103. summer prep, bucket list activities and how to romanticize your life

Hello, happy Wednesday. I hope that you're having a great day, a great start to your day. It is 12 AM right before I post this episode. And I wanted to come on here because unfortunately there were some audio errors with this episode and I really, really, really enjoyed it so I didn't want to scratch it. And I really wanted to have something up and ready for you on time. I have been working literally all day trying to save this audio. I don't know what's going on. I promise I will get it figured out. I hope you still are able to enjoy the episode. I might end up re-uploading it if it gets fixed. But if you're listening to this, there will be some audio errors and I'm so sorry, but I hope you're still able to enjoy the episode. And I hope you have a great day. Hello, hello. Welcome back to the Wellness Cafe podcast you're go to, Hawkerwalk podcast. I'm your host, Trin Tondelier. I just, you know, I'm going to say Trin instead of Trinity, I think for the rest of my life. I went to a new coffee shop last week and he asked for my name, obviously, for the order. And I said, Trinity and I picked up the cup and it said, T-R-I-N-I-D-E-E-N. Sorry, there was an N. Trinity, when I said Trin, it just, you know, something I had to tell you about Trinity. So yeah, hopefully that sets the tone for what to expect for today's episode. This is going to be one big FaceTime. So week four of the Hot Girl Summer Glow Up Guide series. As promised today, I'm also going to be giving you some bucket list things to do if you want to start making your bucket list, getting the girls together, you know the vibes. It's time to start thinking about it. Summer is around the corner. I can smell Hot Girl Summer coming in strong and we have to be prepared and ready to rock. Okay. One thing about me is I always like to have options on deck. And let me tell you what I mean by that. I am an avid screenshotter. I be screenshotting shit. I don't know what kind of mood I'm in today and I'm sorry. I don't know what's going on. But actually let me check how many screenshots I have on my phone. Okay. Holy shit. For reference. When I say that I am an avid screenshotter, I just pulled up my screenshots album. Okay. I want you to just like take a quick second and guess how many you think. I'm about to say before I tell you pick a number in your brain. Whatever is a lot of screenshots to you. I have 12,508 screenshots. So I'm not messing around when I say I'm a screenshotter and I feel like it's mostly when I'm on an airplane. Actually, I will go through my screenshots and I make albums on my phone. So I have one for food ideas. I have one for secret wellness cafe projects. I have one for my vision board for outfits. I have one of things to do in Edmonton, things to do in LA, things to do in Vancouver, New York, you get the vibe. Okay. So I will go through my screenshots and then also in the notes app, I will make a list of things to do, coffee shops to go to, hikes to do, activities, every single thing so that whenever I'm bored or whenever, like let's say it's a lazy Sunday and Brody and I are trying to think of things to do, like if you don't accumulate ideas of things to do, it can honestly take hours to try and decide on what to do. You know when you want to try a new restaurant and it genuinely takes you like three hours to find the one, I will never encounter that again because in my notes app, I am locked and loaded ready to go. And that was a really long explanation. But what I mean is that if you don't want to be bored in the summer, you have to be prepared. Okay. There is always something to do. Next and foremost weekly updates. Actually wait, even before that, holy shit, I didn't even realize we have passed six million downloads. What that blows my mind. I just got goosebumps on my arm saying that whenever I see that number, I think it's really, really hard for me to put into context because honestly every single time that I jump on the mic, I truly just in my brain. I'm talking to my best friend and then it's really hard to contextualize six million downloads. That is insane. Thank you so frickin much. Thank you for supporting me and listening to the podcast and allowing me to have my dream job in the whole entire world and help you and hopefully make your days and weeks a little bit brighter and I don't know. I've said this once. I will say it again and again. Meanwhile, this cafe is the most important part of my job to me. I know I have so many different streams. Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, the podcast, but the podcast, if you're here, like this is it. This is the number one. So six million frickin downloads is insane. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. I love you. What else is new? Oh yeah. Okay. Six ago, I'm pretty sure I told you how we were thinking about selling my vehicle and she today actually I'm recording this Tuesday. You already know real time hang out Tuesday, May. What's the date? 16th. Oh, that's so sad. That makes it official Tuesday May 16th. My little baby. My Jeep is gone. And the reason I'm telling you this is because I need some advice, some input. So I live like downtown downtown downtown Vancouver. I can walk most places I go. I haven't had my vehicle here for a hot second. I actually had it in Edmonton. So I have been doing fine without one. I do. Yes. That's why I like break down and cry and just miss that freedom of having a car so much. And because of that, I have been thinking of making a big girl purchase and buying myself a new vehicle, but I'm just torn because I know I said one of my New Year's goals this year was to make more investments and be smarter with my money. Having a new vehicle is pretty much just the biggest waste of money because your