91. 23 things I’ve learned in 23 years, birthday episode!!

♪♪♪ Life lessons I've learned up until my 23rd birthday. Welcome back to the One This Cafe podcast, your go-to Hawkerwalk podcast. I'm your host, Tren Tondelier. It is a beautiful, sunny day out in Vancouver. I hope you're having an amazing day. I am recording this live Tuesday, February 21st, one day before you listen to this. Today's episode is a birthday special. It is my birthday on Friday, February 24th, my 23rd birthday. And I thought, what better than to do a birthday special for the pod and list out 23 things I've learned by 23. Because, as you know, I honestly feel like I'm learning something new every single day. And I really treat every single opportunity in life as a learning lesson. And I'm always reflecting and journaling. And I always like to take a valuable lesson from every single situation. So I have compiled a list of 23 things that I've learned that really stick out to me, that I wish I could tell my younger self or I wish I had learned earlier. And I thought I would share them today to celebrate my birthday by 23 things. I've learned by 23. Although I'm not 23 yet, a couple days early, but, you know, whatever, it's fine. Let me set the scene for you. I have my beautiful bouquet of flowers from Valentines from Brody. They are still going strong. We are in a flowers era, girlfriend's OK. Buy yourself the flowers. It is so nice to have fresh flowers in your home. You can go get $4 two lips for spring. It does not have to be a fancy bouquet, but it is something that really lifts your mood up, having fresh flowers in your environment. And it's also nice to be able to take care of them, trim the stems, change the water, put a good playlist on. It's just a quick little five minute thing that really feels good. My whole entire family is currently on route from Edmonton to Vancouver for my birthday. And I'm so excited to have them here for the week, where I show you the behind the scenes of what a typical work day looks like behind the scenes for me. And Brody and I also tried out a bunch of new dinner recipes in that vlog. It's a pretty good one if I do say so myself. I spent the whole entire day yesterday editing it. So go check it out. The vibes right now are fantastic. Ladies, let me tell you, Sunday, Brody and I decided to drive down to the States and go to Trader Joe's and Target. I stocked up on all of my favorite goods. Honestly, what inspired it is that I wanted a lock alone on my birthday and I ended up bringing home like 50. That's an exaggeration, maybe 25 lock alone coffee. So I'm stocked up for a good hot second. As a Canadian, going to Trader Joe's and Target truly feels like Disneyland, I could have spent hours in both of those stores. I just quickly browsed over the Target home section because I felt bad for Brody. But I could have stayed in there for hours. Why is it honestly one of my biggest hobbies? To go shopping in Target and Trader Joe's and for my Canadian girls, like when I'm at home, it's in to go and winners, home sense, it is therapeutic. I swear. I think that is the telltale sign of getting old is when your new hobby is going to home sense and Target for fun. But I stocked up on so many pantry supplies and drinks and cleaning stuff. I just went insane, OK? But the vibe I was going for was like stocked, organized pantry, full fridge, so many new cleaning supplies. I just really wanted to make the place full and stocked and clean. I got the shell wipes to clean my AirPods Max, and I'm so excited. I could go on and on forever. I have a vlog up. Well, not up. We recorded a vlog while we went. And it will be going up if you wanted to see a whole entire haul, because if I get going, right now I could get sidetracked about that forever. But that's really the weekly update. Tomorrow, holy shit, I am recording with Ashley Tisdale. She is coming on my podcast. The fact that freaking Sharpay Evans is coming on my podcast is insane to me. So seriously, thank you all so much for listening to the show and supporting this podcast. It means the world to me, and it really surprises me that something that means so much to me and is like my passion project has had so much success and is able to most importantly make a difference and help so many people, and it really blows my mind. I am so nervous. We were supposed to record last week, and she honestly, right before recording, ended up rescheduling on me, which is, you know, that is valid. I will get humbled by Sharpay Evans any day. But we are re-recording tomorrow, and I am so excited that episode will probably be going live next week, so stay tuned for that. Let's get into our weekly segments of what I'm having. As promised, last week I told you I had a lot of new habits, and I didn't get to them all, so today I will be carrying that over and telling you about the new habits, what I'm having, what is setting me up for success. Currently, I have really been diving into my routine, and let me tell you, I'm sure you can tell even by my attitude, it is working. So I'm doing all my usual, like, of course, waking up, making the bed, having my morning moment, skincare, working out, having a cleaning routine, all the typical things that I talk about all the time and my morning journaling, a gratitude practice. However, I've been trying out some new habits, spicing up the routine, she's being spicy, adventurous, and I've been loving it. Carrying over from last week, the next new habit that I've just started is dry brushing, and oh my goodness, I wish I got into this sooner. I kind of saw it circling around and making its rounds in the wellness space, and for some reason, I just never thought to try it out. Dry brushing, supposedly, this is what it says online. If you look up dry brushing, it is supposed to open up your body's pores and help the body release toxins