98. living with your partner 101: splitting up chores, rent & making a routine as a couple

♪ We're all right ♪ ♪ We're all right ♪ Okay, this episode is for the besties who live with their partner or are about to live with their partner because that can make or break a relationship. I am here with Brodster's B-Dog. B-Dog. Because I refer to him as our boyfriend and apparently you are starting to like him a little more than you like me because after our last episode together, my DMs were flooded with you asking for Brody back on the pod. And I am pre-recording a little bit earlier than usual because I'm off to Coachella on Monday. Well, I'm going to LA first, but I will not be here and I won't be with Brody. And what fitting time for this episode because Brody, do you want to do the honors of telling our best friends what Thursday is? Thursday is April 13th, which is our nine year anniversary. We have been dating. Where's my ring? What? Where's my ring? What? No, no, that was a set up guys. She set me up. I'm a tear, poor guy already told me he's nervous and now I'm interrogating him in front of you two minutes in. Okay, we watched Clay and Delaney's proposal video and now it's just, I'm in trouble. I'm not in trouble, but- No, you're not. We have a plan. He's kidding. I just wanted to make him sweat in front of you all. You know, make him a little nervous. It's working. Sorry, I take it back. Okay, we'll reset. Anyways, guys, thank you for the kind words on Trins DMs because it makes me happy. I like coming on. And we've been going live a lot together on the Wellness Cafe Instagram Live also. We went live, well, we were going live today for like a pre-episode live talking to you about what you wanted on this episode. And I made such a big mistake of going live on my personal TikTok. Within three minutes, I was like, holy shit, I need to get out of here. I'm going live on the Wellness Cafe. Those are my people. Didn't somebody say fix your eyelashes? I simply went on with no makeup. Someone says fix your eyelashes. I was like, okay, back to TWC, I go. I will never stray away ever again. This was a big mistake. Okay, also I love your setup here. If you're watching on YouTube, Trins got the absolute cool setup. I've got the old setup. So this is the first time you've done two mics, right? Yeah, this is awesome. No, this is awesome. It's really cool. So Trins got the cool new setup and I've got the old setup. Hopefully we'll get another one of these soon, hey? If, yeah, I guess. If, yeah. If the people want me to keep coming on, I'll look at the mic, you know? That's fine with me. So let me set the scene for you if you're not on YouTube. If you are, hello, welcome to our living room. If you're not on YouTube, get on YouTube. If you're not on YouTube, you are in our living room and it is Saturday night. We have a couple Tahin margaritas. Oh, yours is empty. Cheers. Cheers to that. It's nervous. Yeah, you really tugged that back. You just asked me where the ring was. Yeah, but if you are not on YouTube with us, you are in our living room. I also don't even have a bra on. I'm full sweat suit. I was going to put a bra on. And when I was like, no, they would want me to be comfortable. They don't care if I have a bra on or not. Like, my girlies want me to be comfy. I does, like, does anyone else hate bras? I just, no bra. No bra life is the life for me. Okay, should we get into the episode? Yeah. You're just waiting. I think, I think the no bra talk, I think we're. Did you just clock out at the no bra talk? No, no, I just, I was just listening. Well, I need to set the scene. There's no- Sweat suit. We're both in sweatsuits. We both don't have bras on. No bra not. Yeah, I guess. This is kind of a sweatsuit. No, I'm comfortable. Okay, well, that's all that matters. Yeah. Comfy and cozy. In our own living room. You know, sometimes I think that I would need a studio, but it's also kind of like, we're just hanging. They're literally just like, they're hanging at our house with us. Also do we like the wellness cafe on the TV in the background? It's my favorite thing about this place. And it just, it's- It just stays. It just stays. It's not just there for when I'm recording. It's just a part of this household now. And I kind of like it. No, like this apartment is now the wellness cafe. Like we should get a sign on the door that says, welcome to the wellness cafe. We need a bigger sign. Like literally it's, this is the wellness cafe and it's awesome. I live inside of it. You did post that on your Instagram story that you live in the wellness cafe. Yeah. Okay. So let me pull up my Instagram stories because I asked you what questions you have about living together because that's mainly what we're here to talk about. And then we have some rapid fire questions that I'm, I'm going to be quizzing Brody on me at the end and to see if he gets all the answers right. I didn't know about this. Surprise. You're getting quizzed. Very cool. While Trins looking that up, what are you guys up to? How's everyone's days? Okay. So the reason why you can take our advice today on what works when you're living together is because we have literally been living together for what, five years? Six years? Yeah. Something like that. Brody moved out when he was super early. We'll give you the backstory. Super early or super young? Brody moved out when he was super early. I was born at a very young age and I moved out super early. Amazing. Brody moved out super young. He moved out when he was 18, which is already pretty young. And then since he is older than me, I was 16. That's crazy. Okay. Looking back, that was crazy. That is crazy. And my parents live out of town on an acreage. And one thing about me is I hate nothing more than driving in the snow. So already at 16, I kind of, that's the thing is that we don't have a story where it's like you asked me to move in with you and we sat down and discussed it. It was like Brody moved out on his own at 18. So what, we were how many years into dating then? Four, three. No, only two then. Something like that. It was definitely more than a year because that's another question is how soon after dating you can move in with one another? No, it was 16 and 14 moved out when we were 18. So it was two years. Yeah. So we had been dating for two years and I just hated driving back to my parents at the end of the night. So it happened really naturally how we started living together. It was just like we would be hanging out and then it was late. I didn't want to drive home. So I'd sleep over and then, you know, every time I slept over, I'd leave a couple more things. I just weaseled my way in there. You just slowly, you slowly started to like one night a week and then two nights a week and then three, four, five and then all of a sudden it was like, you just moved in. Yeah, we never really had a full discussion about should we move in together? Do you want to move in with me? It just happened really naturally, which I also think is good. I mean, if we were older, when that happened, it probably would have been a sit down conversation about if we were doing it or not. But since we were so young, it just happened really naturally. And it's funny because I didn't even want to give up my bedroom at my parents house. But because I was never there, my mom just faced timey one day and she was like, so we gave your room to your sister. And I was like, what the hell? Right? Wait, that moment was when I realized like when you told me that I was like, oh, you moved in. Like when you when you told me like, hey, my my room is no longer my room. I was like, oh, you moved in here? That's crazy. Actually, I think my mom decided it for us because she was like, can I give her a serie room? Can I give her a serie room? And I was like, absolutely not. I'm like, I do not. Oh, because I was very adamant on we do not live together because it was very like none of our friends even had their own place yet. So I was like, I don't live with him. We don't live together. Like I just sleep over a lot, you know? And then one day she faced timey and was like, your room is gone. Hey, hey, you live with Brody now. So yeah, actually my mom decided that Brody and I live together. Yeah, that is how it happened. I forgot about that. I was never going to admit that we lived together. No, because I remember it hit me when you were like, I mean, like didn't hit me. But it hit me when you were like, Hey, my like, B has my room now. And I was like, Oh, you live here. That's crazy. Awesome. So Brody had that first apartment was