car, well, the type of car I'm looking at is only going to depreciate in value. And I know that it's not a smart money investment. And it's so, so expensive to drive in Vancouver, the cost of gas. I have to pay for parking. I would have to pay for insurance, you know, driving is obviously really expensive and a luxury. But then on the other hand, I have worked my butt off and it would be really, really cool to buy myself and pay for my own vehicle upfront, just like girl boss the shit out of it and buy myself a new car just to literally post it and be like just a big fuck you to every single person who ever made fun of me for posting on social media. And like that part of me just wants to be like, I work hard for my money. I deserve to treat myself. If I want a car, let's buy a car, let's do the damn thing. And then like the devil, sorry, no, that's the devil and the angel. I have like angel and devil on my shoulder right now. Both sides are fighting. So that is why I'm telling you because I feel like every single decision that I make in my life now is a group TWC decision because you have supported me and you have got me here. So if you say I can buy a car, I will buy a car. But if you're like, Trin, don't be stupid. Invest your money instead. You're doing fine without a car. I will listen and I will just go on my merry little way and that will be that. So let me know what you think I should do. I honestly have no idea. I do miss just that freedom of being able to go for a drive, listen to music, grab a smoothie and like escape my little downtown bubble. I don't know. I will shut up, but let me know if you have any input or if anyone's listening who's kind of been in the same predicament as I currently am, let me know which way you decided on going and if you regret it or how it went, if you're happy you got a car, how many of you live downtown with a car, just let me know. Okay. I'm torn. I don't know what to do other than that. So what I've been doing is just jumping in to summer. Okay. I know it's not summer, officially summer for like what three more weeks, but I don't even care. I'm just jumping in. I'm ready. I am embracing Vancouver. I'm sorry. I don't know what about today's episode. I'm just choosing to fill you in on everything that I haven't been doing because I don't do the weekly updates at every single episode anymore. So you're getting all the tea today. Okay. I hope you're bored. I hope you have a long drive. I hope you have a shit ton of cleaning ahead of you because you're in for a long one. Um, yeah, I am really embracing Vancouver. I live here like permanently again. My little freak out is over. So after reflecting, I think that prematurely isn't the word, but for lack of better term. I don't know why I can't think of the word right now. I would say I think I moved to Vancouver prematurely and not that. Okay. Let me try to articulate this. Not that it was premature. I just, I don't think I accepted that like I was moving to a new city away from my friends and family yet. So instead of just embracing it and fully submerging myself into the new city and the scary aspects, the good aspects, I just kept being sad that I missed my family and my little siblings and my friends and the time that I wasn't just being sad about that. I was going home and working from home and just living in Edmonton. So instead of really trying to give the new city a shot and a chance to build a new life here and make friends, I just kept going to Edmonton. So not that I don't still go there. I do still go there quite a bit to see my family, but it is less, less frequent and I just, I'm really trying to put in an effort to make Vancouver home because this has been my dream and I've always wanted to experience this. So I'm just, I'm going to give myself and this city a shot. You know, I feel like before I wasn't giving it a shot on paper. I moved here, but it's like the time that I actually spent here trying to make this home and trying to make friends was very slim to none. And the reason I'm talking about this is because a lot of you have reached out, especially after I made my friendship episode and just, I do talk about moving to a new city. A lot of the times and it resonates with a lot of you who want to move to a new city or those of you who want to make new friends. The moral of this story is I just, I cut the shit and I stopped playing victim and I just, I decided that I am going to make this home. So I've been putting in an effort to meet new people. I have been making plans. I've been reaching out. I realized that to have friends that you need to be a friend and I was literally just sitting here complaining that I had no friends and knew no one here and I wasn't doing anything about it. And I've really been putting in the effort to meet new people here to plan dates with my friends and meet new people, put myself outside of my comfort zone. I feel like in my brain, I just expected it. Well, this is exactly what I was saying in my friendship episode. I expected it to be easy to make friends, you know, and just if it didn't happen, it didn't happen, but it is something that you have to put work into. Friendship, new friendship, especially in your mid 20s, isn't just going to come out of nowhere. You have to reach out to people. You have to go to new spots. You have to be willing to be the first one to communicate or put yourself out there. Fern and I have been getting really, really close and that is so fantastic because she lives right down the street from me and we are like the exact same human and we really just get along so well. She is amazing. I had her on the pod like two months ago now. So that has been great, but we always joke about the fact that I, she literally DM me and asked me to hang out and I was just ghosting. Like I was putting no effort into meeting