through sweat and promote blood circulation and lymphatic drainage. But honestly, kind of like the tongue scraping that I was talking about last week, I can't really testify to if it is draining my lymphatic system because who is noticing that? It's a bonus if it is, and honestly, it probably is because it is increasing blood flow and blood circulation, but it just feels so nice. My skin has never felt softer and there is no better feeling than soft skin. It is such a good exfoliation tool. It honestly replaces all exfoliation, well, not replaces, but it is honestly better than all the exfoliation scrubs that you can use in the shower. You just get any dry brush. I just use the one from Ellamis. Nothing really stood out to me for this one. To be honest, I was doing a partnership for Instagram with a beauty store that sold Ellamis and I just picked out a dry brush. That is the only thing that drew me to that one. I don't know if it's better than any of the others, but you use it on dry skin in circular motions and you brush over yourself and it just feels so amazing. You hop out of the shower, put some body oil on or some body moisturizer and you are just the softest queen ever, I swear. And it's just been a really nice little habit in the routine that goes the extra mile and makes me feel good about myself and hopefully it would make you feel good about yourself and that is why I felt the need to share. Next up are two things that I've really been loving to do that are making me feel happy and fueled throughout the day and that is first up is trying new coffee shops. I am such a homebody and if I do say so myself, I have mastered my dirty chai recipe, however, I forgot how fun it is to just go out and try new coffee shops. I love the ambiance of coffee shops. Everyone is always just on their main character shit in a coffee shop. Brody and I tried a new one in Kitzelano this weekend and it was really funny. I was taking an Instagram story of the coffee shop and I realized that KJ Appa was sitting right in the shot because they film Riverdale in Vancouver and it looked like I was trying to basically paparazzi him and I was very, very embarrassed. So I have recently fallen in love with romanticizing, trying new coffee shops, even if the coffee isn't good. It's all about the experience, getting ready, driving, playing music, trying a new coffee, going for a walk around the shop. It is very fun and along with that goes window shopping and browsing. I think during quarantine, I just got so used to online shopping that nowadays when I want something, I will just online shop for it. And also on top of that, if there's a store, I want to go to, I will just look online. And recently Brody and I have really been window shopping in our spare time when I just need to get out of the house. Like I said, I am back in Vancouver and I'm trying to do it in a much healthier way and make it work because my whole, not the whole time, but a lot of the time, my first year here, I really was just permitting in my apartment and being a homebody and a routine girl. And that is good, I love my routine, I love my apartment. But for the mentors, for the mental health, you have to get outside, see people, smile at others, hold the door open for people and window shop. You can put your favorite outfit on, look on Pinterest, get a new outfit in SPO, throw it together, do your hair, do your makeup, try something new with your hair and go window shopping. It is so therapeutic and so much fun and also free. What I'm grateful for, I am so freaking grateful and happy that my family is here for my birthday. Like I, you know this, I won't get into the SPEEL but my family is the most important thing in my life and that is the best birthday wish I could have asked for. It's having my family here with me, I am so, so, so, so grateful and so blessed that I get to spend it in Vancouver with my family. And I'm actually just going to skip the what I'm working on for this week. It is my birthday week. I am no stress, there's nothing, nothing I'm working on, I'm just birthday vibes. And I'm just going to leave it at that and let's jump into 23 things I learned by 23. These are in no particular order. The past week or so I have been planning on doing this episode for a while and whenever a thought came to mind, I just wrote it down. So there's no rank, I'm just going to go through the lessons. Number one, this won't be a shock if you know me at all and that is everything happens for a reason. Once I really put my trust into this belief and learn to just let it be, it took so much stress out of my life. Everything happens for a reason. So many times in my life, something that has seemed like the worst thing ever that absolutely shifted my life path and the direction I was headed and in the moment really fucking stressed me out and looking back, it was such a blessing in disguise. And once I slowly started catching onto that and realizing that the universe does have a plan and without the hard times, I wouldn't have ended up where I wanted to be and putting my faith and belief in everything happens for a reason. It really just takes the stress out of having to stick to a plan or things going a certain reason. Now I just go with the flow and trust that everything happens for a reason. Even if you can't see it in the moment, everything will work out and it's happening for a reason. Sometimes it is really crazy to look back after you've had that epiphany and you've seen why things had to be the way they are and looking back and seeing maybe how stressed you are when life threw you a curveball in the moment. When you look back after it's all said and done, sometimes it is, it's just pretty crazy to see how everything really does happen for a reason. Number two is that you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. It is as simple as that. So many times I have been stuck in the situation trying to be there for my friends and people I know and giving advice and it's so hard to see someone in a tough situation that is so obvious to you and it may be obvious to them as well and they want out of that situation but if they aren't ready to act on it and really make the moves, there's no point, nothing you can say will help them. They have to figure it out for themselves. And I've learned this in so many different shapes and forms throughout the years. However, the one that I want to share that I feel may be the most relevant for you is if your friend is in a toxic relationship. No matter what you say and no matter how obvious it is to you, you just have to let her figure it out for herself and she will come to that realization when she is ready but nothing you can say will help. