99. coachella 2023 tell all ! frank ocean, influencers, cost & how to get back into routine

♪♪ Hello, hello. Welcome back to the Wellness Cafe podcast, year go to Hawkerwalk Podcast. I'm your host, Trin Tondelier. Today, it is just you and I here. We're throwing it back old school for today's episode, okay? We're just gonna do a girly chat episode, a little FaceTime session, a catch up, if you will, because it has been too long, and I just felt like doing one of my old school FaceTime girly episodes. So I hope you're available to chat right now. I hope I, you know, I hope I called at a good time because we have a lot. I have a lot to tell you, okay? So I'm going to give you all the Coachella tea and weekly updates. Don't you worry, I will tell you all the noble shit tea of what really goes down. I know everyone always is wondering, and I always provide you the real tea, okay? And then we're going to go through a quick little, a little reset guide for all my girly's who maybe were busy with work or school, finals or traveling, and need a little reset guide like myself, okay? We are going to bounce back. And very quick, before we get into that, let me address the elephant in the room, if you will. So I was all high vibe and I was like video podcast, let's do it, new mic, new era of the wellness cafe, let's go. And then I, you know, I got one video podcast episode up, and then it just took a turn. I was heartbroken when I tell you that I, okay, so I had the episode with Brody and I and it was up late and the video version is still not up. There won't be a video version for this week while I try to figure it out, but hopefully the video one of Brody and I can still be fixed. Anyway, when we got on the flight to LA, I had a four hour flight. I was working on the podcast episode that entire time. And when I tell you, the entire time we were in LA, I was working around the clock. Like literally most of the LA time was spent working on the podcast, trying to get it up on time for you because I'm embarrassed, I'm ashamed, I'm upset, and it just really, I don't like to disappoint you and I'm really sorry. I won't give you, you know, all the technical stuff that you probably don't even know what I'm talking about, but there's just my computer and my technology wasn't equipped to deal with the video podcasting yet and my computer kept shutting down and then it got erased and then it wasn't working. So, you know, there was just a bunch of technical difficulties. I'm just a one man show over here, you know, I just figure everything out on my own and I will figure it out and I always tell you that if you want to try something new, the only way to learn is to go for it. So, I went for it, I started it, and you know what? You're going to hit some bumps in the road when you're trying something new, but it's okay. You know, at the end of the day, I was so sad, I was embarrassed that I didn't get it up on time and I was like, you know, my girlies, they know. You know, they're okay with that, they're not going to judge me because sometimes, I don't know if you've ever felt this way but when you're trying something new, for some reason, it can be like, almost embarrassing to be seen trying something new and while you're learning something new, but there's nothing to be ashamed of, there's nothing embarrassing about trying something new, going for it, expanding your knowledge, your hobbies, your interests, and this is just another example of trying something new, going for it, and hitting a couple bumps in the road, okay? But that doesn't mean I'm going to give up. I'm going to figure it out and the video podcast will be back better than ever in no time. So I just wanted to say I'm really sorry, I get very disappointed in myself and I feel so bad when I don't get an episode out on time. And then when I got home from Coachella, my computer is just the same thing and you know, I'm honestly just sitting here recording this right now, praying that this doesn't go to waste and I can get this episode up but I won't blab on for that for too long anyway. I'm really sorry and hopefully that I figured that out and we're back up and running. Okay, weekly updates, Coachella T, first things first. The witches and I were in LA for the week before Coachella and then we drove down to Palm Springs on the Friday. And right off the bat, you know there was some witchy shit going on. So first, I will let you in on that, okay? Because we love a good manifestation story around here. One of our friends that previously worked at Aloe, that is how we met her, she lives in LA and she wanted to schedule a workout with us in LA while we were there. And of course we were down, we just said, tell us the time and place we are there, we love trying new workouts. So she ended up just scheduling it all, we had no idea where we were going and we went to the heated room. If you're in LA, I would 10 out of 10 recommend going to work out there. I think it was one of the hottest, sweatiest workouts I've ever done. I had like sweat dripping into my eyeball and I enjoyed it. Which sounds kind of weird, but I mean, it was just the endorphins were running, the vibes were high and I was, I had sweat dripping in all places of my body and I didn't even mind. So I feel like the sweatiest workouts are low key, the best ones. This is besides the point, okay? So fast forward to Friday when we were driving to Palm Springs, Kills was driving because, you know, she is the mom of the group, she's the only one over 25 to rent the car. And I went on her phone to take a video of her driving and when I locked her phone, I looked at the vision board because it is obviously her background on her phone and I honestly screamed. I was like, Kills, look at this. And it actually ended up scaring her because she was driving. She was like, oh my God, I thought we were gonna crash. Like I thought there's something wrong. And I was like, oops, my bad. Take a look at your vision board though. And in the left corner of her vision board, she had a picture of a girl in the workout studio that we had just went to and we didn't even plan it. Like the picture didn't say what workout studio that was. We didn't know where we were going. And then looking back, low and behold, we did a workout at the beautiful Pinterest aesthetic studio that was on her vision board. Like we didn't even plan it. It just somehow fell into our laps because it was on her vision board. So I will say it once more, actually probably 50 million times more. If you don't have a vision board, you need to get on it. Okay, attract those goals to you and make your vision board your vision, dream life a reality. And then actually I have one other funny manifestation story. So Brody joined us for Coachella. He was our little assistant manager boy for the weekend. He was like shooting our content for us, grabbing us food, getting my outfits ready for me while I got ready. He literally is the most supportive boyfriend in the world. Actually, oh my gosh, that brings me on another side note that I want to tell you so bad, but Brody might kill me. Okay, whatever, I have to tell you. Actually, I can't believe I've never told this story, Brody. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Actually, you know what, he doesn't care if I tell you guys this. He would probably be more embarrassed if I told like his brothers and his best friends' story, but you know, he likes to be a supportive king for TWC. But I need to share this other story, just so you know the standard that you need to be aiming for with your men, okay? And don't settle for anything else. In Vegas, for the podcast panel in March, I was so, so, so busy. I didn't even have time to like breathe. I didn't even have time to do anything. I didn't know where I was. Brody was like keeping me afloat that whole trip. And then I realized that one of my outfits, I needed to wear heels and I hadn't had time for a pedicure before leaving. And my toenails, they were looking a little crusty, okay? They were, you know, they couldn't be seen. Let's put it that way. And I was so stressed for time, we had to go in maybe half an hour. My hair wasn't done, my makeup wasn't done. I was like, I don't know what to do. Brody literally went to the hotel lobby, found nail polish and this man painted my toenails for me while I did my hair because it was like one or the other. I had time to paint or I could do my hair and he didn't know how to curl my hair. So he's like, you know what? Pull up a chair, show me how to do this. And he painted my toenails for me while I was getting ready. I wish I had a photo of it. That was like top 10 funniest moments we've ever shared while traveling. I was just looking at him and I was like, wow, you really love me. So that is the level of support that you need to settle for, okay? Nothing else, nothing lower than that, okay? Get a man willing to paint your toenails for you. That is how much he supports you. Anyway, that just goes to show the level of how much Brody supports us all. Even all of the girls, like it was so funny. I was getting ready in my room and I was calling for Brody and then Fernando was like, oh, he went to go get my Uber Eats for me. And I was like, okay, totally. And then like Kale's was like, Brody, can you take my photos for me while Trin finishes getting ready? Like he was just, he supports the girl gang, okay? But anyway, back to the little manifestation story. So we went to a revolve festival Saturday and Sunday and they usually have performers. Last year it was like Post Malone and Jack Harlow. And this year we had no idea who they were. And Brody just kept saying it is going to be ice spice. It's going to be ice spice. And I'm talking for months. He was saying this, okay, don't ask me why. I don't know the reason, I don't know the reason the man is the way he is and why he wanted to see ice spice but he was putting it out into the universe, okay? And day one, a festival where just dancing, vibing. And then the DJ says, okay, stay close. We have ice spice coming out next. And the look on Brody's face, I genuinely think that seeing the excitement in his eyes after hearing that was the highlight of my entire trip, there's like, there's honestly no better feeling than seeing someone you love just so happy and it filled my heart. And we all started screaming and we were like, you manifested that bro, look at that. Because what you say around the witches comes true, okay? Speak that shit into an existence. And that is why we also were always, if we say something that we don't mean, we like always say like, take it back, be careful what you say because all the energy we put out, just it's weird, okay, it is weird. If you're new here also, hi, just let me clarify. I don't think I'm actually a fucking witch but my friends and I started referring to ourselves, our little trio as the witches because we all really believe in practicing gratitude and daily journaling and manifestation, positive affirmations, all of that, all of the positive high vibe things. And then when we all came together and first became friends, it was genuinely just scary. How many things we were speaking into existence? But we don't think we're actual witches, okay? It's just so true that high vibrations attract one another. Also, I need to say, TWC girlies, you have also been on your manifestation shit, okay? I love reading all your little witch stories in the Geneva group chat. If you're not part of our group chat, it is linked in the show notes. But that is all for the witch updates. Let's get into actual Coachella tea because everyone is always wondering what it is actually like and I'm here to provide you with the tea. And the first question I got asked was what is a morning like at Coachella? And this is so funny because we stayed in a townhouse. It was Brody Night in one room, landing kills in one and Fern and her friend in the third bedroom. And what the mornings look like, okay? It looked like Fern and I both opening our doors, rolling out of bed, looking like hot trash and just laughing at each other in the hallway and standing there for like a good 10 seconds, just like making eye contact and laughing at how much of a disaster we look like. Coachella is one of the best weekends of the year. Don't get me wrong, I'm so grateful to be able to go on those amazing trips, but it beats the shit out of you. That is the first and foremost thing. It tires you out. Like people aren't just wearing bandanas to look cool. You literally have to wear a bandana because you're in the middle of the desert and you have dust blowing at you from all directions. Like I have dust and dirt where there just shouldn't be dust and dirt, okay? So the mornings look like rolling out of bed, having a laugh in the hallway together. And then every morning I went downstairs and made a fruit bowl for breakfast because you know, you already know we went to Trader Joe's the first day and stocked the fridge with fruit and healthy snacks and lokolome. So I made a fruit yogurt bowl. I filled up the Stanley with a big ice water. I got my AG1 for Mathematic Greens. And then we would all just throw our bikinis on and go to the pool to like, you know, reset and have a little, have ourselves a little morning moment if you will. The other girls were actually tanning at the pool, but I don't tan. Like literally we sat out there and Lann got a tan line after 10 minutes. So I was like the odd member out. I was the Let's Play Mermaid's friend of the trip because I went straight into the pool every morning and went for a nice little swim. Okay, one thing about me is I am always in the pool swimming. If there's a pool, I can't pass it up. Okay, and it was also an ice cold pool. So I really needed it to like help the inflammation. Okay, every part of my body was swollen and inflamed and going in the pool in the morning was like my little ice bath almost. So then we would have breakfast and tan and go to the pool for like an hour, go back to the house and shower. And then after showering, the house would honestly like go silent for an hour. Oh yeah, and we were waking up maybe like 738.30. We didn't set alarms, but that's just like when we were waking up. So then we would shower and then after the showers, the house would just be silent and we would work for like an hour, an hour and a half every morning and get like our post up, go through our photos. That's why like the stories were all delayed because another thing is Coachella doesn't have any service. It