people here. I was just sitting on my ass feeling sorry for myself that I had no friends. The general of the story is that for anyone who wants to move to a new city, has moved to a new city or just in general would like to make more friends. It can come naturally. Yes, but it isn't something that is guaranteed to come naturally. So sometimes if that is something that you're lacking or something you want in your life, you have to put yourself outside of your comfort zone and be willing to try new things, spark conversation, be a friend if you want friends and that is what I have been doing. So I have, I have four friends now. Okay, I have four friends in Vancouver and it is amazing. So don't mind me. I'm in my socialite era rock in my four friends and that is what is up. I posted like, I think it was last week, Fern and I did a dinner day and we cooked together and my mom replied to my Instagram story and she goes, OMG, I am so happy that you have a friend now. And I was like, me too, mom, me too. So catch me in my Vancouver socialite era and that is what is up. If you're listening to this and you wish that you had more friends and you're trying to make friends, I promise you, if you continue to put the effort in, your people will come. And if you're putting positive energy out and you are being kind and you are caring and you are loving, those people are all going to be attracted right back to you. Don't give up if it's not happening right away. I have so many updates. I have so much I want to tell you. This week I also went to a 437X house concepts event, which is the gym I go to in Vancouver. So that was really fun and I also got to meet so many girls there. That is how I've been making a lot of my friends and I got my butt absolutely kicked. And then after the workout, Van is in a heat wave right now. It has been 30 degrees for so long. I can't remember the last time we saw rain, but anyway, Brody and I headed to the beach right after my workout and I was feeling a little tired. This was our first time going to the beach all year. Okay, this was like the first 10 of the summer. We officially started putting in work to be 10. We went to Whole Foods. We got sushi. We got drinks. We got snacks and we laid out our towels and we both looked at each other and we're like, okay, 10 minutes without sunscreen on and then we have to put it on, which this was our first mistake, but we were honestly just too lazy to put it on right at the beginning. We agree on 10 minutes without sunscreen and then we're putting it on. Next thing I know, I opened my eyes and it is an hour later. And we also didn't realize how burnt we were until we got home and Brody lifted up his shirt and he had a huge tan line where his shorts are. And like I honestly started crying laughing. It was the most that we've laughed, like the hardest that we've laughed together in a while, but we are crispy. We are grounded from the sun. That was the day before Mother's Day. So on Mother's Day, when I texted my mom, I also included a picture of my sunburn and I said that no matter how old I am, I'm still going to need my mom to take care of me. And she said, yeah, you have to move home so I can take care of you. Brody and I were just like running around our apartment saying that our moms would be so mad at us and we don't know how we're allowed to live on our own because we fully fell asleep with no sunscreen on. And then later that evening, I had a dinner with 437 and host concepts again. And it was a smaller group of girls who are in the same industry as myself and Fern and I got seated at the table right next to Hilah. She is one of the founders and CEOs of 437. And it was just such an inspiring night being surrounded with so many successful and smart girls who are really just leaders in the industry and paving away for everyone else. And it was very, very, very inspiring. And I came home feeling just so excited for what's to come with the Wellness Cafe. I was inspired. I was motivated. And it's just crazy how much being in a room full of people who all have drive and motivation and they're ambitious. It just motivates you so much more. And that is why I always remind you to surround yourself with people you want to be and that you become like the top five people you surround yourself with. So pick wisely. And it is just so true. Three hours at a dinner table with Hilah. And I came home just very motivated, filled with passion and fulfillment and ready to just keep working harder. And I also just love, I love to see successful young girls following their passion, making it happen for themselves. It is so inspiring and there's nothing I like to see more than women, especially young women succeeding. As a result of following their passion, there is nothing more beautiful than seeing that. I just feel like so many people are out here trying to tell us that we can't and trying to tell us that we aren't good enough. We will never succeed. Our goals are too big and it's just amazing when you see people being proved wrong. But anyway, move it along, Trin, what I'm having, what is setting me up for success. These past couple of weeks, what is fueling my hot girl summer glow up. Okay. So last night, actually, I shared kind of like my night routine breakdown on my Instagram stories. And I said that there is one very important thing that I have just discovered for my night routine that has been groundbreaking. But you only get to know if you listen to the Wellness Cafe because some things just aren't for everyone. Okay. And you know, like obviously I have some casual followers on my main Instagram. But if you listen to the pod, you are my people, you're my best friends. And with that being said, you get to know my deepest, darkest secrets. So you know, I included in episode one for our overall body health glow up for