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped and even if your friend is aware that they are in a toxic relationship, if they aren't ready to exit and if they aren't ready to give it up, nothing that you say will help. And I say this because I myself have been in this situation helping a friend and I've seen other friends of mine in the same situation trying to help a friend in a toxic relationship and it can get draining on yourself being the person who is helping them through that because it can get tiring, giving them so much advice and being there as a shoulder to cry on when you're telling them to leave and they won't. However, you can't take it personally and when they are ready to exit the relationship, they will. Number three is only depend on yourself for happiness. Now, I don't mean that you can't be happy from external measures, but your whole entire happiness cannot depend on external measures. If you're depending on your boyfriend to be happy and if they aren't treating you correctly, you're a mess and sad and you can't function and suddenly you give up all your habits because someone is being rude to you, that is letting them control your life. And if someone is being rude to you, that is their problem, that is their negative vibes, they can keep that bullshit to themselves because once you decide that you're not taking anything personally, if someone's being rude to you and saying a bunch of bullshit, whack shit to you, for a lack of better term, we have all been in that position. Sometimes people are just wilding and they're crazy and when I was younger, if people were being crazy and being rude, that could really get me down personally. And now, when I depend on myself for my happiness and if something else externally is going to elevate that happiness, great. But if someone's being rude to me, it bounces off myself and their negative vibes bounce back to them and I just keep on my merry little way. If that makes sense, I'm sorry. I am just, the vibes are high right now, okay, if you can tell and we just, we don't have time to let other people's negative bullshit bring us down, okay? So only depend on yourself for your happiness. If you got you in check, nothing anyone else does matters. And that is such a powerful and freeing way to live your life, knowing that you're in control of your own happiness and you set the tone for your day. When you wake up and do your morning moment and your morning routine and spend that time on yourself before entering your day, if your boss is rude to you, who cares? He probably doesn't have a morning routine. She probably doesn't have a morning routine. Whoever it is, your teacher, if they're rude to you, like who cares? You did you, you got you, you have you in check and that's all that matters. Number four is cleaning and organization in your home is important. You won't know this by now. I used to be a messy, messy girl. My room looked like a tornado and learning to invest in my space and invest in myself essentially changed my entire life. If you are not a cleaner and you tend to let things pile up and get messy and you're one of those people that's just learned to live in a messy space, you know you just accept that you're a messy person and you don't clean, no. Change that, okay? Slowly build habits to start cleaning up after yourself. Set a 15 minute timer and do as much as you can in that 15 minutes. Everyone has 15 extra minutes. You don't have to get it all done but see what you can accomplish in that time. Cleaning and organizing my space is one of the best things I've ever done for myself. It allows me to enter the day at such a better mood and you feel so much better. It's like having a clean home organizes your brain. I don't know how to explain it but when my home is organized, I can think clearer, okay? And I wish I learned this sooner. I wish in high school I learned to clean up after myself and organize my bedroom and make it a vibe palace as I do now. Like if Trin in high school had her eucalyptus diffuser going and Sage cleaning spray with the ball of bands and the Dyson, I would have been a whole new bitch. Number five is you are your biggest critic. I'm going to say one thing to elaborate because it's pretty self spoken and we all know it's true but how many times has one of your friends come to hang out with you and they go, ah, I'm so embarrassed of this pimple or they're like, oh, this pimple is so big. How many times has one of your friends pointed out a pimple that you didn't even notice? Or it's like, oh, my hair looks so bad today and you look at your friend and you're just like, what the fuck are you talking about? Your own insecurities, no one else is noticing. No one is tearing you up as much as you are. So just cut that shit out, okay? Number six is one of the main messages I aim to tell you on the show and it is to live your life for yourself. Who cares what anyone thinks? You only have one shot. Don't waste it holding back and don't waste your one shot. Doing