like his little bachelor pad. And then after that, after I had pretty much like officially moved in, we moved into a different unit in the same apartment with two bedrooms. After that we moved into another apartment together that was like nicer that I kind of, you know, I picked out. It wasn't our it had the trend touch. Yeah, it had the trend touch. It wasn't the Brody bachelor pad. That was my first, that was my first like, obviously my first two apartments were. It's so funny looking back. You had a futon. I had a futon as a couch. Well, because I had, I was the cool guy with a place. I had lots of people. Yeah. Like my friends sleeping over and but yeah, that, that I guess third apartment was the first like, Oh, there's a shelf on the wall with like a book on it. Like that was the first. Oh, yeah. Remember that shelf above the couch? That was the first like nice place that I've lived in or like we've lived in and we haven't looked back. We like living in places where there's like, it's decorated properly because I don't have that side or like that interior design and it's so much better living in a nice decorated place. Aww, the things you admit on the pod. Yeah. Yeah. So we moved into the nicer place and we lived there throughout quarantine and I feel like that was really so many couples were like, if you made it through quarantine with your partner, y'all are getting married. Y'all she says y'all are getting married. Y'all. Just let me hang out. Yeah, for sure. Side note, something that worked really well for us during quarantine was I work in a job, an essential service job. So I was working every day like throughout. So I never really had any time in quarantine, which made it, I think easier for the two of us. So if you actually did COVID with your significant other, you're y'all are getting married. You're funny today. So it was like halfway through quarantine and we decided that we wanted to buy a house. You know this by now we bought our house in Alberta. We lived there for a total of 11 months. 11 months. We lived in our house for 11 months. And then we moved to Van. Honestly, I think that this apartment, either this, how many months were we in the other one throughout quarantine? Oh, the one before the house. I was just talking to Clayton about this. It was a year and four months there. Okay, because I was about to say, I think this is the longest we've ever been in one place. Yeah, we were like a year and six months here. So yeah, this is the longest we've been in one place because the first apartment was one year exactly. Second one was one year, a year and four months, 11 months in the house. And now we're here. Yeah, that was a really long time explaining that. But pretty much I wanted to explain that we have been through the ringer. We've been doing the damn thing. We've been living together. And you know what? We are still going strong. Nine years. And they lived happily ever after. But we didn't start like with our habits and our routines and everything. It was pretty. Oh, it was a shit show. We were kids and our place was a mess and our cooking was our habits were bad. Our like laundry was everywhere. Like we didn't have good habits and then like we slowly. That's why we're sitting down today because let me tell you, when you first move in with your significant other, just declare that the end of the honeymoon phase. Okay, there was no romance. There is no. There's no romance. This is news to me. Well, it is the end of the honeymoon period. Oh, absolutely. Like shit gets real. There is a very big difference between you start waking up on a Tuesday morning and you got to go to work. There's no romance there. What is that? You know, there's no romance. What does that have to do with me moving in with you? That's probably when I'm in like my the worst mood I'm in is like Tuesday, least favorite day of the week for me, Tuesdays. What's your favorite? Wednesdays because the wellness cafe comes out. That took you a second. You almost didn't get that one. Tuesdays is my least favorite day because it's the farthest from the wellness cafe drop. Yeah. So a lot can change. There's such a big difference between dating your boyfriend and moving in with him. And for all my girls that have recently moved in with their significant other or already have been, you know what the fuck I'm talking about. It is a heart because basically you're just joining at your habits and making it like you're trying to force two people's routines on to one another and you need to form an entire new routine together and routines and habits take a long time to build. So I think that's my first tip and my first big piece of advice is that don't expect it to be perfect right away because that isn't realistic. That's not going to happen. No one is going to move in with someone and be like, okay. This is amazing. We split up everything so evenly. We all know each other. It's like duties around the house. We never fight like no, it is going to be hard and you are going to have to learn how to adjust through it, but it is worth it. And I think the biggest way to make it through that is communication. You guys want to hear a funny story about that? So when moving into. What is this going to be? You have no idea. No, I have no idea. But when we live together, obviously I have my routine, Trent had her routine. This happened just pretty recently, but it's something that I noticed that it's so every time you know when you microwave popcorn and you have the popcorn bag at the end and it's for some reason when it's really hot, I don't want to put it in the garbage can because I'm scared that it's going to catch on fire. So what I do is I put it in the sink and just let it cool down for a bit. And it has been nine years of every single time we make microwave popcorn because one thing about us, we love a good Netflix binge. Like seriously, every single night after dinner, we are binging Netflix right now. Designated survivor. We are in a kick of FBI white hoe shows. What was the first one? Yeah, I was just about to say what did it start with night agent night. Night agent mint. So amazing. And now we are on designated survivor. We are hooked. Anyway, so much microwave popcorn, like literally like probably two bags a week for nine years. Every single morning, Brody will be gone to work. I wake up and I go, why the fuck is the popcorn bag? The sink because like it's usually like at the end of the night and then we go to bed Brody leaves and I wake up and there's just a popcorn bag in the sink and I'm like, there's no reason for the popcorn bag to be in the fucking stink. You can put it in the garbage. So recently, like the last couple weeks, have you noticed it's been gone? I've been putting it against against my routine and against like what I know. I've been putting it right in the garbage can and the place is still not on fire. Why do you think it's going to light the garbage on my hair? Like it's just some, you know, we're talking about routines. We're talking about mending to people's lifestyles together and that's that's the tough part. So the moral of this is if you have a routine and you have obviously your girlfriend or significant other has a routine, you're you can definitely like if they're like, hey, this is why are you doing this? This is a bit strange. Don't do this. I would definitely like it's I take a second and listen, even if it's your boyfriend or girlfriend, it's like, hey, why is why do you do this? Or it's like you learn something from them or you take off habits that it's nice to have a second opinion because it's like you grow up with your family doing. I mean, I only learn from like what my parents did and then it's like you get that second opinion that it's like, hey, why do you put the microwave popcorn bag in the sink? And it's really freeing putting it right in the garbage can. No, but the funniest part about this is that I remember like this was honestly two or three weeks ago where I noticed I came out and he was putting it in the garbage like this just happened. We're talking this was the years of me saying, Hey, bro, it can go in the garbage and he's like, no, it can't. And then literally two or three weeks ago, I woke up and it was in the garbage and I was like, holy fucking shit. Look at that. I did it. Oh, everyone. Let's give them a little. Thank you. So if that doesn't prove the point that it's going to take some time. Okay. You got it. Everyone's got kinks. You just got to smooth them out. It really is cute. Like you're like meshing them together and building like