hot girl summer. I talked about how I'm just shutting the shit down at nighttime. I'm going to bed. I'm literally just putting the baby down for a nap. You go to bed right now because if I don't, I can stay up all night long. Okay. I don't know what happens. I literally feel like I could fly to the moon at night. I like insomnia. Okay. Eight of insomnia to the max. My brain just goes flying at nighttime. Needless to say, I have been looking for ways to go to bed. So I have been loving the sleepy girl mocktail. I have tried it. It works wonders. I shared that in the first episode of the hot girl summer glow up guide. And I told you I haven't tried it yet. I tried it. I love it. I also mix a little bit of magnesium powder in it. And she is so good. Anywho, the magic little secret that I recently discovered that is genuinely the very last step on the night routine lately. Okay. I just have to, I have to rip it off like a band-aid. Brody and I said because obviously, well, you won't, you won't understand this right now, but I can't spit it out. This one, Brody might actually be mad at me for telling you. So I don't know why I randomly thought of this, but one night I couldn't fall asleep. And I went to YouTube and I put the Harry Styles Com app bedtime stories into the YouTube search bar because I, I'm not paying for the Com app, but someone has uploaded it to YouTube. I put Harry Styles on. I'm crying. I'm crying. This stays between us. Okay. Here on the pod stays on the pod. This is for real ones only, but I had to let you in on the secret because it is too good. It's like, it's like Harry Styles ASMR. He's talking to you. He's like, next we're frolicking through a field holding hands. The rain starts to pour on us and Brody, like we sleep together obviously. So he has to listen to it too. And then like after the first couple of seconds, I burst out laughing and Brody burst out laughing. He's like, we can't tell a soul about this. Like this is going to the grave. And of course, whenever I say it's going to the grave, lips are sealed. It always ends up on the pod. But if you want to fall asleep and you like Harry Styles, I'm just saying I've done it now five nights in a row and I'm out like a light. I went to bed at 9.45 Sunday night. I am someone who could stay up till 4 a.m. easily if I wanted to. So you didn't hear it from me, but Harry Styles calm up ASMR bedtime stories is the shit. If you want to be put to bed like a sleepy little baby and just peacefully fall asleep, that is my hack. So you heard it here first. The TWC Hawkerel Summer hack to have your sleep taken care of is Harry Styles ASMR just talking to you like you are in love for all looking through a field. However, before I found that, I don't know what day of the week it was because I've been on my shit, but I binged. Oh my goodness. Okay, this also stays between us because this is so bad. I cannot remember. Honestly, I'm pretty sure I told you the last time I did this. What was it for? I can't remember, but honestly, I remember telling you I stayed up all night, all night through the night and I binged Queen Charlotte, the Bridgerton series on Netflix because on Thursdays that Brody goes to volleyball and I started doing the night routine. I was cleaning and then instead of listening to a podcast or music, I put on the show. I won't tell you any spoilers, but if you like Bridgerton, you need to watch it. Oh my goodness. I was sobbing at one point, like fully sobbing. It's so good. So I couldn't put it down. If you're looking for a good binge, if you feel like being crazy one night and staying up till 4 a.m., Queen Charlotte Bridgerton series. Next, what I've been loving for dinner, I made it once last week for the first time and since then I have made it three times in a row. It is that good. It is barbecue chicken tacos with a homemade mango salsa with tahine in it. It's delicious. It takes honestly 20-30 minutes. So good. It's also nice because it's one of those things that you can like batch make a whole ton for dinner and then Brody's been taking it for work lunches or you can take it for a school lunch. What I am grateful for. This was like my morning moment of gratitude this morning. Whenever I'm doing my morning routine, I love to open the windows and just get fresh air into the apartment, start airing out the apartment. I don't know. I just want to share in the morning. And this morning specifically, I don't know what happened. There was just a nice breeze that came in that smelled like summer. The birds were chirping and I was walking around and I really just took a moment to appreciate the breeze that came into my apartment. It just, I don't know, it just was so peaceful and it is honestly just the little things like that. Taking a moment to be like, holy shit. I am so grateful for this breeze. I don't know. It sounds cheesy, but when you start practicing gratitude, it's like the tiny things like that that can honestly just put you in such a positive headspace. If you asked me six years ago before I started any of this, when I had a very negative mindset, I wouldn't pay attention to that shit at all. And now because I'm just always looking for the positives, it's like something as tiny as the breeze is able to just make me so grateful to be alive, grateful for the summer, grateful for my apartment, grateful to be waking up and living another day. I don't know. And that was my morning moment today. So I thought I would share it with you. Actually, that gives me another note that I want to share a little witchy shit for you. I have been, as you know, Hawkerel Summer Glow Up, I've really been disciplined and strict. I've been on top of every single habit. Sometimes I am not as strict with my journaling and my gratitude practice. You know, I don't do it every single day. No one's perfect, but all