is so hard, especially in situations if you misplace your friends. Okay, it is a struggle and a half to find them, but that's why all the stories are always like a day delayed or I was posting at night because there is no service. Okay, so then we would all just do our work for an hour, catch up on work for an hour, hour and a half. And then it would be time to start playing the music and getting ready for the day. And at this point, Brody's like showering, cleaning up the kitchen, cleaning up my suitcase for me, getting my outfit ready. And then we would get ready and head out for the day. For Coachella updates, I'm just going through. I put a little pull up on Instagram asking what you wanted to know when I just selected the most asked questions. So the next one was who was my favorite set? And my favorite set was probably Labyrinth or Metro. And the thing also about Coachella is it's very normal. I'd say almost like mandatory and expected for the person who's set, the person who's performing to bring someone out for a song. If they have a song together or something like that because every celebrity is already at Coachella, you know, so it's like, hey, let me bring you out for this song because you're already here. Like last year Daniel Caesar brought out Justin Bieber. And I know a lot of people were complaining about Coachella's lineup not being good this year, but let me tell you, Labyrinth literally brought out Billie Eilish. Okay, it was insane. I've never seen a crowd go so crazy and run up to the front of the stage, but Labyrinth's entire set was amazing. I'm a huge Labyrinth fan, not just the Euphoria songs, like literally everything. I love him. The Euphoria soundtrack was just like, obviously the icing on top of the cake because it is like timeless and iconic. Okay, it was like, it was like being in a real life Euphoria trailer. Okay, it was one of the craziest feelings ever. And the Euphoria soundtrack is just timeless. Okay, it never gets old and hearing it live was insane. And not to mention Labyrinth just really put his all into the set he had and he had really high energy. He was dancing a lot. And then Metro Boomin was really good too. He brought out everyone. Like he brought out 21 Don Tolliver, the weekend future. And if you know one thing about me, you know that I'm an R&B girly, okay? Through and through like Frank Ocean, give you on the weekend, Brent Faias, that is my shit. And the weekend came on for Metro. And I was like, holy shit, they are going to sing Creepin, which is like my favorite song right now. And he came on and I was literally ugly, screaming, singing my heart out to that song, okay? Oh, it was so much fun. I really, I just feel like Coachella can be really overwhelming. So I just set an intention this year to literally just have fun and like whatever, you know, just have the best possible time I can just dance and sing to music and just have fun. And that is what I did, okay? Brody and I were dancing and singing and just had no cares in the world, but enjoy the music. And then of course everyone is wondering what happened with Frank Ocean's set. So I actually enjoyed it. Okay, so here's what happened. I'll give you the backstory. So Frank Ocean was set to a headline Sunday night on the main stage every single night, someone headlines. And he was, I think he was an hour late, which yes, that sucks, but I'm pretty sure the weekend was late last year. Like everyone is usually late. It's very rare that someone actually comes out on time. So yes, he was late and that was disappointing, but I feel like that is just expected. And first of all, I was just grateful to be in his presence because I love him, I love his music. And he hasn't performed in I think like six or seven years. So I was just shocked to hear any of his songs at all. And a lot of people were upset that he was late, that this stage was weird and that it ended abruptly. And people are also upset that he wasn't singing. And his set, don't get me wrong, it was definitely not the normal performance. But I felt like going into it, I was expecting that because Frank Ocean is just very eccentric. Like he literally brought that green emotional support baby with him to the Met Gala. Like do you think we're getting a random ordinary concert by him? Absolutely not. He brought a green baby doll with him to the Met Gala. So I just kind of went in expecting it to be eccentric. And his set did end really abruptly and early. So that was obviously like not the best. But like I said, I was just grateful to be there in any way, shape or form. And then he did, people were upset that he had like a little DJ thing in between his sets. When, I don't know, I really enjoyed it. I thought it was really fun. I love dancing to upbeat music because Frank's is definitely slower. So I personally had fun like dancing in between. He did sing, White Ferrari, Bad Religion, Crack Rock. And then he also came out to talk to us, which we never get to talk to Frank Ocean. He never performs. He never interacts with his audience like that. And he came out and he said like, thank you for being here. And he pretty much said that he was dedicating this performance to his brother because his brother passed away in 2020 to a car crash. His younger little brother, I think he was only 18 and they were really close. And he came out and said like, my brother would be so proud. Him and I always came to Coachella together. This was his happy place. Like I know he would be so proud and would love to be here with us today. And I know he did end up singing the version. I think it was the version of White Ferrari that his brother preferred instead of the one that was released. So people were also confused because they didn't know how to sing along to it. And in my mind, I'm like, this is an artist. He doesn't, I know we paid to see him, but in my mind, I'm like, I am paying for whatever he gives me. I don't know. And he literally came out and said that he was dedicating that set to his brother who has passed away. And it's like, yeah, why are we mad at him for dedicating something to his brother? Like artists don't have to do everything for their fans in my mind, I don't know. So I really enjoyed it. I thought it was fine. You know, I expected to wait. I wait for every single set. Yes, it's unfortunate, but that's just like the name of the game and how it goes when you're going to a festival. There's a lot of really unglamorous parts of Coachella, but they really make up for the highs. Okay, the lows just are erased by the really high highs. So yeah, people were really upset. I don't know. I went into it expecting it to be different. I thought, I really liked it. I had a good time. And yes, I wish the set went on later and was longer, but you know what, I'm grateful for what I got. I just think it was, it was wilds that people were just so upset by the set when he pretty much had said that like he's really grateful for all of us to be here. He wished his brother was here. He shared like some of their favorite memories together from Coachella. He put on a fun time. And then he sunk his heart out like acoustically for two or three songs and it was very beautiful. I don't know. So that is my point of view. I know a lot of people