new habits together that you're going to teach your kids. Okay, we can banter about this for quite a while. If you can't tell. Okay, quickly. Let's just go through rapid fire. The biggest difference that took adjusting to for us for me, the one thing that sticks out is butter. Oh God. You guys, she doesn't like margarine. This is a prime example of my household did one thing and his did another. So blending us together was not working. Brody uses like Brody's family just uses margarine in a tub and my family used butter, like a brick of butter. And at the start, whenever I was cooking, I would just be so used to cooking with a brick of butter. Like actual butter. And if I were to say, hey, Brody, can you run to the store and grab butter? And he would come back with margarine. For some reason, I would be beside myself. I'm like, what is this? This isn't butter. I need a brick of butter. That's just what I'm used to. And Brody would be like, what do you mean? This is what I use as butter. And it sounds so stupid. She gets so mad. Even vocalizing this. But if you live with your partner, you know what I'm talking about. Like everyone has those things. What is the one thing that sticks out for you, Brody? Because mine is butter. The one thing that stuck out for me was you had lots of like ingredients. You were an ingredient. I guess you grew up in an ingredients family. There was just so much like cilantro and basil and. I think one of the biggest difference that my family home cooked like every single thing from scratch. Like pasta sauce from scratch. And I would just buy. My family would just buy pasta sauce. And it's like just going in the fridge and seeing just. I had a snacks family. Like I had lots of like little little treats and like cookies and meshing those together. You had so many ingredients in the fridge and just everywhere. Mm hmm. It's the same thing with the margarine and the basil or the sorry, the butter. Okay, let's get into the questions that were sent in on Instagram stories. Sorry everyone this episode could probably be three or four hours long if we let it be. So the most common question that I'm seeing on the little questions box here is a lot of people are saying, how do you find a balance on which chores cooking and cleaning each other does, et cetera. And another says how to handle conflicts with cleaning with one another. How do you split up chores? How do you split up finances? And another says, how do you split up the chores again? So I guess let's talk about that. It's funny because now we have such a strict routine with one another where we know what each other is doing. And it's like, for example, girls, listen up, okay, I do not take the garbage out. I never have. I never will. I don't take the garbage out. Okay. And I'm a garbage man. So that makes that really easy. So Brody does the garbage. It's like, if the garbage is full, that's my problem. That's my fault. Yeah. It's in my mind. Doing the garbage needs to be taken out. I'm like, bro, why isn't the garbage taken out? And that's and that's easy that like, I know that it's like garbage is piled up. That's my, that's my bad. You fold the laundry if you're home. And yeah, I fold the laundry because I am better at folding the laundry. I want to make that super clear. No, no, no, no. I fold the laundry because I am better at folding the laundry. No, no, no. No, no, no. No, no, no. The S&WC, he is not better. He gets upset if I don't fold his underwear correctly. Which is never, it's never folded correctly. And your socks are socks. Yes. Brody is so particular on how his laundry is folded. This is, this is again with the routines. This is, this is what I should have said to you the earlier question. One thing that I noticed is my socks after they're done in the laundry, they get put the right, like not inside out the right way and they get paired together with another matching sock. And that is not something that a while ago you, you did regularly. You were, you, I hate to say this growing up, you were a mismatched sock girl. Okay. But let me ask you this. You're so mad. Oh, you're so mad by that. Okay. But let me ask you a question. Brody, did you do that or was your mom doing that? No, my mom did that. And now I do that. No, I mean, like that's a habit that you picked up from me. Like I picked up habits from you. That's one of the ones that you picked up from me where you started matching your socks and folding them together and buying. Like I think you bought recently, you bought like a nice pair or a nice set of like TNA socks. And like they're all matching and they're all like you just learn that little stupid routine for me. I think that also is just maturing now that I have proper matching socks because you know what you are right. I was that was also like charged. I was missing my sock. But anyway, I don't really think there ever was a conversation about how like we never sat down and wrote it out. And we never like had a serious conversation about it, how we were going to split up chores. I think it just happened really naturally. I feel like there's always going to be one person who's better at something than the other. So I mean, I guess I technically just gave rodeo the things that I just wanted to do. That's actually true. I got the will you picked? I guess we both picked the stuff that we like to do. Yeah, I mean, it just came really naturally. There was never a conversation like for cooking. Okay. So first. Oh, yeah, I really, I really struggled. Yeah. I really didn't cooking meals didn't interest me at all growing up and the thing is is that you have to realize is that it really, it doesn't mean that like you, okay. So for example, like we said, Brody couldn't cook when we first started living together. I was a fast food junkie. I feel like growing up you weren't really included in cooking your meals because you were very busy like looking back. It's like, I literally always say this hindsight is 2020 because it was like, you were always so busy with school and then sports and it's like you would just come home and you would eat and it was ready for you. And I was like, I always like saw my parents like cooking a lot and I would also help and I made, I remember like making crepes with my mom and being taught how to cook things. So then when it came time to live together, I had skills that you didn't and in my head, it could have been easy to be like, what the fuck this man can't even cook an egg? Why am I living with him? It was pretty bad at the beginning. Yeah. There was something I couldn't do. Oh my goodness. What was it? There was something I couldn't do that was I was like super embarrassed. I don't know what it is, but I'm telling the fed a story. No, that's not fair. No, it's not fair. This man's like when we say he didn't cook, he did not cook and it's like, I can't expect him to come into living with me being a full fucking chef when he just didn't do that before. And now you are such a good chef. You literally, yeah, I said chef. Thank you. You chef up when I have chef chef boy, chef boy, oh, no, chef boy, roadie. You're going to be lucky if I keep that in, but now after so many years when I have a rough night and I don't feel like cooking, you completely take over and it used to be like, okay, I cook you clean. It was fully 50 50 like cooking and cleaning was separated. And then you wanted to you started wanting to learn how to cook and you were seeing me cook and we started cooking together because it's something that like now I would say it's something that we do together for fun as like a date night. It's like, hey, let's cook dinner together. It's something that we do as quality time. And I think I took that a lot from my parents because I always saw like even Nana, like I see her in the kitchen all the time. Like the kitchen is like a very sacred time in my family, honestly. And that's always what I saw. So I feel like you. It was really amazing learning that from you because like I, there were some times where like obviously you'd get frustrated with me and like it was like a learning process, but it took time and like effort and seeing you cook and then joining in and realizing like, oh, this is an awesome time to like share memories and spend time with you. And it's yeah, it's been, it's been really great. But that's one of the things where like you cook primarily, I guess I'd say, and like it's slowly starting to come around. But that's like, or you knew how to cook. And that's, that was your like primary chore, I guess, if you want to call it that. No, but