of me, I have been really dedicating a moment, a morning moment to my affirmations, manifestations and gratitude practice on paper. So writing them all down because I think that if you want to honestly be a generator for positivity and if you want to be a magnet for all of your desires and to turn your vision board into a reality, I think that the most powerful way to do that is when you put pen to paper. So I've really been trying to up the positivity, the gratitude, the manifestation, all of the things. And yesterday I wrote down a huge sheet. I was just going off. Honestly, I think I spent 10 minutes just writing down positive affirmations, manifestations, all the things. And then after that, I did a little extra journaling. I did a check in with my work, some goals that I want to work on, what I want to prioritize with work, wink, wink, nunch, nudge, my little wellness cafe projects coming up. Anyway, in one of that, I just wrote down some brands that I am really aligned with right now that I would love to work with because I really, really, really prioritize brands that I'm aligned with later that afternoon. Fern and I went to the beach to 10 for a little lunch date because I'm really prioritizing taking a proper lunch break. And it really helps me get off, get over that afternoon slump around four ish. I can sometimes get a hump, especially if I'm on my shit, waking up at 6 a.m. Like three to four 30, honestly, it can sometimes be a battle and I have to like fight to power through. Making a proper lunch break, getting out of the house, getting sunshine has been a really great way to go through that. So I would highly recommend taking your lunch break at work outside instead of just staying in the office, going outside, getting fresh air, sunlight, nature, it just, it fuels me so much and just makes me a lot more energized to tackle the rest of the day. Oh my gosh, I keep getting sidetracked. I have so much that I just want to share with you right now. I feel like I've really been on top of my shit. Anyway, I was at the beach with Fern and I literally gasped at my phone and she was like, Oh my goodness, what? And I was like, Oh, it's not like it's nothing that crazy. It is just so wild. This brand just messaged me and this morning I wrote it down in my journal as a brand that I was really aligned with that I would love to start working with. So my little witches in training, my little witchy girls, I don't know. I don't know at this point. I don't know what to say. I don't have words practice positivity, practice gratitude, manifest your dreams and I promise you it will work. But moving along to what I'm working on, I don't mean to be a Debbie Downer and I never like to put negativity into the episodes, especially going from a manifestation story to something I'm working on. But I think that I really should share this. If anyone is listening that can relate, I want you to know that you're not alone. I've shared this a little bit with you, but I have hormone issues that I believe is from going on and off of birth control in high school and just, I don't think they've ever fully recovered and been normal since then. And I do want to make a podcast episode kind of talking about it and my story, but I just don't feel ready yet. And I want to have all the information. I would like to figure out a little bit more about what's going on with myself before I truly speak on it to you. Anyway, I have hormone issues and imbalances and what I'm working on right now, that's honestly really, really, honestly, it is trying to stop me. It is trying to put a little roadblock in my little positive, my positive vibes. It's trying to stop me and I'm not letting it. I have been dealing with the just most insane bloating problems and inflammation and probably along with that weight gain, but I don't have a scale. I don't weigh myself. I can just feel it. I don't. I told you coming back from Coachella, which is expected coming from Coachella. I felt like a slug, but even before that, I've just, I've been dealing with some inflammation and bloating, but it has been getting so bad lately that it's just uncomfortable and rock hard bloating on my stomach. Like literally any time I have anything. I swear at this point, I can drink water and get uncomfortably bloated. Actually, the dinner I just told you about that was such an amazing time and I left feeling so grateful for that experience and the good conversation that was had during that dinner. Before that dinner, I tried on a pair of cargo pants that, what was it? Three, four weeks ago now, I wore these pants to Coachella and since Coachella, I've really been on top of my shit. I've been working out almost five times a week. I've been doing all my healthy habits and I put on those pants that I wore a month ago to go to the dinner and I couldn't button them up and it was like, it was time to go to the dinner. I had to be leaving in five minutes and I turned to Brody and I honestly was holding back tears because I was just looking at him. I was like, look at these won't even button up. I'm so frustrated. It hurts. It's painful. I don't know what to do at this point. And I honestly said to him, I was like, I don't even feel like going like this is just painful. I just want to be in sweatpants. I want this to stop. It's really frustrating when I'm putting all my work and literally focusing on doing all the right things, all the healthy habits, getting my steps in, doing my morning routine, getting my movement in, eating healthy, not drinking alcohol, going into the sauna, doing cold showers. I'm doing all the things that I want to be doing that make me feel good. And it's just so frustrating when in turn, something isn't right in your body and you don't feel good and it can just be so frustrating when you know there isn't, when you know there's