are upset and I just, I was happy to experience it. I had a good time. I was dancing. I was singing. I was just watching Frank Ocean vibe out because yeah, for some songs, he was just like dancing and enjoying his time with the crowd. When like, you know, that's good enough for me. I don't know. So that is what happened with Frank. A lot of people are very disappointed, but I just went into it, not knowing what to expect and expecting it to be weird and different because one, he's not a performer, two, he hasn't performed in six or seven years and three, it's Frank Ocean. Okay? And like, yes, we can all sit here and complain about the songs that we didn't get to hear, but like at least we got to, I don't know. I feel like I always just look on the bright side of things. Like we got to sing along to a handful of songs with him. So it's better than nothing. And now we can, too, I think he pulled out and we can, too, is canceled. So now we don't even, who knows when is the next time anyone will get to see him perform live. So I'm just happy I got to go there. I love him, I had a good time. This is like any situation in life. You can always look at the negatives and complain about them or just look for the positives. And I don't know, it just goes to show, you know? Just think positively, find the good in everything and I feel like that just leads you to living a happier life. Anyway, I'll wrap it up about Frank now, but that is pretty much just my opinion on the situation. I guess like my final thoughts on that is, no matter where I am, no matter if I pay to be somewhere, no matter what my expectations are for a certain situation, the way I see it is that if I'm in a situation where someone is saying, hey, this moment is really special to me and I'm going to use this to dedicate it to my brother who has passed away unexpectedly that I didn't get to say goodbye to. No matter where I am, no matter if I paid, thousands of dollars to be there and I had expectations, I'm in my brain, I'm just like, okay, yeah, for sure, that makes sense, like you do what you need to do in this moment. And yeah, I guess a lot of people just were bummed out that the performance wasn't up to standards, but you know, in my mind, the way I see it is I'm okay with that. Sure, it wasn't the best concert ever. I'm not saying it was amazing, but I feel like, you know, I just feel like it comes down to human decency and being compassionate for others. And people, I just see it often, like online, why do people just treat celebrities and famous people as I feel like you dehumanize them sometimes? Like this man stood there and was telling us his memories with his brother at Coachella. So from my point of view, it's kind of hard to be like, hey, why didn't you put on a better concert for us? From my point of view, I'm just like, okay, like yeah, dedicate this to your brother, that is A-okay by me. Anyway, I'll move on from the Frank stuff now, but I had a lot of questions about that. So I thought I would touch base on that, then moving along. I got a lot of questions about outfits and how much I spent on outfits and which one of my outfits was my favorite. And to be completely honest with you, I had way better outfits planned and I put a lot of time and effort into searching for outfits that were very unique and very me online the months prior. And they all started showing up about two weeks to a week and a half before we left and nothing fit me. Literally, I had a whole ass, like you know this, I did my Canva PowerPoint. I made collages of the outfits I was going to be wearing down to the sunglasses and accessories. And when push came to shove, nothing fit me. And that's just reality, you know, it's like, it's a bummer. But I know that clothes are made to fit me. I am not made to fit into clothes as shitty as it is when you order something online that doesn't fit. Yeah, that's going to happen when you're online shopping. Not everything is going to fit. Sizes are different all across brands. And yeah, my outfits just didn't end up working out this year. Hopefully I can recreate the vision next year and pull it together. So I honestly, both of my outfits for Revolve Festival, like the second and third day, I bought those in LA a couple of days before. I just threw together what I could find and I just made the best of it. You know, obviously there is a lot of people there who are counting on the outfits and sure it's a really fun part of it. But at the end of the day, I was just like, you know what, my outfits, they didn't work out this year. I'm just going to have fun and make the most of it. And it is what it is. I still did like my outfits, I'd say probably my favorite one was day one. It was just all black. I was wearing a little skims at Bikini Top, my local European cargo pants. And the best part was is that I was comfortable, you know, just comfy, chilling, listening to music and I loved every second of it. Someone sent in, they said, did you feel the social pressure to pick out the best outfits since fashion is important there? And of course, it's super stressful. I was actually panning back to when I first got the outfits and they didn't fit like my heart sunk. And I was so stressed because especially going as an influencer, I hate like saying that, but you know, I'm just going to say it how it is for context. Going as an influencer, people are obviously judging your outfits and talking about them. And people are going to judge and talk about if they liked your outfits or not. And I feel like there's definitely a lot of pressure on it. So, and not to mention, I feel like the outfits are part of the fun and you get to express yourself through creativity and fashion and cultivate, you know, three different looks essentially for every day. It really is a part of the fun, but I think what I really realized when my outfits didn't end up working out is that at the end of the day, it's not that serious. And I ended up just, you know, wearing things that I would wear every day. I wore denim cargoes, just like a nice lace top. I wore a cute dress that I can re-wear again. I did at first, like I'll be honest, when my outfits at first didn't fit, I did think it was the end of the world. I was so sad. I, in my head, I was like, Coachella is canceled. This is brutal, but really, I was like, hey, Trin, check yourself. You're just going to have fun. It is just a music festival. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. So that is a little recap of the outfits. 