really, this is even the first time I'm saying this to you. And I guess it's really, really is the first time I'm like realizing how much you've progressed in your cooking. Go on. No, because what I was saying is that it started 50 50, I coach you cleaned and then it would be like you wanted to start helping out and you would ask me. It was like, I remember once I was super sick and this was in the house. I was in like the fire pit fireplace with the fire pit. We didn't, we didn't actually have a fire pit. There was no fire pit, only a fireplace in our house. It was like a split level. Is that the name? He couldn't see me. And I just remember I was so sick laying on the couch and he was like, how do I make these tacos? And I was like, are you fucking kidding me? Like, what do I have to tell you? Like, just, I don't know, one Google, I don't know, read the box, but you would be like, how do I cook these tacos? And I remember like, I would literally sit there and roll my eyes. I'm like, are you kidding me? But it's like looking back. I just wanted to learn. That's not like, I can't blame you for that. So I guess for anyone listening, like if your partner doesn't know how to do something most of the time, it's because growing up, they didn't have to do that. And everyone is capable of learning something, but you're not going to learn how to do something if you've never had to do it before. Because like, did you ever cook your own dinner growing up? No, not once. My mom and dad cooked dinner. Primarily my mom cooked dinner every night. I came home. I was playing two sports at a time and I would come home and eat dinner. But even on like weekends or something, like mom would cook dinner or like dad would barbecue in the summertime and I didn't touch anything. Yeah. And for me, it was like food growing up in the kitchen was a very big like family thing. And everyone was always like, Hey, Tran, can you help peel these or can you help cut this up? And I remember my dad when I would just be like, even if I was sitting on my phone in the kitchen, he'd be like, Hey, come watch how I'm doing this. And my parents really like, I think actually, honestly, it might have been more of my dad. And like, and I was annoyed at the time too. I was annoyed to like watch him tell me, but he'd always be like, this is how you cook. This is how you do this. And even now I will call my dad and be like, Hey, like, how do you make that meat sauce? But looking back, wasn't that like a special time with him? Or with your whole fan? No, looking back, it helped me a lot because if I didn't have that and you didn't have that, I honestly, I don't know what we would be eating right now. We'd be eating junior chickens. Oh my gosh, we are supposed to be talking about how we split chores up. Yeah. So this is, this is getting out of here. I know we can really talk for way too long, but the, I guess the moral of that note is that if you are moving in with someone and they don't know how to do something, just give them time because most of the time it's just because they didn't have to do it. So just, I think the biggest thing, like a really big tip, obviously is communication, but also patience because just because you were raised a certain way, it doesn't mean that they were and they aren't going to have the exact same habits that you have and be able to replicate your routine. You have to form a new routine together. And honestly, looking back, it's honestly crazy how great we are now together and it's, it just blends perfectly and we don't even, there's no splitting of tours or splitting, deciding like cooking. It's just like, we have a routine together. And if I'm having an off day, you take over, if you're having an off day, I take over. I think it's because when like we talk about blending routines, I think it's because we focused on the positives of both of our routines. Like, you're really good at cooking. I'm really good at certain aspects like folding my t-shirts and my underwear. And if like, if you focus on the negatives, like, oh, I just moved in with my significant other and they don't do this, where it's like, you focus on your positives and then you get really, really good and you both get really good and you both learn new things. I think that's important. For us, it happened really naturally, but I would say start with splitting up. Wait, I think we should go over what, how our split is, how we said that? We kind of did a little bit, but wait, just let me finish my thought is that if they want to split up tours is like, whoever's better at cooking, take that over and whoever's better at cleaning at the end of the night, take that over. But over time, they blend and you learn how to clean more, they learn how to cook more. So don't just say, I'm better at this, you're better at this, let's keep it as that. Stick to what your strong suit is and then teach the other the parts that they're lacking. Yeah, absolutely. Honestly, okay, our routine right now is really funny and this honestly will be the first time we've ever like talked about it because it just happened so naturally. Yeah, I've never taught, we've never chatted about this. It feels weird. No, this honestly is weird because we don't even talk about it. It just happened so naturally. So I do the garbage as we have discussed. I clean. Wait, wait, no, let's start by cooking dinner. You cook dinner primarily. You're like the head chef, I'm the sous chef, if you will. Yeah, but it's really, oh, another thing we can talk about is with cooking. I will cook, but I destroy the fucking kitchen wall. I'm cooking. It's a disaster. So I'll be like cooking and I'll be like, and Brody is like, it's not like he's just fucking off. Like that's the thing. I'll just follow her around and just clean up. It's like even if you weren't good at cooking when we first started dating, but you were in the kitchen with me hanging out and it's like, I would be cooking just fucking tornadowing the kitchen because I'm a disaster when I cook and it started with you being in the kitchen with me to help clean up. So when I was done with some knives or cutting boards or whatever, like a certain ingredient, you would put it back right away and it helped and honestly helped me cook more efficiently because the space was cleaner. It helped you watch and learn and see how I was cooking and cutting things and how I was making recipes. That's obviously one thing that we never really talked about that I forgot about is that we've never verbalized that. No, we have never talked about that. Yeah, I guess we should specify that it wasn't like you were playing Xbox while I was cooking. It was like, you weren't as good as cooking, but you were in the kitchen learning and you were helping me. Yeah, for sure. And that's honestly how it goes now. It's not like you're completely fucked off when I'm cooking. Like, when we say I'm cooking, I'm sure I'm cutting up the veggies, but you're cleaning the parts that I don't need. You're loading the dishes as I use them. I'll be like, hey, can you grab this from the pantry? That also makes it easier pro tip for whoever is on cleanup duty. If you do that, then, because you know when you finish eating and you're like, I don't really like, why do I get the back end of the dinner? Like cleanup, but like it's almost done. Like all you have to do is like clean up the plates and the stuff that you used and then you're done. That is something for honestly just cleaning in general is to cook, I mean clean as you cook. That helps the cleaning process. So, because there's sometimes where I'll be like, I don't know, I just won't be following you around and then I'll come out and you'll just have your tornado and I'll be like, especially if I'm filming a cook with me. Oh, well, because that's when I can't really chase you around. Then after I'm just like, I look at the kitchen and I've got a full belly. I just want to relax and there's so much. But if you cook while you clean, you're in business. And then after we finish eating dinner and then it's time for the nightly cleanup, you pretty much, okay, wait, how about you go through and say what you think you do and I'll go through and say what I think my routine is. What do you mean for after? Yeah, what are cleaning chores are our night routine. Like, let's say, like, I think it's funny because we both kind of just putter around the apartment and don't really pay attention to exactly what the other's doing. So you say what you do for your nightly cleanup and I'll say what I do. Okay, let me think about it. Because