something that you don't love and not pursuing your passions and doing what you're passionate about because you're scared of what others think. You only have one shot. You don't want to get to the end and wish that you spent your time doing what you love and just going for what you wanted. Number seven is don't be rude to your family. I don't know if I've said this before but I have said this. What am I saying? We are best friends but I was an only child for eight years and then when I was in high school and junior high, when I was a teenager struggling with my mental health, I wasn't the nicest to my little siblings and my parents for that matter and that is one of the things that looking back makes me the saddest in the world and I wish I could take it all back and it seriously makes me want to cry and scream and put myself in a cave. Okay, so be nice to your family. Now when I see my little siblings fighting, I want to just scream at them and tell them, like I wish I could show them how silly it is to spend that time fighting with each other. I know siblings fight but you know what I mean? I wanted to put this in there for my younger listeners to just be nice to your siblings, be nice to your parents. You will regret it when you get older. If you spend your time at home being rude to them. Number eight is less is more. What really came to mind for me was with appearance things. I used to get fake eyelashes. I used to have hair extensions. I used to wear so much makeup and just pile it on, you know, fake to the max and I am so grateful and glad that it kind of clicked in my brain to take my fake eyelashes off and remove my hair extensions. And taking your fake eyelashes off at first is such a huge shock and you're so not used to yourself without your eyelashes on. And then over time you get used to it and they do grow back, it's just a rough. It is a rough couple of weeks, you have to gear up but after that they do grow back and you will be so thankful that you took them off. I promise you less is more, you are beautiful just as you are and I will leave it at that. Number nine is celebrate everything. Yes, I mean everything, okay? Don't wait for special occasions to dress up. Don't wait for your birthday to dress up. If you have a win that you want to celebrate, treat yourself and celebrate, okay? Don't wait for a special occasion to pop open your fancy bottle of wine or wear that nice outfit. You can celebrate life every single day and if you got a promotion, celebrate it. If you're moving, celebrate, celebrate, celebrate, celebrate, romanticize your life, you don't need, like if you think that your reason to celebrate is too small, who makes the rules, who decides that? Brody and my friends literally got me balloons and a Dairy Queen ice cream cake when I hit a thousand subscribers on YouTube, okay? And they threw myself a fucking party for 1,000 subscribers and it was amazing and I will never forget that, okay? Celebrate every single win, every chance that you get. Next up, we have trust your gut. I don't have to go into detail, just trust your gut, okay? Your intuition always knows what is going on and gut feelings are guardian angels. I have never had a gut feeling that has steered me in the wrong direction, simple as that. Next up is prioritize positive friendships and I wish I learned this earlier. Instead of trying to force friendships that just didn't fit and weren't right, if you don't feel good, after hanging out with someone or if you have a friend that causes you anxiety and makes you anxious and you're always feel like you're walking on eggshells around them, it is not worth it and that is not a good healthy friendship and it is time to distance yourself or have a conversation and try to fix that but you can't stay in that same space and that same relationship. So prioritize positive friendships only and also prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to friendships. You don't have to have the most friends in the room but as long as you have a few that are really good true friendships, that is all you need. Next up is the best feeling is being kind to others. You know, just random acts of kindness being nice to others without being asked. Honestly, that will make you feel the best like holding the door open for someone, picking something up for someone, just like little tiny weird things like that that most people don't go out of their way to do for others, doing something like that and making someone else's day will in turn make you feel good about yourself and put you in a positive headspace and just keep that going on. Kind of like when you're in the Starbucks drive-through and someone has paid for your coffee and it's kind of ironic because you end up carrying it on and going to pay for the car behind you but it's just that little act of doing something for someone else. Side note though, who has had that happen to them when you're in the Starbucks drive-through and someone paid for your order and then you want to keep the train going and the order behind you is literally more expensive than yours. That is so funny. I feel like that happens to me all the time but you know what I mean? Or if you're just in a public setting and you can tell someone needs help, there have been so many situations where I want to say something and help someone out or I can't really describe it. It's like you want to help but you feel weird going up to someone and talking to a stranger. I've had this a couple times in the gym where you can tell, you know, you can kind of get the vibe when someone is about to ask for help and just doesn't really, they don't have the courage to do it, just taking that first step and making someone's day and just extending a helping hand. It really does just go the extra mile and in turn, it just gives you more positive energy back and it's always a good