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And our whole entire group, we just went on our own. We didn't go with a brand, we bought our tickets, our flights, our accommodations, like this was all essentially just a fun trip that we paid to go on. I'll explain in a little bit how like the influencers that are getting taken with brands, how that works. But for our group personally, we paid to go and I got a lot of questions about how much it costs. It seems like for those wondering, for their own future reference or just general curiosity, actually somebody said, let me find it. Has someone said how much did you spend being there? And then in brackets said be upfront. And that just made me giggle a bit because I just feel like there's so much on the internet about Coachella right now. It's like be upfront about how much money you spend like absolutely, I don't mind, I'm always just, I feel like I'm always upfront with you all. And like I said, we paid for us to go. So I think tickets came out to $1,000 each. Like Coachella is no joke, it is so expensive. And that really is why it's like one of the best weekends of the year. And that's why I was like, you know what? Who cares about the outfits? Like I paid to be here, let's just have fun and dance and like make memories and laugh. Like I just want to have fun because you have to pay so much to go. Like I was really saving up for this trip. I think it was $1,000 each and that included like we bought a shuttle pass. So you could get home at the end of the night. So that on its own is very, very expensive. And that is for general admission. And a lot of people were asking if I saw any like celebrities or influencers and I didn't revolve festival. But once we got to Coachella, we were just like in the general admission, the cheapest tickets. So most like the influencers and celebrities, like your Alex Earl and Justin Bieber and like the sabotage girlies, just like naming influencers off the top of my head who I saw there. They are all going to be in VIP and artists. There is so many different sections to the actual Coachella grounds and for going to the concerts and stuff. So we were just in general admission. We considered buying VIP passes this year and it was almost, I think it was almost double the price and we could just not justify that. Like Coachella is no joke. So we were like, you know what? Like general admission is more than fine, grateful to just be there in the first place. Like that is all good by us. So I think we paid around 1,000 Canadian for our tickets and then we rented an Airbnb in Palm Springs. And for our Airbnb, we had six people for three nights and I believe we all paid 750 Canadian each. The Airbnb is and the hotels, like they jack their prices up during Coachella time because if you look at it, like the schedule for the Airbnb any other time, obviously the host wants to make a profit off of you at that time because there's only like a select number of houses available and really like they control the market and they can make the prices whatever they want because they know people are going to pay. So that was a little bit pricey, but split by people, if you get a big group, it is not that bad. And $750 is like an absurd amount of money for three nights in a hotel, but I just mean it's not that bad in comparison to some people like jack their prices up you guys to like $10,000 a night for a house in Palm Springs during Coachella. It is, it's insane. And that's another thing a lot of people are asking where we stayed. So we stayed in Palm Springs because we didn't book soon enough to stay in India or closer to the Coachella grounds. So we were about an hour away from the actual festival. So every time we had to go there, we Ubered, which was about $100 US Uber to get there. And then to get, oh my gosh, it's actually insane. It's so freaking expensive, but you know, you're wondering. So we paid for an Uber to get to Revolve Festival and then Revolve Festival and Coachella, like all the separate brand parties are separate from Coachella. They're not on the grounds. They have nothing to do with actual Coachella. They are completely different. So we went to Revolve Festival until 6 p.m. Saturday, Sunday. And then it was time to go to Coachella after and I want to say maybe it is a, it was less than 10 minutes of a drive and we got out of Revolve Festival. We were going to call an Uber, but no Ubers are available in the area during Coachella. They're all super busy, super booked. And there was a bunch of people standing around the Revolve Festival exit, wanting to drive us basically saying that it was like $100 or $200 US for a drive to Coachella because, you know, they like, again, they control the market because we're standing there. There's no Ubers, there's no taxis. We don't have a car. They know that if we want to go to Coachella, we have to pay that. But luckily I had mama Cales that she got bargaining. It's so funny watching Cales like this tiny little pretty brunette girl just like going up to these old guys who could be our dads and like bargaining with them for a cheap Uber. It was so funny. Must be the Italian in her because she gets, you know, I was like, I was ready to pay. I'm like, I, you know, I don't have the confidence to go bargain with these older men, okay? That terrifies me. And Kaylee walks up, she's like $50, okay? 50. And she was going at it and I didn't even hear because I literally stood away. I was like, you go work your magic. Thank you, but I'll be waiting over here. You let me know when we have a deal. Like I couldn't even watch. But that was fine by her. She had the confidence. She's like, I got this. So she ended up getting us a cheaper ride. And then as we were walking away with that driver, all the other drivers were actually getting mad at him saying like they were like, you're ruining the market. You're going to drive them for that low. Like what the heck? So it is crazy and so expensive. But I mean that again, split by our big group of six people. I think it came down to like $10 per person. So it's not the end of the world, but like it is a very expensive weekend. And then how we got home at the end of each night is with a shuttle pass. So after Coachella, and this is another thing, okay? Coachella beats the shit out of you because I believe I got almost 50,000 steps in three days. And that is like, no, I think I got more than 50. Honestly, I think we were doing almost close to 20,000 a day because where the ubers can drop you off at Coachella, I kid you not. This is not an exaggeration. It is at least a 15 to 20 minute walk to get to the performer that you want to see once you've been dropped off on the grounds. Because the venue is so big. And again, with all the dust and the dirt blowing at you, that is why whenever we're walking, I think there was a video of the three of us walking. Like we all have our bandanas and sunglasses on. I got another question about what is with the sunglasses at night? And I literally had to wear my sunglasses at night. Like I always do. You guys know I always wear my sunnies in the club, but this was one instance where I was wearing my sunglasses at nighttime so that I wouldn't get like half a pound of desert in my eyes because you should see the photos of me waking up. Like the dust already destroys my eyes. They're so puffy, I can barely see. So that is what is with the bandanas and the sunglasses. It is to keep the dust and the dirt out of our faces. What was I saying? Oh yeah, the walking. So after the festival ends, you have to walk about 15 minutes to the shuttles and then you have to stand in a line and you wait for the shuttles to come and get you. And then it is about an hour shuttle back home. And then it dropped us off at the closest, like we got off at the closest stop to our Airbnb and then we walked home, which is more walking. And like this is like, at this point, I think it's almost like two hours after the last act has finished. So a lot of people have been