here's the thing, exactly. We've never actually talked about it. I usually get up, like, we'll finish dinner. I will clear the plates from wherever we're sitting, like the plates, condiments, whatever. And then I'll go put them in the dishwasher. I'll clean YouTube. We've been having lots of air fryer food, so I'll hand wash the air fryer and then some of the stuff that needs to be hand washed and I'll dry it. And then put the rest of the stuff in the dishwasher, you know, just cleaning up the kitchen. I'll give it like a little wipe down. It's just like a big clean. And then... What do you mean you don't know what you do? You have a... You... You... Shut the place down every single night. Oh, you want me to get into that much detail? Yes. Oh, God. You have a routine. So I make sure, like, everything is... Wait, Brody, like, Brody literally... If I am... I'm a... I'm a routine. Like, I'm a robot with my routine. He will come out and if I'm in the bedroom he'll be like, are you done in the living room so I can do my shutdown? Like, he has a full shutdown. That makes me sound like a bit of a crazy person, but yeah, I do. And it's... Yeah. No, I like it because I also like, with your, like, locking the door and stuff, like, I feel protected. Like, say while I'm cleaning, like, because it's usually a little bit goes by, I'll go to the bedroom. And then I'll come out and I'll, like, make sure everything's, like, put away, like, stuff on the couch and... Our couch sags a lot, so I gotta adjust the cushions because of this stupid couch and then, yeah, I'll just make sure everything's put away and then every night I'll make sure the door's locked because we live in an apartment building and it's got, I don't know, just make sure the door's locked and then I come in and shut off all the lights and then I go and trends usually chill in and bed or in the bathroom or something and then we just go to sleep. Everything's locked up, make sure the lights are off, make sure everything's, like, in its little home that it needs to be and then... Awww. And then I go into the bedroom. But what's... I want to hear yours. Well, I cook and then... Well, I feel like this is also something new for us since I've started working, I guess, more than you? We had a weird transition. We... Are we gonna get sidetracked on this? I know. People also asked about, like, how... wait, let me pull it up. We had a very weird transition where I used to work from 6am and then go to school till 10pm at night and Trin was obviously working more normal hours and we've had a very, very 180 where she's the one working crazy hours and I'm working barely eight hours a day. So that's been quite the transition for us. Oh yeah. I was wrong, actually. The question just says how to deal with one of you possibly being more financially secure than the other when it comes to splitting finances. And I guess that really does have to do with our shift in routines because you just have to adjust with your partner and it's like, like you said, you used to wake up, go to work at 6am. Brody... Oh my goodness. Brody used to be so busy. He would wake up. It's what were you waking up at? I was at work at 6, so I was up at 5. Yeah, you're up at 5 and then he was doing night school because he was working full time to finish his degree and at this point I was just working part time and I was going to school. I only did three days a week. So I was literally like at home two of the days. Like I had a lot of alone time in Brody. That was honestly rough. I think I only saw you like 10 minutes a day for like a year there. Yeah, because I'd go right from work to school till nine o'clock to finish. I'd be home 9.45, 10 o'clock. Honestly, he had a routine where he walked in the door. You changed out of your work clothes before you got in the bathroom so they didn't make a mess in the bathroom. You changed within five minutes. You were in and out from work to school within five minutes and then you got home and you went straight to bed to get up at 5 a.m. again. So it was like during that period of time I cooked dinner for you every night and I made sure that you had dinner when you walked in. You were just there to support me. And now I feel like it's like been more of a transition the other way where you're working crazy hours and it's like I'm more than willing to support you and help you with you're having a rough day or you're not a rough day but you're stressed or busy. It's like I'll make dinner and do the dishes. I have no problem. Mm-hmm. I feel like with the financial, like if one person is more financially stable. Actually, we got a lot of questions about how we split our finances. How do we split our finances for you? I don't know. Do you want to share our finances to the world? No, you can take great on this one. No, I'm saying no but can I share our finances? So I don't know. I feel like I don't keep anything from TWC. They know everything. So when we first started dating I was in university and I was working part-time. You know this at a tanning salon and I was not making very much money and like we said it wasn't ever an official let's move in together. Yeah. So you were obviously making quite a bit more than me working a full-time job. I was making like you know part-time student salary minimum wage plus some tips. And I had a good, I had a very good early career. Yeah, yeah that was you were making way too much money for your age. Well not way too much. It was, it was earned. You worked hard. But no one else we knew our age made as much as you. Yeah. So you were paying most of the bills back then but I remember we always used to say like we were giving the same percentage of our text to bills. Yeah, for sure. Okay, honestly I don't know. We have like a kind of a weird story because I always knew that I wanted a creative job and that was always something that I was working towards and Brody was just you were paying most of the bills and you always believed in me and knew that I could make it happen. So now that we flipped a little bit more and I, I think say that. That's fine. It's okay. Trim makes all the money. You're allowed to say that. Okay, well it's weird because we don't, it's not even- This is also something we've never really verbalized. We're verbalizing a lot of stuff for this episode. Yeah, if you can tell with the stutters this isn't something we talk about because everything I guess that would be another tip if you're moving in with your significant other. Just letting things happen naturally is the best thing because I mean our scenario is a little bit different but like now that I make a little bit more money than you, I'm happy to- Okay, this is like weird because I, we don't talk about this so it like makes me feel uncomfortable saying that I make more than Brody because our money, our money is split. We don't- First off, you don't have to be uncomfortable. It's okay. I financially supported us growing up and now you're able to financially support, and it's not even financially support but you're able to, well obviously that but you're able to bring me into your lifestyle really. The more I think about it though, it is really like special because you always, Brody, honestly like you used to like your friends would be like really like you're gonna like pay most of the bills, you're gonna let her live with you and you're paying most of the bills and Brody like always believed in me and he was like she's in school like she's younger than me, I have a full-time job which is very weird for my young age that most people don't have so I'm happy to like start, I guess kickstart this for us and kickstart our early like living on our own because we were one of the, we were the first out of all of our friends to live on our own. Yeah, I was just happy to invest in our relationship and it's like just because I was making, like I was working full-time doesn't mean I'm just gonna be like, like I'm gonna support you because you're in my life. And yeah, I had lots of, definitely people who didn't, who thought more of a like a traditional way especially being that young, they definitely, definitely caught some people who were like saying things but it never really affected me. Honestly, this was like last week we were laying in bed and I was like what does it feel like for you to like have supported us growing up and now with Coachella coming up to be honest I paid every single cent for Brody to come to Coachella with me because I'm more than happy to do that because growing up those Europe and Bali trips that I talk about I was