feeling. Next up is family is the most important thing ever and don't take it for granted. Call your family members that you haven't talked to in a while, your family loves you and is the most important thing and those relationships are very important to keep close to you, especially if you haven't seen members of your family in a while, just don't take it for granted and make plans to see them and pick up the phone and call them. Next, health is wealth. Okay, even if you have, like literally, if you have a lot of money, but you're not prioritizing your health and your mindset and your positivity and your gratitude, working out and not getting those endorphin rushes, no amount of money can make you as happy as taking care of yourself can and prioritizing your health. Of course, money is great. I'm not saying that money means nothing, but truly health is everything and nothing will make you happier. No amount of money can make you as happy as you can by changing your mindset and developing healthy habits to take care of yourself and your mental health. That will come above anything that money can do for you. And ultimately, when you are money chasing, it is because you think a higher amount, a higher salary will make you happier and no raise or higher position or higher amount of money coming into your life will make you happier if you're not doing the other steps to take care of yourself. That is when you will see a real difference in your happiness when you put your health first. So if you're stuck in that hustle culture, chasing money because you think it will make you happier and in that you are losing time to take care of yourself and your mental health and your healthy habits and routine, you need to shift your priorities. That's kind of, I feel like that happened to me last year a little bit where I was working so much that I was kind of putting my healthy habits and my routines and working out on the back burner. I was still doing it, of course, but not to the extent to which I would like to be doing my routine every single day. And that is why one of my New Year's goals was to put wellness first. Everything was just very balanced and I was prioritizing a lot of other things in my life. And this year that is why I talked about this last episode I didn't go to New York Fashion Week for the winter one because I really just wanted to stay home and prioritize routine because I know that that is what will make me the happiest. Okay, this next one, I think is a very important lesson for girls. I was on Instagram Live on the Wellness Cafe talking about this a couple weeks ago and it was crazy how many of you related and shared a similar story and said that you've had a similar experience. And it's that trust, okay, I don't really know how to phrase this, but trust your own intuition when it comes to your body and doctors. I don't know, in my experience, doctors sometimes like they can be in a rush and just don't really give you the time of day to truly listen to your body and you know your body better than anyone else just because someone is certified and as a doctor doesn't mean that they always 100% without a doubt know what is going on with your body. And if you have a medical concern and you feel like it's not being addressed correctly, you need to voice that and stand up for yourself because there are just so many times and I've heard of this happening to so many girls I know also where doctors will just dismiss your concerns and they'll be quick to label it as something or throw medication at you to solve your issues and you need to make sure that you are being heard when it comes to your body and if you know something is off, stand up for yourself, you know your body better than anyone else at the end of the day. The next one is stop making excuses. This really relates to anything in life but just stop making excuses, okay, stop making excuses for your shitty friends, at your shitty boyfriend, for not going to the gym, for not doing your homework, for sleeping in, just like shut up and stop making excuses. You know deep down if you're making excuses for something that is inexcusable, okay, and stop it. If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to do it and stop making excuses and getting in your own way. The next one kind of goes along with that and it is ask for what you want. If you don't ask, the answer is always going to be no. Looking back, there has definitely been times in my life where I was kind of in waiting mode. I don't know what I was expecting but I was expecting someone to come up to me and help me make everything happen and I was waiting for someone to want to help me get to where I wanted to be and no one is going to magically come up to and help you do everything that you want, especially, especially if you're not voicing your concerns, okay? If you think you deserve a raise, ask for a raise. No one's just going to, well, I mean, sometimes but you know what I mean? No one's just gonna be like giving you promotions or giving you a raise or moving you to a different position if you don't ask. For my corporate grilies, you do not have to be scared. If you think you deserve a raise, there is a healthy and professional manner in which you can ask for a raise. If you think you deserve it, you don't have to sit around and wait for it to come to you and be handed to you. You can propose it in a healthy way to your boss and the worst thing that can happen is they say no but if you don't ask, it is 100% a no until it just magically happens. The next one is a little cliche but it is to take more risks. The best things in life happen when you push yourself outside of your comfort zone and that is so cliche but it is cliche for a reason and it is true. The amount of times where I have been terrified, absolutely terrified to do something because it is uncomfortable and