asking how many hours of sleep we got. And honestly, the answer is like five hours a night and that is just not enough for this wellness girlie. Okay? I was, you know, I was thrown off of my routine. Day three, like Sunday I am hurting. We were all like, we were limping to the finish line. I definitely couldn't do another day. I'm pretty sure one day I remember fern getting home at close to five a.m. and then had like an eight a.m. or a nine a.m. wake up. Yeah, it is just you don't get much sleep. You don't, you don't really get to take care of yourself and you definitely don't feel your best. And I guess that is like my what I'm working on for this week and what I've been working on. No one really talks about like how like the struggle between choosing wellness and your routine and like living out your 20s and drinking and partying with your friends and staying out and like going to a festival, you know, I never want to be in a position where I'm sacrificing these memories that are made at a festival like this with my best friends in my 20s. I want to experience these things. I want to make these memories. But on the other hand, it is like a mental battle because I love my routine. I love to do the things that make me feel good. And like I said by day three, I'm like my body is giving up. I am running on so little of sleep. I need a home cooked meal. I need some water. I cannot drink anymore. And it really goes for like any position, you know, when you love your routine and you love working out and taking care of yourself, but it also on the other hand is like at what point is it too much and are you sacrificing amazing memories in your 20s, you know, like how serious does it need to be taken? And then when you do make the decision to like go party and have fun and put your routine and healthy habits aside, you are stuck with like that feeling of guilt and just like feeling like shit, you know, because oftentimes we do these healthy habits because we are addicted to how it makes us feel and you want those endorphins and you want to feel good. Who doesn't want to feel good? You know, it's amazing. The feeling of doing a workout with your best friend and getting a fresh smoothie after and getting some sunshine, like that is top 10 feelings in the world. Do you feel like the most confident bad ass bitch ever? And you want to know what I felt like Coachella day three after being blown around in the dust and drinking for three days, I felt like a slug, okay? I felt like an actual slug and that doesn't feel good. And in my mind, I'm like, I cannot wait to go home, have a home cooked meal, do a workout, sleep in my bed. But also on the other hand, it is such amazing memories that will last me a lifetime with my friends and you can't, you know, you can't sacrifice that. Like who fucking cares, whatever. I felt like a slug, I missed my workouts. But you know what, I got home, I worked out, I unpacked, I did my reset and I will feel better again, you know? I hope I was able to articulate the feeling of those two contradicting thoughts and emotions you may have when you're on a wellness journey in your 20s especially. But like I said, some things that did help me stay on track while we were there was in the morning, making sure that we still had time for our morning moment, prioritizing hydration, eating healthy and my athletic greens. Because like once you get to the festival, there's no healthy habits, there is no eating nutriciously. I'm pretty sure we had pizza every single night. Actually we did, every single night at Coachella, we hit up the exact same pizza stand. And you know, that's just the name of the game. Like I know what pizza doesn't make me feel as good as home cooking my favorite dinner does. But that is something that I'm willing to sacrifice to make these memories in my 20s. I guess I just wanted to speak on this because if you've ever felt like, you know, you have that mental battle going on while you're choosing to let go of your routine to just like live your life and make memories. Like that is totally fine. But I feel like not enough people like talk about that mental battle and it's not even like guilt because I don't feel, guilt isn't the right word I'm looking for because I don't feel guilty. Like I know that I want to make memories but it's like I just feel bad. I feel gross and no one likes to feel gross. But I guess I don't have the answer to these contradictions, these two thoughts. But I just wanted to say that if you ever feel like that, just know that you're not alone. Like nobody feels amazing when they're partying at Coachella but that is just something you sacrifice to make memories with your friends. And I know not everyone is that Coachella but like this even happens to me. Like for birthday is when you're celebrating your friends birthday or your own birthday or any vacation you go on or like anytime where you just take your time off your routine to just live your life because that is very much so needed and it is normal and it is good for you to take time off your routine but it can also leave you with that mental battle of just not feeling 100% and especially if you're someone that thrives off of high vibrations and feeling good and fueling your body with the things that make you feel good so you can show up as your highest self. Yeah, no shit, you're going to feel like a slug like I did. And it's a mental battle but at the end of the day like you only live once and you need those times. Sometimes I think this is actually going to be my quote of the episode and it's that sometimes you need to sacrifice your routine and your healthy habits to feel like a slug and make a memories with your friends in your twenties. Okay. And I know it's hard, it can be hard but it has to be done because honestly I feel like I was on the different end of the spectrum for a while where I was so into my routine and I was so into feeling good that I honestly lost my interest of like partying and going out with my friends and I just wanted to be a homebody and I wanted to shelter myself and I stopped drinking. I stopped like going out and dancing with my friends and getting dressed up with my friends and it's like those are not things that I want to sacrifice and those are not things that I want to give up. Those are girly parts of my twenties that I enjoy and I love and I look forward to. So yeah, maybe I felt like a slug on the inside because I wasn't working out and I didn't have endorphin rushes but like I had endorphin rushes from belly laughing with my friends and dancing our hearts out and singing at the top of our lungs. So you know, I guess it's just different types of feeling good and sometimes you do have to choose one over the other and that is okay because that is what your reset routine is for and you can reset and get back on track once you get home because at the end of the day, a couple days off to live outside of your routine and outside of your healthy habits, it isn't going to set you back in the long run and once you get home and you get back on routine, you will be back to feeling good in no time. I kind of went off on a little tangent there because honestly, I got a lot of questions asking like, how I maintained my healthy habits while I was