something wrong in your body and no matter what you try, it's not working. I don't know. I just felt like I needed needed to share this because if anyone is experiencing, experiencing any of this or feels down that they're not seeing progress or if you're having health issues or bloating like any of the above, I just wanted to share this to tell you that like, I am not perfect all the time. I'm not happy in my body all the time. I truly didn't even want to go to that dinner, but actually Brody, my king, my sweet little prince, he was like, honestly, trend, you know, like you say this all the time on your podcast. You're the only one who can notice it. No one else is going to realize it. I know it's frustrating, but you shouldn't let it stop you from going out and having fun and meeting people. I think you look amazing because at this point, I was fully holding back tears. I didn't want to go. So Brody has to talk me into going and I was just so frustrated because it is impossible to find a doctor and I've been trying to get someone new to help me because since I move from Alberta, I haven't had a family doctor and I'm just getting so frustrated and I'm not showing this for pity. I am sharing this because if you have felt anything similar or if you feel like you're doing all the right things and you're not seeing progress or you're not feeling good, it can be super discouraging and it's like during times like that, it can feel like, why am I doing all these things? Why am I waking up at six, working out so tired? I would rather just sleep. I want to drink with my friends in the sun, but I'm choosing to do things that are supposed to be and usually make me feel good except there's something wrong in my body and I'm not feeling my best. Like that is so discouraging. So I wanted to share this as my what I'm working on in case anyone else has been feeling something similar so that you know you're not alone and that you know to keep going and keep powering through because you will be rewarded even if your body isn't responding right right now, something isn't right. If you're upset that you can't see progress, anything that falls into that funnel, I promise you that your hard work will not go unnoticed and there will be a light at the end of the tunnel because in my situation, specifically the night of the dinner when my cochelipants wouldn't fit at all, I literally was just so mad and I wanted to just be mad and get in my sweatpants and just let it get the best of me and play the victim that I can't find a doctor and it's everyone else's fault. But if I had let that negatively impact me and stop me from going out, like that is that no one else's fault and it would have just been me playing the victim, which that's what I wanted to do. I wanted to just pout and lay in bed, but sometimes you know if you listen to the episode about the show must go on like that is always what I remind myself the show must go on. Everything is temporary and it will pass. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am doing all these habits that do make me feel good in the moment, but long term and like through day to day life, my body is still not feeling its best even though these habits do make me happy and they make me feel good. Something is just really upset in my body that I can't control, but the show must go on and I keep showing up for myself every day and I know that I will figure it out. I will find a solution and it will only be temporary. So if anyone else is dealing with anything like this, you are not alone and keep going because your hard work will be rewarded. Oh my goodness, I had so much to share with you today. I'm going to give you as promised a couple hot girl summer bucket list ideas, but don't worry. It will not be the end of hot girl summer content on the Wellness Cafe. As you know, I love to lean in to seasons and romanticize the shit out of them. I will probably take a break from the hot girl summer next week just because this blows my mind to say, but we have listeners worldwide. So not everyone is going into hot girl summer. So I do want to take a break from specific summer content, but don't worry. I will do a full comprehensive summer bucket list episode and your summer vibes episode. So this may be short for the bucket list ideas, but I wanted to leave you with a couple things because especially making plans for summertime in your mid twenties, it is so hard to get all of your friends available on the same day. So honestly, if you want to do any of these group activities realistically, sometimes you do need to start planning it right now so that you can get all your friends together in one place. And also, if you can easily get all your friends together on one day at the same place and same time, do not take it for granted because every single time that my whole entire friend group is together in one room now, we literally like hold hands and stand in a circle and say, let's remember this moment because we don't know when we'll get it again. So you don't know how lucky you are if you can get all your friends together easily and fast. So here are a couple ideas to get you inspired to start thinking about your Hawkerel summer plans. Don't worry, this won't be the last you hear of Hawkerel summer bucket list ideas. Honestly, I think the number one tip to enjoy your summer and have fun is to romanticize everything. Okay. I am a person who could probably stare at a wall, a brick wall with the people I love and make it fun because I will find a way to romanticize it. I could probably be locked in a jail cell and honestly, some of the rat shit that my friends and I get up to in the summer, we do deserve jail and we could go to a jail cell and still have fun. So remember that you only have to give your energy all the time, but especially in the summer only