contributing to those trips but I was contributing like the same amount of my percentage of my paycheck as Brody was but obviously his was significantly more and now, now that he's watched me, I guess what I'm trying to say is he's watched me like form into my career and grow up with me and we were laying in bed that night and I was like what does that feel like to like know that you were making more money than me initially because we were so young and obviously I was in university like you know who expects me to be making a full time salary when I was 17, 18 that's not knowing and we were just talking about laying in bed and now I'm happy to be able to like return the favor because you've always believed in me and invested in me and just like you always were willing to give your all to our future because you just saw it so clearly and like you never doubted me or this for a second and we were laying in bed and I was like what does that feel like to like now and now you get to come on these trips with me and like it's not even a matter of like I'm weird talking about it because it doesn't even feel like I'm paying for you to go you know it's like our money is shared because we built this together and we grew together so I guess that's why I'm like stuttering a bit because it's just it feels weird to actually vocalize it because we don't even talk about it since it just feels like we've always just we grow together and we just you know we've built like a habit we've built a life together I guess it really comes down to building a life together it makes me really really really happy and like proud to see like yeah all those people that not all those people the people that were maybe questioning my early decisions when we were young it's like yeah I'm I get to go to Coachella with my girlfriend and she gets to take me because she's created this life and it makes me really really proud and just it's just amazing like watching watching us grow up together it's like we were but like really weak we we created this life yeah for sure of course it's awesome just like starting out watching both of us and it's like yeah one person is doing better at one time and then in like in the next chapter of life the other person is doing better that's just that's life so it's it's natural like it's whoever's more successful in a partnership is going to be contributing more in that sense and I think that's just a completely natural way to go about it I think that's the healthiest way to go about it mm-hmm I don't know yeah because it's like some people expect it to be 50-50 but it's like it I don't believe that it should have been 50-50 when no absolutely not we were younger because there was no way I could have been making that and my mind said during that time if I was to go 50-50 with you it's like what am I going to do with the money that I'm making saving my money by being like yeah no I'm not spending that on you what am I going to do with it gonna go have it in the bank and look at it that's not really like my especially being that young of course obviously saving money is important but being that young that's not my priority to just save my money just to be like yeah well you've got to make some more money around here like that's that's just I think that's a limited mindset so I guess when it comes to splitting the finances it's like money isn't everything and like we said when Brody was making more money I was taking on more of the household things and it's like I don't know I feel like we've just never had money at like we have other values and other things that are important to us besides money so it's never we've never even discussed splitting finances because there's so many other aspects to a relationship that money isn't it's just one of the many aspects I think I think we've both thought that way we should probably move on from finances but I guess I don't know like when people ask how do you split finances I'm not going to sit here and tell you how to split your finances with your partner whatever works for you works for you but if there is something that one or the other isn't liking in any sense not finances chores anything in the relationship just communicate because Brody and I really have the same views on money and we both are very just we want to live our lives and we're always going to spend our money on experiences and we really both have an abundant mindset with money which I've had which I've made multiple episodes on and you all know my thoughts on money I guess it just works because Brody has a similar thought that we both when it's like Europe Bali Coachella all these trips like we are always going to spend the money to experience life and we always make it work we always I don't know we just have the same views and we know that money comes money goes money's always flowing to us you have to spend money to make money and I'm not saying that's the mindset you have to have on money with your partner but it works for us and that's how we split our finances if you have a different mindset or different goals with your partner that's completely fine if your partner has different goals I think I think like you said communication if if your partner is like I am more saving oriented they have a goal that they're saving up towards it's just about communication with with finances because I don't necessarily have a correct answer for you I'm just I guess mostly this whole episode is just listening to how Brody and I communicate as a team because really when it comes to our relationship as a whole we're like at the front of everything we're a team and that's what keeps us so healthy and I think it's really important to just hear us I guess even talk about our relationship hearing how we converse with one another is my answer to everything and I guess I like to think that hearing this is your answer because this is to me like this is the signs of a healthy relationship and this is how you and your partner should talk about your relationship and communicate with one another we don't have like the answers but this is just how we go about our relationship and it's going to be different for everyone but as long as you're communicating in a healthy way you can find something that works for your specific relationship because really at the end of the day Brody and I see each other in our relationship we see each other as one and we see each other as a team and it isn't even about who's paying for this and who's paying for that like it's just like we are a team and we have similar mindsets with every aspect of our relationship so it's not really like we said like this is our first time even really well it's kind of hypocritical because I'm saying communicate and I'm about to say this is our first time actually verbalizing it but we do communicate it's just like we don't necessarily make a game plan we communicate each other's wants and needs and goals and everything else aligns with that and we're able to make it flow together I guess yeah I think what you said about talking about goals like we talk about our goals we don't communicate about who does the dishes that night we know that pattern but it's about communicating your goals with your partner that's really really important because if your partner doesn't know your goals and you don't know your partner's goals and then like like what do you guys don't know like I feel like that's so important because you're building a future if you don't know that you don't know your partner's true mindset I feel like anyways that's finances it's just funny because we really know each other like it's weird how well we know each other and it's like we don't even talk about it but it's just like when I'm having a bad day Brody's there to be literally my backbone and make sure that I am okay and I'm being fed and I'm eating a healthy dinner and it's like we've said this before the last episode but if I'm having a bad day and he and he's having a bad day like if I'm having a worse day he's gonna put his shit aside to help me well that just recently happened I had a really bad day at work this week you jumped in the truck like that's the first time like I picked you up and I feel like you could just tell it wasn't even really like verbalize that much you could just tell I had a very bad day and like whatever was going on in your day I'm sure it was good or bad you just put that aside and like just helped me through my bad day because like yeah I can come home sometimes and I can just tell obviously I can tell when you're having a great day and there's lots