at Coachella and how I got back on track and how I, you know, like maintain the wellness lifestyle and it's like, this is my lifestyle, yes, but that doesn't mean it has to be 100% of the time and if you're on vacation or in a spot where your routines are being altered and taken away from you, just add those little bits in here and there where you can, if you can at all, but don't let it consume you and still enjoy the moment and make the best of it because that your routine will always be there when you get back and you will always have your routine to fall back on and your healthy habits, but you can't always make memories with your friends in your 20s. That is the way I see it. Anyway, I got a little off topic there from the money. I think I was talking about the money and somehow got sidetracked to that, but I just wanted to circle back to the money for a quick second because I kind of started explaining how expensive it was and all like the downsides of Coachella, but there are great sides at just obviously like, the whole festival isn't just Instagram photos and like glamorous things, you know, like at the end of the day, it is a music festival in the desert. So yeah, there are a lot of shitty aspects to it, but the highs that take away from the lows and you know, I would do it all over again a thousand times, I would not like, I wouldn't change it for the world and I'm just grateful to have been able to go and make those memories and sure you have to wait in line for the shuttle and you get dust up your nose and dust in places that there shouldn't be dust and you don't get a lot of sleep, but you know, it's memories made that will last a lifetime and it is worth it. But it is hella expensive, so it does involve quite a bit of saving, but I promised you I would get back to like the influencers who get taken with brands. So when it comes to like the whole influencer scene, air quotes, once again, I don't like for lack of better term, the influencer scene, also why his social media and like everyone's negative opinions made me embarrassed to like say the word influencer, like that is a messed up. But anyway, okay, back to the influencer scene of Coachella. So there's many different levels. As there are passes to Coachella, there is a bunch of different ways that influencers can get taken to Coachella. So when you've seen influencer, usually when you see them at a house with a group and they're tagging one specific brand, that usually means that that brand paid for said influencer to go with them in return for them like posting their brand the whole weekend. So I know this year there was an ughouse, there was the camp push, which oh my gosh, I am crying with jealousy at cramp, to camp push because I saw like push is obviously all Courtney Kardashian's like wellness brand. And they looked like they had a whole wellness retreat. Like let me tell you, I would have been thriving there. Okay, there would have been no slug vibes there. I saw they had like ice baths and a private chef and nutritious foods being made for them every day. Like absolutely signed me up for that. But that is not the reality for everyone. Most people like myself are just trekking through the dust and sitting in dirt piles waiting for shuttles and going to the bathroom in porta potties. Like that is the reality of the festival. But for the influencers who get taken by brands, I have never experienced that. I am just grateful enough to even be able to save up the money to go to Coachella. But yeah, what I was saying is those houses, when you see a brand that usually means that it was covered for the influencer to go. And in some circumstances, they may or may not also be getting paid. That really is just on like an individual circumstance. It really just depends on that certain person's deal. But yeah, most of the time if you see them, I know like Alex Earl and Noah Beck, they were all at that guest house. So my guess is that when it gets to like that level of following, I'm pretty sure they were probably getting paid to be there. But honestly, I can't say for sure because it really just depends. But for girls like myself who are just like, Lang, Kaylee, and I, we just booked that trip on our own. And we got to go to Revolve Festival, which there are certain events outside of Coachella grounds. Being hosted by brands, like on Friday, there was a Celsius party, there was a Revolve one. There was, I believe there was like a clinic house. Those are all brand events that are invite only. However, we're not getting paid to go. But however, once you get to the events, everything is complimentary, which is a very, very nice touch. It never, like it always shocks me. I'm always so, so, so deeply grateful. Actually, this is really funny. We were at Revolve Festival and it was six. And I think this was Sunday night. We were getting ready to head to Frank Ocean. And I knew that I was going to have to like rally. I was going to have to get my energy up. This is like, you know, this is the last event. Like Sunday night, I am on my last battery cell. I am hanging on for dear life. So in my mind, I'm like, okay, like you just got to rally. We got to keep the drinks going, keep energized. And I had a tote bag and I went to the Honda Tequila stand. And I literally asked them, I'm like, I'm falling asleep. Can I smuggle some of these free drinks out of here? Because once you get in the ground, drinks are like, oh my gosh, I think they're like 25 US dollars a drink and I just, I cannot justify that. Okay. I'm not paying that. So I'm literally at this festival, like Revolve Festival. There was like celebrities everywhere. I was like the bottom of the barrel, tiniest nobody there. Okay. Like it was filled with like Haley Bieber and oh my goodness. You know who I did see this year? I saw Shea Mitchell. Where are my pretty little liars girls that? Okay. She is, she's a goddess. Like I've never been turned around just like staring at someone's presence before, but she literally was radiating like positive energy and her skin was glowing and she is stunning and she is so tall. Like she is, wow, I was taken back and not even just me. Like everyone was kind of going up to each other and being like, holy shit, did you see Shea Mitchell? Like she looks insane. So keep in mind, I am at this festival. Shea Mitchell is there. Haley Bieber is there. Leonardo DiCaprio is there. I did not see him, but you know, I saw photos that he was there and I heard the people talking. Okay. It was known that he was there. And like, of course all the TikTok boys are there, like little Heidi and Noah back. Fun fact, we fully tried to take lands, be real with Noah back in it. And we were trying to be like super sly and pretend like we weren't fangirling and taking photos. Like we were acting natural and it just, I know it so wasn't natural. He knows what was going on, but we got the be real. And then because there was no service, it didn't save. So all of our efforts, our hard wasted efforts were wasted away trying to sneak that be real. But what I was saying is that there are all these like very A-list celebrities at this event and just picture myself in the corner some muggling tequila drinks into my tote bag. So I don't have to pay for them. Okay. Like