foreign and just totally out of my comfort zone. However, it has ended up being one of the most rewarding and amazing experiences of my life. You just really do have to push yourself outside of your comfort zone sometimes and it can be scary but it is 100% worth the risk. If you don't push yourself outside of your comfort zone, you won't grow. That kind of goes along with stop waiting until you feel ready to do something. I always talk about this. The only way to learn how to do something is by getting your hands dirty and learning as you go. I will always relate this to the podcast. If you go back and listen to my first episode, I really didn't have a podcasting voice and it didn't come naturally. It was super uncomfortable and to be honest, most of the time that does still happen. I will retake things. I mess up when I'm speaking and I'm learning as I go. I have seen incredible growth within myself and my podcasting career in only a little bit over a year. If you listen back, you can listen to me get more comfortable on the mic because I am practicing. If I waited to start this podcast until I felt ready and like a good podcaster, it would have never happened because the only way you learn to do something is by trying it. So take the risk and go for it because that leads in to my next one is that the worst feeling in the world is thinking what if. If you're scared to do something because of the possible outcome and it not working out or any bad outcome that you think could happen by taking a risk, that outcome is not as bad as looking back on an opportunity or something you wanted to do and asking yourself and thinking to yourself, what if I just went for it? I'm sure you have those things in your life that still haunt you to this day because I know I sure do and you think to yourself, what if? And that just proves that not going for something and looking back and thinking, what if I did that, that feeling can haunt you for years, thinking about what if you just did it. So let that be a learning lesson to you to take the risk because the outcome, if you're scared of a negative outcome, it is not as bad as thinking what if. And if you fail, that is okay. And that leads into my next point, which is not everything works out. And that's okay, not everything needs to work out. You can try something and fail and pivot and adjust and try something new, but at least you can say you tried because that is better than thinking what if and everything happens for a reason. So you will get to where you are supposed to be going and a failure, don't look at it as a failure, okay? You are just learning and pivoting and growing and it's all a part of life, okay? There really is no failures. You're just putting yourself out there and at least you're trying. This can really apply to so many things in life. This can apply to your professional career. If you try a job and you don't end up liking it and it doesn't work out, that doesn't mean that you were shitty at that job. It just means that you weren't in the right position for you and your talents and your strong suits weren't being reflected in that job. And by trying something and learning that, that allows you to get to the next job where you will succeed and you can thrive and you'll be able to use your strengths to your advantage now that you have identified what, even if you haven't identified what they are, you have identified what they aren't and you can also relate this to your dating life. If you date someone and it doesn't work out, that's fine. That is just meaning that you're one step closer to finding your partner that is meant for you. Not everything has to work out and it's all just a part of life. Number 22 is you can always dress up, okay? You're never going to be overdressed going somewhere if you want to wear the dress, wear the frickin dress, put on the big sparkly hoops, dress up, put the heels on, take photos, go out. You only have one knife, you don't need to be worried about overdoing it or overdressing up. It is such a fun part of being a girl, getting dressed up, going out with the girls, taking photos, getting girly. You know the vibes, okay? Don't be scared to wear your fancy top or your fancy dress, whatever you want to wear, okay? Next weekend, my friends are visiting for my birthday and we're literally getting dressed up to the nines to just go out for drinks and come back to my apartment and have a slumber party just because we can and it is so fun to just all get ready together and sit down and share makeup and do each other's hair and all get dressed up. You don't need a reason or an occasion to get dressed up, have fun, wear the dress and wear the heels and take a hot photo, okay? And lastly, number 23 is that. The espresso martini is always a safe bet to order, okay? I love an espresso martini, you can never go wrong. You know, sometimes you'll order an aperol spritz and sometimes you can get some really, really, really bad ones that are just too tangy or too sour, okay? The espresso martini always hits one and doubt espresso martini it out and that is how I'm going to end off. My 23 things I learned by 23 episode, thank you so much for supporting me during this year, my 22nd year. I am so excited to see what I learned by 24 and make it 24 things I learned by 24 episode and I'm just excited to take you guys along another year, all my best friends. I love this podcast so much and wish me luck recording with Sharpay Evans tomorrow. I'm a little bit nervous, but I'm very excited and I cannot wait for you all to hear that episode. I am shaking in my boots, like do I tell her that I had her face on my bed sheets? Yes or no? Should I start the interview with that? Yes or no? I am so excited, how did we get here? I have no idea. I'm getting sidetracked again, I already ended the episode, but I love you and I will see you next week.