give it to people who make you feel good. Okay. If someone is draining your energy, if someone doesn't make you feel good, you do not owe them your time, you do not owe them your friendship. If it is not reciprocated, if you feel if your energy has been drained after seeing someone, you do not owe them your time. Okay. So the number one rule for Hawkerel summer is to only give your energy and time to people who deserve it and people who feel like sunshine. And I'm not saying that people you hang out with have to be your bestest, bestest friends ever to hang out with them, but they do have to make you feel good and make you feel happy. If someone is rude to you, if someone like, you know those secret friends that are really haters and you know that that friend is actually a hater by see you never. I don't have time for you. That is the vibe. Okay. So number one, that once we have our circle down, once we have picked out and eliminated the people who don't make us feel good, once you're left with only your friends who feel like sunshine here are some ideas of what you can do this summer budget friendly. You don't have to travel. You can have a good time wherever you are. My first idea, and this is one that takes a little preparing, a time to think on it, if you will. So that is why I thought it would be important to put in this episode. So you still have time to prep is to learn a new skill and it seems so scary. It is so embarrassing in your brain. Well, especially my brain. I don't know about you, but in my brain, for some reason, I feel embarrassed. To be seen trying something new, but this winter, if you've been following along, you know I did it this winter with snowboarding. It was the best time ever. I was seen going up the fucking bunny hill, whatever. What's it called? The magic carpet. Just a full grown acid, all going up the magic carpet with four year olds because I was choosing to learn something new at the ripe age of 23. And it was embarrassing, all my dignity was lost on that bunny hill in my brain. But in real life, it wasn't that serious and no one cared and it is okay to learn something new as an adult. So I would highly recommend thinking of a new skill or sport that you want to get into the summer and learn a new thing. My thing for me and I have thought on it, I would love to learn how to golf because it looks really fun and you can go do it with, like I feel like it's a great thing to do as a couple and Brody and I need things that we can do as a couple except I do not know what, like what even is golf? I have no fucking idea. I would love to know. I wish I knew and I keep putting it off because now I'm too scared to be the person who doesn't know what they're doing. But mark my words, Brody and I have already discussed it. I am going to learn how to golf this summer. I'm going to be embarrassed as shit in my brain going out there learning something new, but it feels really rewarding and everything is always scarier in your head. So golf is going to be my snowboarding of the summer. But honestly, just trying any new sport or movement or activity outside is so much fun because in the summer, especially like if you're not a gym person, of course, gym rats, you want to be in the gym. But if you would rather be outside and you're only looking to move your body and you don't necessarily need to be in a gym for myself, if I'm in a gym in summer, like I want to be outside, I want to be in the sun. And there are so many ways to get your movement in outside in the summer. I'm also going to be taking up pickleball this summer. Okay, apparently pickleball is the new tennis word on the street. I don't know how true that is, but I'm going to try pickleball. Also you can do yoga outside rollerblading, biking, swimming. You know that I'm a swimmer. Actually Fern and I have discussed this. I'm going to take her to an outdoor pool on the beach in Vancouver in the sun and we are going to swim laps together. She's like, okay, yep, sign me up. I will try something new. I will try swimming with you and that made my heart so happy. And I'm telling you these ideas now because I feel like these are the ones that maybe you have to get your friends on board. You know, you have to like convince them, persuade them, get them in on the vibe, sell them on it. So now you have plenty of time before we're in like the depths of summer. You have time to persuade them. Another form of movement is going for hikes or walks in your city that you haven't been on before. So I have been making a list in my notes app compiled from my screenshots of hikes that I want to do in the area this summer. That way the next time I have a free time or a free day or feel like going on a hike, I have my list ready. I know where I want to go. I know what to do. Next on my personal list for what I want to do this summer is I want to try making pasta from scratch. I've never done it. I really, really, really want to do it. As I always make my pasta sauce from scratch, but how fun would it be to have a little girls night where aprons put them by music on and make full pasta noodles and all from scratch? I don't know. It sounds like a vibe, but put all the candles on wine, sangria, aperol, spritz with the windows open, a breeze is coming in. How freaking romantic and cute is that? Next up is growing your own little herb garden. I love doing this in the summer because it feels so fulfilling. I like to grow mint, basil, chives, and especially so that when I'm cooking in the summer, I have fresh ones ready to go and it is just so fun. You can go make a day out of it, romanticize it, paint your little pots for them, label them, get the soil, get the seeds and just get it going. That is like a whole day activity, romanticize it. That really is the key to all summer bucket list ideas is romanticizing whatever you