of those but I can just come in and wait what am I doing when you come home and I'm having a great day usually when I walk in and you're having a great day like I can see I can hear it from down the hall because I can hear the music walking down the hall like a couple units away I can hear the music and then I'm like oh yep that's trim and then I come in the music's on and you've you're just buzzing around the apartment and you're just busy and then I usually walk in and you're like oh my god you're home already what time is it and then you're just you know you're just the vibes are high and you're just high energy and you're just having a great day what was a bad day it looked like a bad day usually like I'll come in and obviously it's like quiet and sometimes the room will be the whole apartment will be dark like because I can drive past down the road and see the apartment before I come in and I can just see no lights on I'll just come in and you'll just be I guess low energy and just sitting at the table or sitting in your room and I could just tell by your body language and kind of what's going on that like you're not in the best like you know having the best day which of course happens and then that's usually when I try and come in and just like hey I got I got dinner tonight I want to make this how about this idea and I'll just you know turn on some lights and just try and create some high energy and and try and just because sometimes that's all you need it's just some high energy around you or just and sometimes you don't want that and you just want to be left alone and you just like hey I'll just leave you alone and I'll just I'll make dinner and I'll clean it up and then you can keep working on or or stressing about whatever you're stressing about that was really sweet thank you when you were saying that I had a thought it was like completely unrelated to be honest I was just like I got thought what's your thought so so we're gonna move on something that you said made me think about the biggest tip that I have for people in relationships to have healthy communication and a healthy relationship is to not test your partner no that's a good point I used to be testing this boy I was always like like you know he's like do you want me to do this yes or no and I would say no hoping that he did it anyways and then that would literally lead to me just fucking crying sobbing because in my brain he didn't follow through with the test when it's like I told him something opposite and was testing him and it's like okay this is like especially I think this is best for younger listeners I don't don't test your boyfriend they're not going to know what you want unless you verbalize it there's a difference between communicating that you want something and then in the moment not wanting to ask for it because you want to see if they're listening to your communication versus just never even communicating your wants and needs and testing them right away to see if they can do it because that used to be my mindset I'm like oh I'm gonna test you see if you do it anyway and then I wouldn't and then he wouldn't and I would be heartbroken little 15 year old turn would be like this this is the end he didn't pass a test and breaking up with you now that I'm older and more matured I've learned that hey if you just tell him what you want once the right partner who listens to your wants and needs is only going to need to hear it once or twice once or twice not not only just once you know once sometimes it's twice sometimes we need a twice and that's fine but you need to communicate what you want you can't just test someone and see if they hold up to your expectations because communication is key so I think that goes along with I think that ties in with like goals like this is what I want in the future and this is what I want in a partner in this situation when I'm down this is what I want and then that when I come home and you are down it's like I know that this is what makes you better and have like this is what you want mm-hmm I think another thing for when you start moving when you start living with your partner is you still need to schedule date nights because when you live separately you have to plan to hang out and usually that is involving a specific plan where you're spending quality time together and you can get really complacent just living together being surrounded and in each other's presence but that doesn't necessarily mean that you're spending quality time with one another so I think it's still very important to be scheduling dates when you live with one another it can be dates in your house Brody and I do so many dates in our apartment but it's like hey we're going to put our phones away we know we're spending this time with one another we're doing something that we don't usually do on the regular basis something that's out of our daily routine that is spending time with one another and I think that's really important so we do that by cooking a new meal together and that will have pizza night mm-hmm or like we've really made sushi in the house that was another one I was going to say that like cooking is a very big date night for us and it looks I mean we do have remember that sorry to interrupt remember that time we tried the puzzle is a date night I love puzzles and I don't like puzzles but we had fun no it was very fun you liked it yeah we just didn't finish no we didn't know I'm still I'm still frustrated I'm still frustrated by not but like we do cooking together every single night yes and it is good quality time but sometimes one or the others preoccupied but it's like when we want it to be an actual date night we will find a new recipe together whether that be we've done homemade sushi where we've gotten all the ingredients we do homemade pizza night and it's like we will think of the thing that we want to cook together we'll go to the store get the ingredients together we'll bring it home we'll put music on and put our phones away and just like really commit to doing that with one another we'll make a drink have a glass of wine have an aperol spritz a mug I think another important thing is especially with everybody working from home is leaving the house like obviously there's lots of dates you can have in your house but I think just leaving your house like going out for dinner if you don't want to spend money like going for a walk going to for a picnic like all the just classic dates just going to do I was more so on the like sense of like you don't have to spend money for a date no of course but just like quality time is really important but yeah like leaving but I feel like that's another topic leaving your house for the working from home I could we could go on a whole other topic for that I'm just I'm just saying I think from a guy's perspective it's like just having the like leaving the house it doesn't have to be to spend money it could be for a free farmers market to go walk around mm-hmm I think that's just important just to because it's like every like you spend time in the house you have your like like I guess it's breaking your routine but you just have time where you're sitting in the house doing the the same things you guys always do where it's like it's not always quality time it could be hard to separate that to change from like just relaxing to make a quality time in the house where if you leave and you go to a market or you go shopping or you go go out for ice cream or something that's that's quality time and that that's like quite an easy way to separate that mm-hmm I agree I hope you guys are going on quite the Hawker walk here because we are we have been babbling on for a while now we could we could really go on forever I know that this episode didn't really cover the answers of how to live with one another but I one another but I hope that listening to us just kind of showed it gave you the signs that it's going to work out and if it's not amazing at the start that's normal that's not just like fine that's normal it's not going to be amazing at the start you need to prioritize communication making a quality time for one another patience teaching one another the habits that the other excels at that the other one doesn't and I think having two partners that both want this to like they're hold on if you're both committed to making yeah that's that's what I was trying to say that's a good yeah you want two people that are committed to learning and growing together that's I think that's the most important thing and I mean I've never experienced this so I wouldn't