to tap into your purpose, which I have the past year, even more so like I knew it once I started if you're forward, but even more so once I started to get to know myself and like when you know your purpose, you kind of just I love this term horse blinders. You put horse blinders on and you know, when horses are racing, they put them over their eyes so they can't see to their sides and they literally just run their race. So they're not like comparing or looking around, they're just running their race as best they can to the best of their ability. And that's what I do right now. I have horse blinders on. And if you're someone who adds value to my life, like, I'll see you in front of me. And if you're someone who's trying to pull me back, I feel it and I'm not interested. Like, I literally made these decisions in my life for myself, what will and won't be accepted by me, which for my whole life, I was an open forum. I was like, everyone take for me, just let me know that I matter. Tell me I love me and like you like me. And before I just I would say everything, it didn't matter. I would put my whole heart on a platter. And now I'm like, no, it's reserved for the right people. And I'm building me and I'm okay with myself. Like, I don't need anyone else anymore to tell me. Like, that's my job now. And what I really want more than anything in the world is for me to tell it to myself and to know it. Yeah, well, so I love what you said there, because it's one of my favorite sayings right now. And it's that the universe doesn't give you what you want. It gives you what you tolerate. And it's just when I reflect in my life, I realize how true that is because there's so much good that I wanted, so many things that I wanted and even worked for. Yeah, but I always ended up with what I would tolerate. Yes. And anyone listening right now, like whatever line of work you're in, wherever you are in your life, like, it's never ending, right? Like, I thought I hit a really cool level. And then I was like, no, I want more. And I'm never going to stop growing. I'm never going to stop getting better. I'm obsessed with it. And I think that it doesn't matter where you're at. When you decide to, you have to know yourself, if you want to get farther and keep growing and not get stuck in this loop of like, I'm not happy. I'm just like, I don't know what's going on with my life. I can't get to X, Y and Z. Like, wow, everyone else is doing it, but I don't think it's for me. It all comes down to like, if you want to accelerate really fast in your life, get to know yourself, and then decide who you want to continue to become, and then start moving towards that and don't take anything less. Yeah, no, I mean, that's, that's it. I mean, so you kind of beat me to the punch. I doesn't ask you what your final thought, right? If someone's listening, if someone has, you know, resonated with what you said, or they might know who you are, they checked out your company, you know, what, what do you say? Because there's, there's people that I think are similar to you were on the outside, life looks good, you know, to where you were on the inside doesn't feel so good. And then of course, there's people with outside doesn't look good and the inside doesn't feel good. What do you say to them? Like, what's, hey, this is, if you could take one thing away from me, it's this. What is that? Yeah, it's that you have a choice that you aren't disempowered, you don't have to be disempowered, you get to decide to choose to move forward. And you get to decide how you do it. Like, what is it for you? Is it, you know, finding out who you are? Is it, you know, moving towards a dream and moving through fear, like, whatever it is for you right now, you are not powerless. Like, that's the biggest thing. You are the one to give yourself everything you want in this world. And we're so afraid we have so much doubt and worry and fear of discomfort, all fear. Forget fear, man. Like, find the fear, let it inform you where you can empower yourself even more and fears forward through it. Because that's on the other side. I know this is kind of cliche on the other side. I swear, it's just the more you put yourself in the discomfort. And, you know, we all know what we really want and who we really are deep down, but you have to do the work to face yourself and decide and then decide choose to move towards that person. Yeah, that's it. It's the choice. I mean, we all have the power and the greatest way to own powers to convince people they don't have the power, right? So people absolutely have it. So if someone wants to find you, if they want to, either check out your store or just connect with you more, what's the best way to do that? Yeah, so we have our shop is fierceforward.com. And we have gorgeous crystal jewelry and tension bracelets with words on them to help you keep moving forward and focus on what like where you are in the season of your life. Maybe it's like you're on a powerful journey of like finding your truth. Maybe you're on a healing journey. We have everything for that because I just like, I love journeys and I have the fierce forward podcast. So I talk more about mindset, authenticity and everything I talked about today. I'm just kind of an open book there. And I'm on Instagram at fierce. Step forward. Yeah, everyone check out the links will be down below. And, you know, it's always a great experience. She has excellent products. I mean, it's some of the best stuff if you're looking for healing, you know, if you're looking for that jewelry that just means something, I think it's the place to go. So Ashley, thank you so much for joining us. And I can't wait to talk to you again. Thank you so much. Thank you so much for tuning in. I hope you enjoyed this episode of the positive mindset podcast. If you want to make sure you don't miss a single episode, make sure you subscribe to my email list. There's a link down below. It will keep you up to date with every single episode. And if you want to follow me on social media, there's my Instagram and TikTok down below as well. I appreciate all the follows there. You could also join the positive mindset Facebook group is where we're coming together, having some positive conversations and people are sharing what they're doing in their growth journey. So feel free to check that out. 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