do. Just fully commit, try new things, who cares if you fail. Next up is scrapbooking, literally the best thing ever. I used to scrapbook when I was a kid all the time with my mom and grandma and I haven't done it as much lately and it is such a shame because the ones I made when I was a kid and like my grandma gave me a scrapbook for my 10th birthday that I always go through all the time because it has all these milestones and fun days to look back on throughout the first like 10 years of my life and it says the date, it says what we were doing. And now as a 23 year old, I love going back and looking at it. So it always reminds me that I want to scrapbook what I've been doing now to look on later when I'm 30, 40, 50, you know, it's really nice to have those memories and write a little blurb about what you were doing. You can go to the dollar store, get stickers, get papers. You can do it outside with your friends in a park. That's why this is one of the things that it's like get all your friends together, plan to print all the pictures. Someone can be on sticker duty. Someone can be on paper duty glue, you know, arrange it all. Make a fun memory, a recent trip, scrapbook, anything and everything. Write little details about what you want to remember from the day and you will not regret it looking back on it in a couple years. You can also arrange a picnic with your friends at Potluck style where you all choose to bring one different thing, bring the disposable film camera, take a lot of photos, go on Pinterest and find inspo to wear a cute, fun outfit, put your hair in braids, curl your hair. I don't know, there's so much fun to do in your own city. And like I was talking about last episode, when people start posting in Europe and Italy and Greece, like Bali, Thailand, everyone who is traveling, you can feel FOMO and wish that you were traveling. But it is just as fun to get dressed up and just romanticize home. So watch the sunset and dress up cute and bring your favorite snacks and listen to your favorite song. You do not need to be on vacation and you do not need to be at a lake or on a boat, whatever it is that people are posting on Instagram next time you are scrolling and get FOMO, just remember my list of ways to romanticize wherever you are, the sunsets all around the world and you can romanticize it wherever you are. You do not need to go on a trip. Another thing that I love doing that I haven't done in a while is making friendship bracelets. It is so therapeutic and so fun. Colors, I don't know, in the summer colors make me so happy. Go get thread that is all your favorite colors, go to the park, listen to the birds. Do, are you catching my vibe? You know, you can just make anything fun wherever you are if you are with people you love and you are committed to making it the best day ever. You don't have to do a lot as long as you are grateful for what you are doing and making every moment count. I told you this a little while back but I recently rediscovered just how fun it is. Brody and I have been doing this almost every Sunday going to a new coffee shop. I feel like I am such a creature of habit. I found my coffee shop that I like by my house so I just got a routine of that but it is so fun to go try somewhere new, go for a walk around the area, see new parts of your city that you haven't seen before, go window shopping and shops that you didn't know existed. I guarantee you that there is somewhere in your city that you live in that you have not seen before. There has to be one coffee shop that you haven't seen before even if you live in like the suburbs and you're like no bitch I know every single coffee shop there is here. Trust me, that is me at home but get creative. I know you can find a new area that you haven't been to even in your hometown and the art of window shopping is so fun. I definitely feel like that habit and that hobby is getting lost with online shopping because you just can search for exactly what you want and browse everything online but it is so fun to go into like the little family run tiny one of a kind shops and look at all the little trinkets they have. The vibe for this summer is romanticizing life and romanticizing every single day. Okay, there is none of that. We are not having any FOMO this summer. Okay, say it with me. No FOMO this summer romanticize your life. Even my girlies who are grinding nine to five hustling this summer. If you have multiple jobs, if you're saving up for school this summer, there is no need to have FOMO. It is great that you are out there working but I want you on your days off to romanticize the shit out of every single moment. Okay. You can rest your lives to go home and sleep but just make sure that you're also prioritizing having fun with people that you love in the sun and being grateful for your life. Okay. I have been talking for so long. My voice is getting she's getting dry. She is getting raspy. I know that there wasn't that many bucket list ideas in today's episode but I do hope that it was able to spark some kind of inspiration in you for this summer and how you can make the most out of every single day in your hometown. No FOMO being grateful for the little things and romanticizing where you're at. Thank you for joining me for the Hawkerel summer glow up series. I hope it was able to get you motivated feeling your best feeling happy feeling confident knowing that you are working hard to be happy and healthy. Like I said, next week, I think I will probably take a break from the Hawkerel summer content for those that are not entering summer. But don't you worry, the Hawkerel summer content will not end here. We're just going to take a little break. Okay. A full bucket list episode will come. And with that being said, I love you so much. Thank you for listening and I will see you next week.