that is my vibe while I'm there. Okay. I'm just full slug mode. Apparently that's what vibe I'm going with. Okay. But anyway, it was an amazing time. I'm trying to think of like other funny memories to tell you. Oh, okay. So remember how I said like when you get dropped off by the Uber, it is about a 20 minute walk to get inside the grounds. And then there's like one, two, three, four, five, six. I think there's six or seven different stages inside the event that all take like a good five minutes to get from one to the other. Friday night, we went to the Celsius party first before going to Gochilla because honestly we went like to be honest, we went there to pre-drink. I was like, I cannot afford drinks and Coachella. We have this invite to this party. Like let's go get all the free drinks we can there and do our pre-drinking for free and then go to Coachella, except my one condition was I had, I had to make K-Tronauta set at seven 30 because throwback to last year, who has been here since I missed, give you on set. I don't even, I don't even want to talk about it. It still makes me so, so, so, so sad. Anyway, I'm like, K-Tronauta seven 30. The Uber drops us off at seven 25. I know I have a decent, we were also, he dropped us off at the wrong spot. We had like a decent 25 minute walk. I want to say I'm looking at my watch. I'm looking at Brody. I'm like, holy shit. We got to go. So we start speed walking. Laning Cails fall behind because they were in uncomfortable shoes and I was in my Nike's and I just like turned around. I'm like, I'm sorry, you guys, I got to run like text me when you get in. I literally am about to start running. So Brody and I decided to start literally sprinting, except that was the day I was wearing a Skims bikini. And we started running Brody and I and we passed this one guy and he was like, go, go, go, you can make it. And I'm feeling myself running and I feel my boob fall out of the Skims bikini because can we talk about like Miss Kim? Like how are my boobs fitting in these little napkin of bikinis? First of all, I just don't understand. I love Skims and I am a stand, but I do not fucking understand how my body parts are supposed to fit in some of her items. Okay, it is insane. Don't get me started on the microthong. Anyway, we're running past this guy and he like, he heard us start running. Okay, we weren't very far and he goes, go, go, go, you can make it. Then I look at Brody and I'm like, my boob is falling out like I can't run in this bikini. And the guy, he yells from behind, Brody and I were like peeing our pants laughing at this. He was like, oh man, your out of breath already like, no, you got a little bit left in you. And like, I wanted to explain that it was just because like, my whole entire boob was going to be out if I kept running, but it was just so funny because he was like, totally making fun of us for giving up our run after like 20 seconds. But we did end up making it. We just did some speed walking. Okay, where my boobs, the girls could stay like nice and secure. A fast pace walk. Okay. Do not run in a Skims bikini. Moral of the story. That is all I can think of for like funny moments this year. Actually, okay, there is a question from the question box that says funniest thing that one of the witches said this trip. And I actually don't even know if I should be telling this story, but I think it was myself. So we're in the middle of labyrinth, you know, everyone is talking about euphoria and the guys behind me keep talking about Zendaya. They're like, Oh, I wonder if Sunday is here. I wonder if Sunday is here. And in my mind, I'm just like, yeah, for sure. I wonder if Sunday is here. So then it just like got stuck in my mind that Zendaya was going to be there. I don't know. Okay. I don't know. I was just in like a euphoric trance. I was listening to Nate growing up live. I was screaming. Still don't know my name. Like I was euphoria mode. Okay. So one billy eyelish popped up on stage like you know, as she does, she had her hood on. She was in like a full black sweat suit. And I couldn't see, you know, this was all like, I was taking a lot in. Okay. Go easy on me. There was a lot to experience. I was overstimulated. And I just saw this like black woman figure coming down. And I looked at Lana. I was like, Oh my God, is that Sunday? And like she just looked at me. She was like, no, that's a fucking billy eyelish. And we burst out laughing and it's really funny because Brody caught it on video. And then I look at him and I'm like, Oh my God, but it's just so funny because I remember looking over at Lana and I'm like, Oh my God, is that Zendaya? And she just looked at me like I was such an idiot. I don't, you know, those are just some Coachella memories that like you don't know how to explain and you had to be there. I don't know why I thought it was Zendaya. It was like a split second. Like I didn't really look. There was so much happening. I was overwhelmed. I just was like hearing these boys behind me talk about Zendaya. I thought it was Zendaya and it was billy eyelish. So that was cool. Um, yeah. So that's probably one of the top funniest moments because the whole next day, anytime I said something or anytime we saw someone Brody would just like laugh at me and say, Oh my gosh, is that Zendaya? And I was really embarrassed, but that is the funniest moment. Someone said, I've been getting a lot of questions just about like, how am I planning to get back into routine after the amazing trip I went on. And said, don't you get like super exhausted? Someone said, what are you doing to recover your energy after this amazing trip? And honestly, the first thing that I did the day that I got home was I always unpack immediately. Like no questions asked, I have to unpack. So the whole day first getting home was spent unpacking. And when I wasn't unpacking, to be honest, I was laying in bed. Like my feet were swollen. I was exhausted. I had no energy. Okay, social battery, zero. We are negative zero at this point. Okay, nothing. We are drained. And that also isn't me complaining. I just like, I want to be brutally honest of like, because whenever I see Alex Earl partying all the time, I'm just like, how the fuck is she doing this? So like my reality is that my feet were swollen. I was a negative social battery coming home and the first day I got home to replenish my energy, I simply just laid in bed and then unpacked. I made sure that I was hydrating myself. I made sure I fed myself nutritious meals. And I'm also prioritizing working out. And that really is all you can do. Like nothing, nothing extraordinary, no extraordinary measures need to be taken. If you're trying to reset after being off your routine for a bit, like just get back into it. Okay, start doing what makes you feel good. And in a couple days, you will be back better than ever. Anyway, that is my Coachella recap episode 2023. Thank you for tuning in. I hope that I was able to provide you some entertainment and insight as to what actually goes on at Coachella. And of course, thank you so much for your support. I would not be able to do any of these amazing opportunities if it weren't for you. And for that, I am forever grateful. I love you and I will see you next week.