know but I would that would make me assume that it probably is a red flag if you're communicating and your partner isn't holding up to those wants or needs and isn't willing to try and learn like you know let's say Brody wasn't willing to like he didn't care about learning to cook when that's important for me and it's something I like to do is quality time but another thing though that did take me a long time that's not but you were always willing I'm trying to say yeah for anyone listening if to know the red flags of when it's not working out living together yeah for sure it would be completely different if you weren't even willing to try or care because it's something that's important to me so you were there and it took a while but in the end it didn't really matter how long it was taking for me because even you showing up and willing to try was enough and now I'm a real chef you are you are we are going to wrap up the kind of apartment stuff and we're going to well I am going to quiz Brody on how well he knows me so I have oh wow I have my phone here and there's like a list of all these questions to see how well your partner knows you and in honor of our nine years coming up this week I thought why not quiz brod you don't perform well under pressure no no I don't like I could know these answers but because you put me on the spot I'll just mess it up if you're watching on YouTube I'm sorry our ring light died it because that this has been such a long episode but honestly most of my episodes are quite short so let me know if you like the longer episodes I mean brod you're always welcome to come back I know you know the girls love you TWC loves you you're our boyfriend please let Tranoe if you like me because then she brings me on more well I do what they want and they asked for you so that's what that is you're here because of them that's crazy thank you I do everything on the wellness cafe for what my girls want and they requested you okay brod this says that this is just the warm-up questions oh wow are you ready yes rum roll please I am ready number one what is my favorite movie the notebook yeah that one was way too easy because we have watched it together so many times okay next is what food would I never get sick of okay I've got a couple thoughts for this one okay because like it's not you're not asking favorite food and it's like your favorite food that like you never get sick of you don't eat it very much you love ribs like that's yeah your favorite okay but like never getting sick of okay also side note you just got sick of salmon bowls but then got now you're not sick of salmon bowls which is really good because I love salmon bowls but I'm thinking it's like do you have an answer in your head I'm thinking like there's some sort of like there's like a salad like there's a certain you know what it is it's the it's the salad from is it zinc or zinc zinc a bowl it's a bowl that's what it is you'll I think you will never be sick of that honestly yeah because it's funny because my favorite food that I would never get sick of used to be sushi until two years ago yeah you've been getting sick of sushi because I'm like do you want to have sushi and you're like no I don't I used to be a sushi monster like I was always down for sushi okay this is funny what color do I never wear you never wear purple you don't like purple or like green see I thought you were going to say red no because you you had that red puffer I know you had that red puffer because K Trin hates the color red and I love the color red like a red car a red car will go by but like oh it's a really nice car Trin would like hate it but then she bought a red puffer and I'm very excited about that okay I don't even know if I necessarily have answers for all of these but I'm curious to hear your answer what's the number one thing on my bucket list the number one thing on your bucket list is I think it's having an apartment in LA okay if you're going that route I think it's my own studios in Soho New York New York over LA like if we're thinking like bucket list like I'm thinking exposed brick studio so how I go there every once in a while it's like my girl palace like LA is like I don't know I could you don't think like a West Hollywood no for sure what I'm saying is that I could see that happening in the future as a next career move for the podcast I know that there's a lot of people in the business in LA so it's like that is honestly something that we've even talked about like being our next move is to LA for my career but if it's like bucket list I get that makes I get what you're saying but we always have this conversation of New York or LA and I am such an LA guy like an LA guy I'm I'm so born and raised LA guy no I'm such team LA and Trin is very not very but definitely more team New York okay this is a funny one it's questions about values what quality do I value the most in others you're really good like read on people and I think like I don't know if it's like a quality but being like genuine you can really sniff out and tell if somebody has genuinely good intentions so I think it's like a blessing and a curse though because it's your I mean it's a Pisces without our intuition baby here I called myself a Pisces intuition baby once and you will not let it go yeah so I think like you're really good at just because like even all like I had a conversation with somebody about work and I was like I have to do it in front of Trin so that she can give me an honest answer of if this person is like has good intentions and what they're really trying to say because you're so so good at that it's really good at in situations like that where I'm able to help you but it's honestly sometimes bad for me personally because if I get a bad read on someone which like honestly I've never been wrong no you and it's crazy because you have no it's it's bad because I've never been wrong but also it makes me like I'm really bad at bullshitting and if I if I don't have good vibes for me oh yeah you can't you can't fake it I cannot fake it and it's bad because it probably would benefit me to fake it some instances like especially when it comes to use genuine person but when it comes to like networking and business opportunities and meeting people it's like it can be a very cut throat industry and it's bad because if I don't feel at someone's genuine I'll like I don't give them the time of day when sometimes that could benefit me in the long run if I could fake it but I can't love that it's a good quality what's my biggest fear for the future I have a really immediate answer for this you have an immediate answer for your biggest fear for the future what is it okay so like for me the route that I'm going for this is like your answer is drowning a plane crash don't even say that is that not it I take it back but you said mine was drowning oh my gosh okay well I wasn't even thinking that that's like one of them but God don't even fucking say that aloud man what at that part out that's my bad well you said the path I'm taking is drowning right but like my biggest fear is like the world ending in me oh hey okay no you know that I just got like super bad anxiety about it when I was little yeah I get it but like that is like that's my biggest fear yeah my my fears probably the world ending to but hey yeah I think we can all agree that would suck no but it's like that's like a genuine fear that I have some people they probably don't think of it but it's like I think I watched thinking about it now I think I watched one too many movies about the world ending and now that's like my biggest fear you gotta stop watching those I know I know I know okay well we are going to end this episode off because it has been really long we are going to continue the questions on YouTube if you want to go watch on YouTube but for the audio episode I think we are probably almost nearing two hours so we're going to finish this off on YouTube it will be linked in the show notes I just realized that I can link the podcast to my main channel so it's under Trinity Tondelier on YouTube but it's under my podcast playlist if you search it up the wellness cafe I'm now doing video podcast which has been really fun you can come join Brody Knight in our living room to finish off these quizzes and check out the apartment check out the living room check out the our new living room studio and our wellness cafe TV it's kind of awesome yeah come hang out at the wellness cafe studio if not that's also totally fine okay I still love you either way and I will see you next week